Whats the most t bitchiest comment you have ever heard?

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At work, local gov environment - we sat nattering on our desks and a colleague walked in from a client visit and wished one of my work-mates, "Congrats on your engagement

That was fine until my co-worker stuck out her hand to show of her diamond ring set in white gold I think it was.

The workmate who walked in said, "is that real." Honestly, she was being serious and had not noted what she had done by her insensitive comments

Have you got something to share that was insensitive?

I know she did. No counselling, I don't see the point.

From a friend / acquaintance who I don't really like but we have mutual friends. She was very drunk. 'You're really pretty'. Me: Thanks! Her: 'I can never work out why you have such an unattractive boyfriend'. Followed by many exaggerated versions of this, he is really really unattractive etc. That boyfriend is my DH now and I feel this comment has hung in the air ever since. We still are in the same circle occasionally.

I don't think I can read any more of these. It's one thing for acquaintances to be rude to a person, but for one's own family to do so is unconscionable. I just can't get my head around it. So abusive.

A supposedly close friend of a very long time, upon me chatting about some of the struggles involved in parenting my autistic children, waited about 20 mins then said "well. I'm going to stop at just the one child, why try again when you get perfection the first time".

Directed at me.

"Is she your baby?"

Yep.

"Oh. Well... you just see her beautiful face and then look at you with that make up and you just wouldn't add the two together, would you? Erm... nice make up by the way... It's just... well she's so lovely."

Goth Mum sitting at a bus stop with my small baby. DD is 12 now and I still wish I hadn't gone completely speechless. Should've given the cow a dressing down on her own appearance seeing as she saw fit to judge mine!

Shame you haven’t actually grown up though.

@spicedlemonpie
Please ignore some posters.
My older sister has spent her life making rude comments and being a bitch to me. One of her favourites is telling me I look like a man.
I really don't and was very attractive when younger.
I no longer take any shit from her. Just don't understand what they get out of it.

SIL met my Mums ex Stepmother (horrid lady) who at a funeral infront of many others said to SIL is she pregnant. SIL had a 1 year old and was most certainly not pregnant.
The cheek of it was also the fact ex-step was also obese and has not had a child since 1970!

@Aplaceinthecold reminds me that my mother's older sister has always been a total bitch to her (and everyone else really). She's 15 years older than my mother and was quite obsessed with being considered younger looking and more attractive than my mother (the only other girl in the family). I recall one big function (it was a 'family reunion and included all the far distant cousins you'd never met- so about 100 people or so... that side of the family were really big on that) when she had to be about 60 I guess. She behaved really oddly and practically dragged this man over and said; 'This is B my younger sister' with a heavy emphasis. The man said; Oh no... I think YOU must be the younger one'. It was so obviously a set up and I have no idea why this random distant relation went along with such rubbish.

But the kicker was when my aunt was in her 80s and had a heart attack while on holiday. My mother flew two hours to where she was and went to the hospital so she could try and help out and offer moral support. Apparently she walked into the ward and my aunt yelled out; 'What the fuck are you doing here? i fucking hate you'.

I have no idea why my mother went either- other than that she always wished her sibling relationships were different to what they were and twisted herself into knots trying to turn it into some sort of fairytale. She's still doing that to this day.

Yeah. When I lost dd’s twin my sil told me it would have been really hard work looking after twins anyway.

Not as bad as my dh, who has completely erased from memory the fact that there was a twin in the first place.

@peatblock are you still with him? I'm so sorry you lost your baby 💐❤️

A colleague's young daughter was starring in a film.
A small group work there.
I organised that we would go to see the film.
In the staff eating area I asked who would like to go.
Note the Mum of the girl starring in it was in the room. She had been low key about it.
One member of staff replied "Not me. Who'd be interested in that !"
I was utterly gobsmacked at her rudeness. As was the Mum. And the others in the room.

I should have replied to her "Jealous much ? "

My daughter was born 5.5 weeks early so not massively prem but she was also 3.5lb and I'd had a very difficult pregnancy with twice weekly growth scans. I had an EMCS at midnight because I was being prepared for induction the following morning but they said she wouldn't survive the night. Losing her was a real possibility.

The first time my mother visited 2 days later, she held her and said, "Oh, you are a tiny thing, aren't you? My colleague had a baby last week who was the same size as you and she died!"

All said in that lilting voice people use to talk to babies.

We're nc now but fuck me that is probably the worst thing anyone has said.

To clarify. It was awful all round. I know the colleague wasn't there, but it just felt like such an awfully dismissive and throwaway comment about someone else's baby loss too.

My so called good friend of 15 yrs. We had been on many happy holidays and events together.
She's 9 yrs younger.
Workmate asked my age, I cheerfully replied.
Friend gasped and said "OMG, I hadnt realised, I MUST find friends of my own age!
Stung a lot as XH had left me for OW 20 years younger, which she knew, seems being old is a crime.
She phased me out after that, still hurts.
I'm sorry for those who have been hurt by those meant to love us

I was 8 st 3 throughout my late teens and twenties.

