Whats the most t bitchiest comment you have ever heard?

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At work, local gov environment - we sat nattering on our desks and a colleague walked in from a client visit and wished one of my work-mates, "Congrats on your engagement

That was fine until my co-worker stuck out her hand to show of her diamond ring set in white gold I think it was.

The workmate who walked in said, "is that real." Honestly, she was being serious and had not noted what she had done by her insensitive comments

Have you got something to share that was insensitive?

It’s referencing an episode of Real housewives of Beverly Hills LVP is an acronym of Lisa vanderpump a very rich British former actress and now business owner.

Bravo Bunny! Its great you’ve turned it round to good use - but that was an appalling thing to say to a child. Fwiw clever people are often crap with thise sorts of tasks. I just wish I’d been the voice in your ear to have prompted you to say: “ funnily enough they didn’t think to assess our sewing skills for grammar school.” ( nothing wrong with seeing btw all you seamstresses: my GM was a beautiful seamstress and I really admired her skill. But it isn’t a typical academic path,)

This thread has validated what I have mused about for a long time, I never experienced as much bitchiness in life than when I was pregnant. Something to do with misogyny, internalised misogyny, psychopaths targeting someone at a vulnerable time and just plain jealousy maybe? It seems to be a common experience for women.

I got pregnant at 23, from a brief relationship. I'd been having a rough time and had had an eating disorder and mental health issues. Getting pregnant actually made me get my shit together but when I told an old 'friend' that I was pregnant she actually said 'Do you even know who the father is?' - of course I did, I wasn't sleeping around I just had to leave him when he pushed a wardrobe on top of me when he found out I was pregnant! I found this a bit rich coming from someone who was having a long term 'relationship' with someone who got engaged, married and had a child with his live in partner, whilst he was having an affair with the friend and she got offended when I pointed out that her moralising was a bit hypocritical.

I was also walking down the street in Leeds city centre, heavily pregnant, when an inebriated, toothless homeless man smiled benevolently at me and then said 'Aren't pregnant women ugly?' as if he was in any position to comment on anyone's looks!

Argh that reminds me - I had that exact comment from my NCT group Leader!
As I stood there stunned she followed up with: 'Never mind, perhaps you'll get it right next time'. We'd had IVF (which she knew). Awful woman.

You should have said to him:”is that your excuse?”

On a works night out, one colleague has put on some weight recently. The manager said "look at the state of that". She thought she was in a safe place to say it, but everyone told everyone (although not the person it was aimed at)

Gave birth to my youngest son at home.All went well, no stitches and a fabulous midwife.Ex (fat) friend, no kids, told another friend, "she must have a fanny like a bucket".No, I don't.Cheeky cow.

That's just our and out rudeness. I'm sorry you had to put up with that.

Actually if it makes you feel better I think breast milk is much sweeter. One of mine has always had a sweet tooth and hated it as a alternative.

The comeback had to be - no, because not all of us shag dogs.

Oh Feliciacat, my heart breaks for the little six year old you, what an absolute twunt of a so called mother good decision on going nc with 'it'.
I hope you are living your best life now. (((hugs)))

A good (twiddled about with) 'Your Mum' comment usually brings them back down to earth, cos they (always, always) 'were only joking'. 🤨

Yeah, so was i!

I feel your pain but it must be worse to be her. Imagine saying that.

After my particularly traumatic miscarriage. My ex DP father said "I don't know what you're going about, the woman across the road has had 13 miscarriages." What made it worse they had thought I'd had a partial molar pregnancy, I'd even been told my baby was still alive before being sent for an ultrasound them having to fight for one only to be told then there was no heartbeat.

I had to be admitted and after me losing the baby I was in a maternity room, a heavily pregnant woman was walking past the door and my ex dp said "how sexy does she look?"

Looks like father and son were a nasty pair of bastards.

I had something similar from my mum, who seems to think I have bad skin because I don't take care of it.

She said her heart broke when she looked at other girls my age with perfect skin, and then looked at me.

I was stunned into silence.

I do everything I can to take care of my skin. Everything either hasn't worked/doesn't suit me/is too dangerous for me to take. I have come to terms with looking like I do, but comments like that really upset me.

I love that!

SIL to Me - ‘Oh I LOVE your necklace, where’s it from? Oh actually don’t tell me, I’ve promised your brother I will stop buying any old tat’.

Ouch.

And when my brother met my premature baby for the first time, he laughed and said she looked like Gollum - they are well suited tbh.

New mum joined the school, Army officer’s wife, quickly head of PTA etc. Asked if I would help, which I did, at events, with the accounts, even bloody babysat. I’m really cripplingly introverted so it takes a lot for me to ‘put myself out there’ but I did. After a year or two her family left the school and one of her friends invited me to a surprise farewell meal, around 6 of us. I was too shy for that but agreed to go for a drink. In she came said hello to everyone then muttered to me “what are you doing here?” I mumbled I wasn’t staying and went and cried in my car.

Another ‘friend’ wrote a letter to me saying she didn’t know why we were friends and how boring I was.

A nut job screamed in my face in the street that I should have my (4 year old twins) kids taken away because I clearly wasn’t feeding them. They were perfectly normal healthy sizes.

A guy walked up to me at Twickenham and sneered “you think you’re really gorgeous don’t you?” WTF I was just scanning a crowd for my DH!

I sometimes think I give off ‘say whatever you like to me’ vibes

God this thread is really depressing! People are awful feel like I need to go out & spread some joy to balance it out and restore the faith humanity! 😅

I know!

Some comments you could possibly excuse by perhaps someone engaging gob before brain, or trying to be funny. But then others are just pure evil. The spiteful mothers comments are the most upsetting. I'm so sorry for anyone on the receiving end of what's clearly verbal abuse.

College lecturers discussing class in department office. Manager said to me well you’re middle class as a senior lecturer. Never been so insulted in my life, I’m working class. Always have been, always will be.

I don't get how this is insensitive? Of course you'll still have a little bump after having a baby? Sobbing uncontrollably is a massive overreaction

"Comment" and "teeth" are only bits of that post I understand!

Oh sorry: hated formula as an alternative!