Whats the most t bitchiest comment you have ever heard?

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At work, local gov environment - we sat nattering on our desks and a colleague walked in from a client visit and wished one of my work-mates, "Congrats on your engagement

That was fine until my co-worker stuck out her hand to show of her diamond ring set in white gold I think it was.

The workmate who walked in said, "is that real." Honestly, she was being serious and had not noted what she had done by her insensitive comments

Have you got something to share that was insensitive?

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I had some nice photos taken and when I was showing them to my MIL I joked that if I ever went missing I wanted DH to use one of them on the missing posters. MIL said "You'd never be found!"

Often it's not what is said . It's how it's said .

Meeting an old ex....he says.' your not as pretty as you used to be '
One work friend to another,,' Look at the size of your stomach,' and shuddered while she said it,,,Other friend replies,,'Well Brenda,,,i can lose weight but you will always be ugly '

Ex sil commenting on a gold chain i was wearing,,,'Iv got a chain like that but mine's real gold '

She had youth to blame for her rudeness. Sadly you are now older than she was but by the sounds of things no wiser.

Rude is one thing she was next level with her abortion jokes and how easy it would be to get rid she went as far as giving me abortion clinic numbers i was 5 months gone at that time.
Youth was not the blame for that kind of thing thats just spiteful.

I can imagine realising how rude the charity shop bit sounded as it was literally coming out of my mouth, and then adding 'so yours has lasted well' in a cheery-voiced and pathetic attempt to turn it into a compliment.

I often hate myself 😂

My mother watching Samantha Mumba on TV 'such a lovely girl, her mother must be so proud' 😂😂😂

Another one. I was on a video call with my friend and her husband. Friend's husband is 4 years younger than us but we're all in our thirties. I look younger than most of my friends partly due to genetics and just keeping my make up simple. My friend loves to dress up, which is ok too.

Friend's husband said to me 'Vlad you never age, you look the same all the the time' and my friend replied swiftly and sternly 'no she doesn't' 🤣🤣🤣

I don't understand either of these.

I've never understood this as an insult. I've heard people explain it as either thinking the person means 'fat' or that they're implying they look terrible the rest of the time, but it does really smack of having to scrape the barrel to be insulted. I think it's lovely when people are glowing from happiness and I hope I won't be put off telling them so (they've never seemed anything other than pleased by it in the past).

Loads from mother, you can't wear shorts with legs like that, you're built like the hippofrom fantasia and a million and one other fat shaming comments from the time I was 8 or so. I'm 43 now and still won't wear shorts or skirts above the knee. The most recent one was 3 years ago and we went clothes shopping for a job interview outfit, I am a size 14, she is a 20. She said how come you fit in all these nice clothes and I can't, you are bigger than I am! I said well obviously you are not, but it still hurts.

Someone I thought was a friend said to me the only reason I wash, put makeup on and generally look after myself is "just for men" and that I was fake because of it. I've had one 18 month boyfriend in over 10 years and don't even date! I don't talk to her after that (I told her it was hurtful and she refused to apologise, which said a lot) but it was sad that she had felt that way and not actually recognised it was just her being mean rather than based on any evidence.

I can think of a couple said to me! I'd just started a new job and a colleague said "well we all know why the manager employed you" implying I was a bimbo. I was a bit shy but I had the relevant good honours degree and experience.

Another time a man at work held up a sheet of A4 paper and said that was me as I'm skinny. I wasn't there at the time but I was told about it. Weird thing was he asked me out (I said no).

It is weird how our mothers see us, @ChishiyaBat , I was about 8 st 4 when in my late 20s/ early 30s, not at all big, and yet my mother used to say things like 'I'd get you clothes for Christmas but I don't know what size you are now, are you an 18? A 20?' Even when I was overweight in my life I was never a size 20!

Totally agree. Some really vicious people hiding behind the keyboards.It strikes me as utterly tragic you could be so wound up that you want to be sour and belittling to people you have never even met. I had a pair of posters who tried to make fun of one of my suggestions ( which I’d meant helpfully for the op) and they got seriously hysterical trying to mock it as so MC it made their day etc. I just thought how sad that the chance to insult people you’ve never even met would “ make your day “. But I realise there some who can’t get purchase on circumstances IRL so they come and hide on this kind of forum. It’s like shooting from hiding behind a rock and I think that does bring out the beeach in some who haven’t got an IRL outlet.

