What's the latest you'd have a baby?

[worrywilma]

I'm 37 and ideally I'd like to wait another year before trying for our first baby. But I'm fully aware that time is not on my side!

My career has only just started to take off......oh to be 28 again 🥴

I know millions of people have their first in their late thirties, but I also know a lot of those people wish they had started sooner.

I'm in a pickle.

Are you aware there are no consequences to being classed as a “geriatric mother”? They don’t paint a big red G on you or something.

Sure you are only 33?

My 1st was age 22. Last 38.
I'd go for 22 over any of the others personally. Since my last I've never felt so exhausted

I'm only 33 and I wouldn't be able to bounce at all

You need to get moving

I was going to say that dd was born at quarter to midnight.... but I was 3 weeks off becoming 41 when I had her. Seemed ok at the time, but at 53 (me) and 12 (her) retirement feels a very long way off!

Last one at 39. I really wouldn't recommend it. Spent most of my 30s either trying or being pg.

They don’t paint a big red G on you or something

^

😂🍸

Stands for Gullible? Gorgeous? Gormless?

Oh no, geriatric

Hahah

Women who reach age 30 without a child -only up to 50% will ever have a child

Please don't keep putting it off

I might have to slightly clench after two kids but I can at 37. 🤣

But that would include people who never intended to have a child ( and therefore didn’t have one earlier) of which there are increasing numbers. So I don’t think you can draw anything from that stat.

46 with a 9 year old and an 8 year old.

Single working mum, full custody, negotiating divorce and peri-menopause and trying to find myself and start dating again.

It's all exhausting. I never thought I'd be here at this age. No I wouldn't have left it later.

It's over 40 not 35 that care guidelines change and had been for a very long time. I also think it's mainly relevant to first time mothers; until the contraceptive revolution, having babies into your 40s was perfectly common. The difference is women would have had their first babies much younger.

I had all 3 of mine by 27, and I agree with the pp that said it’s sort of a redundant opinion that I have now because I’m done and dusted and I’ve already got my dc.
I’m 38 now and the idea of the sleepless nights, nappies, teething, toddlerhood, etc is terrifying but that’s partly because I’ve already done it. If I’d never done it before and was still keen to then I might well still feel really up for doing it.
However I’m finding that my energy levels are lower these days unless I’m making a really conscious effort to eat/exercise as best as I can.
It’s taking a lot more effort to be spritely!

46, in the sense I had my first one at 42 , im.still incredibly fit, my family history has longevity in their genes and no medical issues like cancer, diabetes or heart disease.

I had mine 32 and 33. First one took over a year and three miscarriages to conceive, both of us are very healthy and active and didn’t expect to have any issues at all.

If I were you I would start trying now, because if you wait and then have trouble conceiving, you’ll regret not trying sooner/ when you’re younger

1st at 21, 4th at 27. Now in my early 50s and loving having a quiet house, having money to spend on luxuries, adult children to go shopping with and a career.

I am always in awe of any woman having kids in their late 30s/early 40s. I found the early years absolutely back breaking in terms of energy needed and sleep deprivation.

My cut off point was 30, mainly for health reasons though. Might have gone to 40 if I had a better heart.

In your shoes I’d be trying to get pregnant quickly. You could take years to conceive or not at all. Time isn’t on your side

It's really down to when you feel ready.

I had my first DS at 26, his dad was 50. I do worry about his dads age, im not proud of that decision, i was in the fog of a controlling and then abusive relationship. But I was, and am, a good mum at my age and DS is incredible, I could never regret it.

I'm now pregnant with my second with my new partner of the same age, we'd like a couple more, maybe a total of 3 or 4 but I'd like a 2-3 year age gap between each. We'll see how we go but I definitely don't think I'll want more after 40.

You do you, life isn't simple, we don't all get the luxury of choosing the perfect plan.

If you want them start now, everything else in life can wait but once your biological clock stops you could end up regretting it for another 40 odd years!!
Never know how long it will take you to fall pregnant and your fertility starts dropping off cliffs from around 32 .... (average obviously not all)

I decided at nearly 41to try, took a few months & had my DD at just turned 42. Haven’t found it tiring but I have nothing to compare it to. My only regret(although not even sure it is regret) is I wish I’d have done less partying & more making babies so I could’ve had 4 (or 2!) but I’m happy with what I’ve got.

Honestly I wouldn't delay if you really want them. Fertility declines on average after 35 - for some much sooner, for others much later. Some struggle to conceive at 25, others get pregnant no issues into their 40s. The crux of it is you have no idea which you'll be. Risk of miscarriage and abnormalities also increases greatly after 35. You could wait another year (38), take a year to fall pregnant (39, very normal to take a year), and give birth to first at 40. You could still not be pregnant at 39 after a year trying and going through first set of IVF at 40 wondering what would happen if you didn't delay. You could wait a year and fall pregnant first month but then you're still looking at giving birth at 39 so unless you want them verrry close in age you may not have time to have the option for another. Guess question is how much do you want to have a child? A lot? Try asap to give you best chance. My family on female line all lose their uterus around 35 due to gynecological issues and I was told I'd definitely need help conceiving so started trying by early 30s.

I have 6 kids. First one when I was 20, last one at 35!
If I do have another it will be before I am 40. I am approaching 37 so ideally would like another before then... although people tell me I am crackers for having so many but I love it. I love big families and we can afford it....we both work. And kids are.well looked after.. if I don't conceive number 7 by 39, I think I will just call it quits and just be grateful for what blessings and lovely young people we already have!