Professions you would never date after working with them

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I’ll start - surgeons.

One of them told me his wife was a GP -“because only one of us (him) could have a proper career”

Also - the overriding narrative that every female who complained about their outcome or consultation had “mental health issues”. They just couldn’t conceive that anyone would complain about them.

Male Doctor - nothings more important to them than their career in my experience. They also tend to have very unhealthy lifestyles. My friends' experiences of marrying male doctor's are very similar - they look after them like a child, and are responsible for everything, and are constantly let down by them.

I date people, not professions.

As soon as I saw the thread title my immediate thought was "surgeons".

Firefighters

Is there anyone left?

My Mum was friends with a woman married to a surgeon. He regularly cheated on his wife and gave her an STD.

However, I'd've considered more carefully when I was choosing (implicitly or otherwise) who to parent with, based at least partly on profession and how the family dynamic would work. Now, it wouldn't matter.

@myusernamewastakenbyme yep.

My ex (fire) is a lunatic. He might well be able to save lives but he did his best to ruin mine.

That is awful. I would like to say this happened years ago but it was only a few years ago and i don't think things have changed.

Same as my ex fiance which was after serving in Bosnia in UN peacekeeping forces. His first tour. He was normal before he went. Afterwards he was a total mess and PTSD wasn’t really a thing back then (Yugoslav war). Was one reason I called off the wedding. He’s still undergoing treatment for it now.

I was wondering that!

Maybe dustmen are a safe bet! 🤣

This is mindblowing. In the culture that I'm raised in (Pakistani), doctors and lawyers are the sought out people. The ones that some family's aspire to get married to

What's wrong with Scaffolders ?

Police, there’s a reason that officers often get together. You spend so much time together as a two you become really close and talk about everything, thus it leads to affairs etc it’s a similar with fire fighters. (Ex police who ended up with a firefighter, what a cliche!)

Snooty with suppliers too.

@Gonnagetgoingreturnsagain Think of the luckies they would bring home and they wouldn't have time or energy to have an affair! I think you are onto something

Basically from what I know about people in Pakistani culture marrying doctors and lawyers it’s because a lot of studying is involved and they’re high paying jobs.

I know a Pakistani female lawyer who’s a trained artist though and only does law as it pays more and is now fully wfh so allows her to care and be around for her adult autistic son (she’s divorced).

Cityboys and lawyers - like the sound of their own voices in my experience

Observations on senior 'professionals' I have known:
Surgeons - emotionally distant, literally start their working day by stabbing a defenceless person
Police - Commander Mark was right, a good police force locks up more criminals than it employs. Not many good ones around.
Solicitors/Barristers - a very large number would consider getting Wayne Couzens acquitted as a career highlight.
Journalists - no filter, no discretion. Happy to reveal your innermost secrets for a good byline.
Politicians - integrity bypass at birth.

No direct experience, but maybe because their most successful erections are with a team of like-minded men?

My DH was a police officer. I’m glad he’s not now for no other reason than I see him so much more and I’ve never seen his mental health so low as when he was a in that job.

Having been a teacher, I wouldn’t want my DH to be one for the same reasons as above.

Forces - similar reasons. Deployment and not seeing him wouldn’t be ok with me.

I always heard its a dangerous job so only mad guys do it, also it can involve being away from home.

Not sure what the issue with tradesman is though, to me that is too wide a category and almost a whole class (working class) of men do some kind of trade, in my experience tradesmen can be of all kinds of personality types I know many who are quite, gentle sorts. Perhaps she means they are more likely to sit down on your sofa with a screwdriver in their pocket and rip the upholstery?

I like the manual workers, easier to keep the upper hand when they're not academic types

My sympathies to anyone affected. The informal term was 'assault with a friendly weapon'. No empathy whatsoever.