I know, it's weird, especially as a child, why would you give your child lifelong insecurities because of your stupid hangups! I have been everythng from a size 8-24 in my life and even at my smallest I still felt fat due to the comments I got as a child. It's so sad.

That is plain nasty! Years ago I was in a pub with my best friend at the time and she wanted me to meet X, an Australian good friend of hers who was living and working in London at the time with fellow Aussies. We met and swapped bit of conversation and I mentioned I was Virgo star sign and she said 'oh I'm the same too', then she made a comment to me either when my best friend was in the toilet or with us about 'just because we share the same sign etc doesn't mean we will get along' with a really nasty sort of sideways look at me. She turned out to be a total bitch but one of those who was rude to your back not to your face generally. Last I heard was she was studying psychiatry in Sydney. She did other things like only invited me to her wedding because everyone else was going and it'd look bad if she didn't invite me, then tried to control what I wore... I got my revenge by saying something really nasty to her in public in a VIP room just after she'd got married and was also pregnant and I have to say, I actually don't regret what I said because she'd been so nasty to me, she was very upset and her DH was angry (didn't say anything to me) but you reap what you sew, Melissa (she won't know it's her!).

I had similar from a manager I worked for when I was 23/24. We'd been to the same girls school (not private) and we talked about this but she made out she was better than me... then when I did start she made a comment once about 'we can't all be oil paintings can we Gonna?'

@Gonnagetgoingreturnsagain 😯 some strange people around!

@JayniSummers
Brilliant! Two insults for the price of one.

Oh gosh! I say this sort of thing all the time and wouldn't mean anything by it at all apart from that it has lasted well...

OK this is not from my life but I always think its so bitchy. One old Labour politician comments on a colleague Herbert Morrison, "he is his own worse enemy. " Ernie Bevin snaps "Not while I'm alive he's not. " all labour cabinet rank comrades. I like it because it's funny. I have used it alot and pretended it's my own work a few times.

DH's brother is the golden child. He;s also a sociopathic arsehole. About 20 years ago he fucked off to Thailand (and long may he stay) and we and my SIl and other BIl think it's because he was running from some stuff here where he behaved rather nastily.

Since 2005 every year we had PIls stay for a week over Christmas. (Plus all the other times ... but Christmas was the big one). MIL and PIL would lament why golden child never rang them. When they were hideously unwell- never rang.

Never saw MIl when she was in her final illness although we rang him and gave him plenty of notice. Did not come or for her funeral.

The last Christmas we had with FIL on Christmas day he said to DH; 'I was always so disappointed in you you only got a degree from Newcastle university. It was so embarrassing I'd rather you worked in a shop. [xx] (golden child) at least he went to Oxford'.

FIl then became very unwell and passed away. We told golden child and again he refused to come. he came for the funeral- left early, went into FIL's house and emptied the contents of the safe and took all the valuables.

Yep... THAT was the son to be proud of apparently.

I am old enough to have taken the 11-plus examination here in Wales back in the day.
I was lucky enough to pass and my parents and grandparents managed to get the money together for the uniform and all the things I needed.

I was a very, very shy only child, plump and wore glasses, loved reading above all else.

I was never the most skilful seamstress so I was undoing my embroidery in the year 6 class in the last term of primary school, when the teacher said to me, "Why they have wasted a grammar school place on you, I will never know! You will never make anything of yourself"

I was devastated and so scared of starting secondary school after that. I have felt like an impostor all my life. (As an adult daughter of an alcoholic, it's quite common.)

So Mrs Holly in your real fur coat with your sour puss face I hope Karma got you in the end.

PS I have a degree now and have supported so many people at university, using my experience to build learners up not knock them down.

Oh come on Vlad: you’re hardly the victim in that one. If anyone was insensitive it was the DH. Your poor friend ! Noone wants their DH chatting up their friend.

And are you sure had didn’t mean “no she doesn’t ever age.”?