My mother would constantly go on about how fat I was.

The truth is that I was quite curvy and she was quite Twiggy-esque.

She used to buy me clothes that were a couple of sizes to big for me as a teen and tell me that I had to wear bigger clothes because of my size and the reason I always looked so awful was because I was fat. Nothing at all to do with the fact the clothes didn't fit me.

It was also far too many years before I realised I'd been squashing myself into bras that were too small because she'd also bought my bras and told me what size I was. The same size as her incidentally. I just assumed that I had an awful body shape and my boobs were just 'wrong' and that's why my clothes and underwear never fit me properly.

People will probably wonder why I didn't realise for myself sooner but it's hard. When you've lived your whole life being criticised and told there's nothing about you that is even OK, you just accept it. Why would you be so arrogant as to assume your own mother is wrong about you?

My daughter is the same proportions now as I was then and she has a really lovely figure. I can only assume that all people who told me she was jealous over the years must have been right.

Sad thing is that it totally destroyed me and I can't see anything good about myself now.

@myown2feetaregreat that's shocking! I have friends of all ages. What a weird fucker. I hope karma bit her on the bum!

@GreyCarpet I'm glad you're NC. So tragic she's damaged you though 💐❤️

Just wondering where I put my complaint into ...3 sections not been given a tummy tuck!

Also wondering who is the "real mum" of the kids I have been feeding/watering/loving for the last couple of decades..

Other bitchy comments I've heard maybe not directed at me personally but so I can hear (and she knew I could hear), just started at a new job to her friend who was also wife of family friend, "Gonna's started today, yes she's lovely, hasn't she got stunning gorgeous hair, she looks amazing in her suit (ditched the suit after a day!)" all said with a hint of bitch.

Then I found out they were bullying to me as her PC was left open with her personal emails showing and she had to rush off because her son's GF was giving birth, saw an email exchange between her and wife of family friend saying amongst other things that I had a "lardy arse, my DM was horrible and had nasty hair etc". I had fallen out with the wife of the family friend who sometimes worked for our very small company because she was very controlling and tried to tell me what to do. Also her DH who was the original family friend showed very strange behaviour, i.e. showed photos of my mum to my brother and his wife who were visiting saying "that's my ex GF" - when my mum never was, she was only ever his platonic female friend, but he (friend) was in love with my mum!

So I got the bullying and bitchy comments for a few years then after 5 years I left. Colleague knew then that she would have to double the work as she's a lazy cow and spent afternoons drinking in pub with our boss. Would overhear bitchy comments about me upstairs in the kitchen sometimes like "who does she think she is, walking around like that?" "she loves herself doesn't she?!" etc. All spoken so I could hear and if I did come in and saw them speaking they immediately clamped up and changed subject. Bitches. Only 2 or 3 of them and including the wife of family friend who sometimes worked for us and the legal payroll person who worked there 1-2 days a month. Otherwise I worked with just the other legal PA who was nice/not nice/bitchy to me. What she could get away with. At my leaving do she must've felt remorse because she organised lovely presents for me, huge bunch of expensive flowers, champagne and I had a leaving do in a local bar where she got very drunk and corned me in the toilets to say "I'm sorry for the way I treated you" - slurring her words. I had to give a faux hug to her but thought she's maybe being bitchy/not genuine. Ugh. I left there and never spoke to them again, unless I needed references, and even then it was purely civil.

I don't understand how 8 st 3 is curvy! I agree with you though, a lifetime of criticism about looks will grind you down and affect you. Sometimes family members feel they have the right to comment on that and it's ok. when it's not. The comedian Jen Brister says "men have a different relationship with their mums than women do - with men it's kisses for my darling boy etc and to a woman - daughter it's "you look fat in that"" and that's so true!

My nana (DM's DM) used to look at my mum apparently and pull her hair up and say what can we do with this - bleach it or perm it. And then when I was in my 20s and went to see her in summer wearing a vest top and shorts and she was sick in bed (just bad back) she looked at me and said "oh look at Miss Page 3 girl" with a hint of bitchiness to it! but because she was my nana I let it slide. Both nana and DM have always been small boobed (tiny) whereas me at 7 stone already had boobs - a decent size. They made comments about it sometimes more "where does she get her boobs from, which side of family?" but not bitchy really.

Because curvy isn't always a euphemism for fat.

I had an 'hourglass' figure - so boobs, tiny waist, hips and a bum. But I only weighed 8 st 3. I had curves.

I'm 49 and 10 st now. I stil have the same proportions. I'm just bigger!

Whereas my mum was very straight up and down - no discernable waist, slim hips, smaller boobs. 'Boyish' it was called at one time!

I'm surprised noe of this has ended up i the press as some of the things that have happened are incredibly rude/nasty or worse.

It's not the right bait for the intended audience and most of it is historical. The unpaid interns whose job it is to trawl here looking for clickbait will be looking for things supposedly happening now, that either pit women against each other (weddings are a good one) or create a skirmish in the class wars.

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