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Do I pull DC from school party to attend family members now booked on same day

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HereWeGoAroundAgain · 20/02/2024 08:31

Just curious as not been in this position before. One of my DC has been invited to their first school party and is super excited. It's now been announced a toddler cousin is having a party the same day. What's the right thing to do..

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123ZYX · 20/02/2024 08:32

Go to the school party - you've already accepted the invitation and it's important to build school friendships. You can always suggest meeting with the family member separately

Exasperatednow · 20/02/2024 08:33

Go to the school party. They'll miss out on the school excitement talk.

RJnomore1 · 20/02/2024 08:33

You go the one you’ve committed to and your child is excited about. And try to drop by the family one afterwards if you can.

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Lollypop701 · 20/02/2024 08:33

School party and go to toddler’s before or after if you can. Honestly she’s excited about her first school party and her friends will be all talking about it

idontlikealdi · 20/02/2024 08:33

If youve accepted the school invite you go to that.

FawnFrenchieMum · 20/02/2024 08:33

School party, apologise to family member that you have already accepted and maybe suggest soft play or tea separately if your close to them.

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HereWeGoAroundAgain · 20/02/2024 08:34

Thanks I don't think it's going to go down well with the family but I wanted to check I wasn't being unreasonable!

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DuploTrain · 20/02/2024 08:34

Go to the school party. You can see family another time. And you’ve already committed to it more importantly.

wontforget · 20/02/2024 08:37

school party

and if it was my niece or nephew… i would absolutely urge them to skip my toddlers birthday and do the school party

PurBal · 20/02/2024 08:38

HereWeGoAroundAgain · 20/02/2024 08:34

Thanks I don't think it's going to go down well with the family but I wanted to check I wasn't being unreasonable!

Is there a back story?

wontforget · 20/02/2024 08:39

HereWeGoAroundAgain · 20/02/2024 08:34

Thanks I don't think it's going to go down well with the family but I wanted to check I wasn't being unreasonable!

oh… Shame. So grateful for my little family where everyone would be excited for a child first school party rather than pissed off missing toddler family party

PuttingDownRoots · 20/02/2024 08:41

Can you get to the toddler party afterwards?

housingplanningquestion · 20/02/2024 08:41

So surprised to hear these responses! I'd prioritise the family party. Are you not keen on going to the family party?

LovedFedAndNoonesDead · 20/02/2024 08:42

Definitely the one you’ve already committed to.

something like “so sorry, we’re already out that day and can’t change it. We could pop by afterwards or the following ….. (whatever day suits you!)”

Challengedbutenlightened · 20/02/2024 08:42

Depends if they clash and how close I was with family

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HereWeGoAroundAgain · 20/02/2024 08:43

They are at the same time, and literally miles and miles apart. No back story.

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TinkerTiger · 20/02/2024 08:44

'Sorry, we already have a party on that day. We'll see you later.'

wontforget · 20/02/2024 08:44

HereWeGoAroundAgain · 20/02/2024 08:43

They are at the same time, and literally miles and miles apart. No back story.

no backstory and you think they’ll be pissed off?

kiwiane · 20/02/2024 08:46

Do what’s best for your child - school friends are important for settling in well - just say sorry they have already accepted.

OnlyFoolsnMothers · 20/02/2024 08:47

Go to the school kids party- if it’s so important for family to attend a family party, the date should be checked with the family. It wasn’t end of.

Gizlotsmum · 20/02/2024 08:47

Yep school party here. You can see family another time for late/early birthday.

MojoDojoCasaHouse · 20/02/2024 08:47

housingplanningquestion · 20/02/2024 08:41

So surprised to hear these responses! I'd prioritise the family party. Are you not keen on going to the family party?

Seriously? Prioritise a toddler’s party over their first school party that they are excited about and have already confirmed attendance? Any family members who are annoyed about this are being weird and best ignored.

OP please don’t make your DC miss their friend’s party.

Sunshineandpinkclouds · 20/02/2024 08:48

Invited DC goes to school kids party. Do you have a partner that can take your child there and stay and then you and other DC go to the family party?

boomingaround · 20/02/2024 08:49

School party a million percent. Family party might be important to you personally but your daughter will be more excited about the school one. Plus you've already accepted the school party. Often theses things cost a small fortune so it's pretty inconsiderate to let someone down when you've already accepted.

YireosDodeAver · 20/02/2024 08:50

Do you mean "school party" as in a party at school or is it the party of a school friend?

But I would go with the school party. Cousins parties are less fun because you're a stranger in a crowd of kids who see each other every day.

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