DH really struggles with DS19 just doesn't seem to "get him" he doesn't think he pulls his weight in the house but I disagree, he will do ANY job that you ask of him but he doesn't actively seek out jobs to do and DH thinks that he should. I've told DH to speak to DS (rather than me) and ask him to wash pots, empty bins etc but he won't he just seems to get more cross about it now to the point that when we're all in the same room together the awkward silence is terrible.
DS works F/T and DH is not his dad. DS is kind, polite, hardworking, DH is a wonderful man he just has VERY high standards that are sometimes hard to meet.
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DH blanking my DS
matthancockscareer · 18/03/2024 10:31
Obeast · 18/03/2024 10:34
Are you allowing your bloke to bully your son?
TabithaTwitchel · 18/03/2024 10:34
I have the same set up - my son is 17
I would divorce my husband if he behaved like this to my child. I'm 'lucky' in that he is amazing with my son who can be a very typical teen!
Just tell him to piss off and take his high standards elsewhere. This can be so common with men who aren't the fathers of the older kids they're sharing a house with - show your son that he comes first and you don't sit back and let him be bullied in this way
Obeast · 18/03/2024 10:36
What's the silly little emoji for? OP described her man treating her son poorly, and she seems to be allowing it.
Hereyoume · 18/03/2024 10:34
Your son sounds a little lazy TBH.
Why do you have to ask him to do things?
justforthisnow · 18/03/2024 10:41
I just knew this man wouldnt be the DS dad.
As for "still putting your 17 yr old son before your husband", wow. Why wouldn't she put her child first? Thats how parenting works.
MWNA · 18/03/2024 10:42
Wot?! He's working full time and is always willing. Fuck your attitude.
Hereyoume · 18/03/2024 10:34
Your son sounds a little lazy TBH.
Why do you have to ask him to do things?
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matthancockscareer · 18/03/2024 10:44
DH is not a bully and I'm not "allowing" anything, I address this with DH. DS is oblivious to all of this btw, however like I said in my OP DS will do anything asked of him happily you just need to ask - he's not going to take it on himself to whip the vacuum around!
DH has know DS for about 6 years they've never been very close but it's definitely deteriorated recently.
Hereyoume · 18/03/2024 10:49
Because a 17 year old isn't a child.
Would you stay with a man who openly treated you as less important than their adult son or daughter?
justforthisnow · 18/03/2024 10:41
I just knew this man wouldnt be the DS dad.
As for "still putting your 17 yr old son before your husband", wow. Why wouldn't she put her child first? Thats how parenting works.
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