Whats the most t bitchiest comment you have ever heard?

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At work, local gov environment - we sat nattering on our desks and a colleague walked in from a client visit and wished one of my work-mates, "Congrats on your engagement

That was fine until my co-worker stuck out her hand to show of her diamond ring set in white gold I think it was.

The workmate who walked in said, "is that real." Honestly, she was being serious and had not noted what she had done by her insensitive comments

Have you got something to share that was insensitive?

@Calliopespa 😂😂😂 we're all friends so not like he was chatting me up. My friend is stunning and she was a runner up in a beauty pageant at uni. We've known each other since 2006 in uni and I think she got fed up of hearing people say it. Her mum and aunt always comment on 'how young I look' so maybe I deserve it. But I wasn't upset just amused, we're still friends so no harm done 😂

@GoodHeavens99 my mother would like a daughter that made her proud meaning she's not proud of me. Hence the Samantha mumba comment.

Friend didn't like her husband complimenting me as she's used to getting compliments and she still does. I'm 6 months older so maybe that's why she reacted that way. Regardless, I'm not bothered and we're still friends. I find it funny every time I remember it.

It's insensitive because it is implying the OP is larger than she was, and there must be a reason for being fat.

What would have been more appropriate would have been to say that baby was gorgeous, asked the new mother how she was, and left it at that.

I notice people seldom feel the need to tell men that they're fat or have let themselves go, etc.

You don't? Well, come to me right after you've had a baby so I can tell tell you how fat you are, because that's exactly what a postpartum woman needs to hear.

With the second woman, it was at a company where they did memberships for music which was bought and sold etc. This woman’s mum was a manager there so they thought they were “it”. The same story continued with the nepotism with family members. After 3 months I had a probation meeting and my manager was harsh, so harsh that I was upset and my colleagues couldn’t understand it as they thought my work and me were fine. I left and got another job and on the day I was leaving her PA who was supposedly her best friend and the manager was godmother to her child, drew me to one side and said she was leaving as her DH had a job which required him to move. She said she’d never really liked T (manager) but had had to be friendly with her because of work! I just left and let them get on with it!

Actually yes. This thread is depressing. I admit as a teenager I was bitchy and talked/gossiped with friends about others. But I was a shy girl when younger and teased for wearing glasses and didn’t stand up for myself. At 12 years old I was allowed to ditch my glasses and just wear for tv and reading and my long mousey dark blonde hair was cut into a Princess Diana layered bob and I was bought trendy clothes by DM. It was the classic ugly duckling turning into a beautiful swan (not saying I was beautiful by any means!) but I did get attention from boys and girls were in competition for them and some liked me, some didn’t. I think I was bitchy to overcompensate for feeling ugly as a child. I really try not to be bitchy and say nice things about people rather than unkind things, but I’m not perfect no one is!

I actually found if quite funny and I think it was probably meant in a cheeky kind of way rather than bitchy.

For a while I had what was once upon a time regarded as a men's job. I still wore make-up, nails done etc, but FIL, seeing me carrying my toolbox said "Oh yeuch, you're just like a bloke aren't you?"
Another gem was "You're looking very mumsy these days" said very disapprovingly. I was only 30-ish.

And a former work colleague telling me I shouldn't be buying a bacon roll as I was getting very tubby. Only 7 months pregnant.....

Went into a shop selling beauty products. Sales assistant came over and said 'are you looking for something to cover those dark circles under your eyes?'

Umm no, I wasn't.

That's horrendous! So sorry you had to put up with those kinds of comments from a young age.

This is the worst! I am so sop sorry for your loss. What a truly nasty person your brother's girlfriend is. I hope it is his ex girlfriend.

This is outing but I don't care as mil has burnt her last bridge with me.

I slipped a disk in my back when pregnant which led severe scoliosis (and acute horrific pain for my entire pregnancy and first year of my daughter's life. ), said to me at my daughter's christening after the first painful spinal surgery "you look better now at (life event) you looked like a hunchback". It took so much bravery for me to go out into the world looking like that and she confirmed my worst nightmare of what everyone must have been thinking.

Told me when I had the screening tests all woman have in pregnancy, that she was sure I would have a high chance for down syndrome because I’m 'old' (39) and went on and on about her friend who had a disabled child when they were older and it ruined their life and she thought it would have been better if she had an abortion when getting pregnant at that age. When my results came back as very very low risk, said she then was surprised as I’m so old (had to repeat that gem again) that my pregnancy wasn’t high for down syndrome.

During my previous two pregnancies which both ended in miscarriage said a variety of nasty comments such as "it is just cells at that stage" (It was 12 weeks and I'm Catholic and don't believe this, she knows that she just hates my faith), also said "everything happens for a reason", well gee thanks...

Telling me when I was pregnant with my daughter that I was weird and ruining it for them when I didn’t want to announce before the second scan. Told me she didn’t like ‘lying to her friends and wanted to enjoy the attention" like her friends with pregnant daughters. Both pil went on and on about his friends kids announcing before 12 weeks and why wouldn't I. Caused enormous stress, it was none of her business and not her medical info to share. (And very sadly their friend's daughter miscarried that pregnancy, which they then gleefully told me about. Exactly why I didn't want people to know which that lot of vultures dissecting their friends sad news like gossip on coro).

I've now gone no contact with her. I did try and get my partner to talk to her about her behaviour over the years so she had a chance to rectify it but he said she had an empathy chip missing and no ability to think about anyone except herself.

Good on you for distancing yourself! Self care should always be top priority.

Thank you, I made sure I never said anything like that to any of my children because it really affected my self esteem and still does really.

Sorry that one's quite funny

@ChishiyaBat that's horrible what a bitch. Are you NC now? 💐
Have you taken a pic of yourself in a skirt waist down so you can see there's nothing wrong with you? Or get someone else to do it?

No I am low contact though. My legs are gross now though, not when I was a child, but definitely now. I wore a dress last summer and my daughter took a picture of me playing with my granddaughter on the beach and they looked disgusting so I will never wear shorts or a dress/skirt above knee length ever again.

@ChishiyaBat am so sorry to hear that. I'm sure what you were told as a child is colouring your view though. I hope you have lovely people in your life now.

Oh for sure, i've never had any self confidence in how I look, I detest the sight of myself, but i've learnt to deal with it over the years. I do have a wonderful family and friends. Thank you so mich for your kind words.

@ChishiyaBat she's done that you. I have a close friend who won't have photos taken because of things her exdh said. I hope you have had some counselling?

They were implying I didn't look "right" and still pregnant.Would you say that to a post partum woman? If so then you're no better than they were

I'm sure your granddaughter didn't mind in the slightest.

@NoOrdinaryMorning how about it’s never appropriate (or kind) to pass comment on other people’s bodies 🙄

@ChishiyaBat that’s an awful thing for a mother to say to a daughter! I hope you’ve healed now.

I recall a girl I met when I was 11/12 at secondary school who was bullied by her mum saying bitchy comments in her childhood. They would then say nasty comments to you. I accused the daughter correctly of bullying me at school then I left that school. Her mum and her one day saw me out shopping and carrying two bags of heavy shopping. Mother and daughter both sniped at me “oh look there goes Lady Bountiful”. I was 16 ffs at the time and doing shopping for my DM who was unwell. The daughter didn’t say anything when by herself. Daughter still hasn’t changed years later at 51 but thinks because she’s done dance, yoga, therapy and something called soul plan healing that she’s a reformed character. Sadly I can see right through her. Did give her a chance to make amends.

Bitchiness I find though in my case and hearing it is and saying it is doen to insecurities in that person.