What should an 8 and 13 year old wear to funeral

[seriouslygooey]

We've had a sudden death in the family. My partners uncle. I've two kids that do not own anything smart and I haven't had the chance to get them anything. What's acceptable for children at funerals

Can the 13 yo borrow something of your partners? My 14yo borrowed a suit from DH today.

School uniform maybe.

Do they have a white shirt? School trousers, white shirt, dark tie if you can find one.

Do they have school uniform trousers/skirt that they can wear with a plain jumper/cardigan?

School uniform?

School uniform is acceptable.

Boys or girls? Mine went to FIL's funeral recently, DD (10) wore a burgundy velvet dress, black tights and a black cardigan, DS (13) wore navy chinos and a navy & white small checked shirt, they both looked really appropriate.

My daughters wore their school skirts (which were black) together with a plain long sleeved t-shirt, school tights and school shoes.

Smart jeans and shirt is acceptable (mine have recently had one)

My children have worn their school uniforms which were dark blue at the time. I wanted them to look smart but also wanted them to feel a degree of familiarity which I hoped was slightly comforting to them.

Dark trousers and a neutral/dark top. They are young so perhaps might not need to be as formal. I’d aim for sombre

Unfortunately not he's tiny. I'm
Wondering do I leave them with my family ( not ideal) all he owns are jeans and sports wear. I'm not sure if dark jeans and black hoody is really horrific as I've not been to a funeral since I've had my children

What colour is their school uniform? Unless particularly bright colours the 13 year old at least could wear school uniform assuming its a shirt, tie and blazer. The younger one maybe not if its a colourful polo shirt type uniform but even dark/black jeans and a black jumper would be fine. If you have time you could get something cheaply from Vinted.

I wouldn’t be taking an 8 yr old to a funeral of your partners uncle - unless they were extremely close. Sounds very upsetting

Jeans and a sports top is fine. People don't get dressed up for funerals anymore. Especially not children

.bring your children, it is important experience nothing to be hidden

I wouldn't subject my children to a funeral for their 'step'-great-uncle?

Send them to your mum. Will be upsetting for them.

When my dad died my 3 DC wore dark jeans and a plain long sleeve T-shirt.
They looked smart but not overly stuffy and I think my dad would have approved. It was a cremation though with no church service.

@seriouslygooey why do they have to go? Were they close to your partner's uncle?
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School trousers and school shirt or smart jeans and a school shirt?

I’d be questioning whether the children need to go as well to a funeral if they don’t know the person. At a recent funeral I went to, the only young children there were the deceased person’s children. The next youngest children were sixteen years plus.

I'd send them to your mum's. You'll be better able to support your DP (who I'm assuming is probably the one closest to his uncle) if you're not worrying about your children.

I’ve just taken similar ages. School trousers and because they wear a polo shirt I’ve just bought white school shirts for the day.

they were perfectly presentable.

if it were closer family member I might have bought a smart wool type jumper to wear over the top - but they took coats on off when appropriate.

I went to a funeral all the great Grandchildren were were there in Beaver and Cub uniforms. Ideal especially as they were a scouting family

Depends on the uniform. My ds school uniform is black jogging bottoms and trainers, so in my opinion, it's not funeral attire. I don't think you can go wrong with black trousers/chinos. Navy would be OK too. Smartish shoes. Brown or black. With a long sleeved shirt. Nothing to bright. Maybe a checked shirt for a bit of pattern. No need for a tie or suit jacket. Take a coat if needed.

12 yr old granddaughter wore school trousers and a blouse to my mother’s funeral. DS used to wear his school uniform till he got a suit. No one cares what they wear. It’s not a party. People were just happy that she was there.

I went to a funeral all the great Grandchildren were were there in Beaver and Cub uniforms. Ideal especially as they were a scouting family

how incredibly weird