What should an 8 and 13 year old wear to funeral

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We've had a sudden death in the family. My partners uncle. I've two kids that do not own anything smart and I haven't had the chance to get them anything. What's acceptable for children at funerals

I'm another one backing school uniform. If child has no uniform then I'd say dark trousers, light colour shirt and smart jumper. I don't think hoodies are smart at any time.

I think that's lovely. I know some families who are very into scouts-the older members have been in scouting for 70+ years, and I can imagine them doing that.

Op. I had the situation earlier this year with 16yo ds, who doesn't do smart, and especially doesn't do trousers. We compromised on smart shorts (his school ones-black) if he wore a shirt. He was comfortable, he looked lovely and he was smarter than the immediate family who wore jeans too.

I'd go for something they're comfortable with on the bottom and something a bit smarter on the top perhaps. People don't tend to notice the bottoms if the top is smart. Maybe not ripped jeans though.

Black trousers or skirt and plain black polo shirt?

My only surviving aunt is actually my step-aunt. But I am very close to her and if the time comes I will definitely attend and I personally would love to have my child with me as a support. DD knows her as well, even with a country between them.

On the other hand, when DH's aunt passed away, DD and I stayed at home, DD hardly ever met her, we had no real contact apart from Christmas/birthday wishes and what my PIL told of her. We decided it wasn't worth getting DD out of school for several days.

Just because someone is not a blood relative doesn't mean your child is not close to a person/knows them well.

School uniform are smart trousers and shirt would be fine. I really don't think hoodies and trainers are appropriate. Some guests would see that as lazy and disrespectful. Clothing has got more causal over the years but that's just laziness.

I’d be so embarrassed to take my kids in jeans and a hoodie to any funeral. People do still get dressed up, it very much varies from family to family. Everyone wore suits, even the children to both my parents funerals.

When my FIL died, my (young adult) nephew came in jeans, hoodie, trainers and a beanie. He was also a pallbearer. And no-one gave two hoots how he was dressed, the important thing for my MIL and our family was that he was there.

Is your DP the boys father? If not, the uncle of a non-relation is a pretty tenuous link. And even if he is, then "dad's uncle" is still pretty far-fetched. Especially for an 8yo.
I've only been to the funeral of one of "parents uncle/aunties", and that was my dad's aunt. He pre-deceased her, and always called her "his favourite auntie". Plus she was particularly kind to us when he passed, so I felt an obligation to go on his behalf.

I was a child/teen when the other uncles and aunties died, and I don't think it was even considered that I'd go.

That being said, if you want them to attend, school uniform is fine. Or even just dark trousers/smart jeans with a "nice" jumper will do. No one expects kids to have much is the way of "formal wear".

When we went to my Granny's my DS was 8 and wore black jeans and a black polo shirt my 10 year old DD wore a black dress.