We bumped in to OW

[Loomy]

I posted a while back that I found out then DP had cheated. We subsequently broke up except 6 months later he wore me down and caught me at a low ebb and suggested we went for a walk. I agreed as I needed to get out the house. We were walking and ex suddenly said oh look at that dog etc to which I looked at the dog and then at his face puzzled as he hates dogs. Then to where he was looking, and a woman walked past with an elderly person and made a kind of goldfish action. Like she was going to speak to ex and didn’t, then to me and didn’t and carried on walking at which point ex start rambling about the dog in a high pitch voice and I just knew. I said that’s her isn’t it? He said yes and was laughing and acting all silly and weird.
Part of me wanted to run after her and out what they did in front of her mum and screaming how fucking dare you.
Instead I settled on swearing at ex until I reached my car whilst secretly wishing I wasn’t so passive and had yelled at her too!

Are you ok?

I went from sweary to completely numb in about 5 minutes. I just came home and sat looking at the walls. It was strange. It’s only now I can say it out loud. I don’t know how I feel. In some ways it was like divide intervention making sure I didn’t go back there. It’s hard not to compare myself with her etc.

I would call that a sign from the universe and never give him the time of day ever again/

I'm not a big believer in fate or signs, but this sounds like a big flashy neon sign saying "don't take him back" (and a story that you will, in time, be able to laugh about).

Did this just happen? Well a least it reminded you got rid of him

This is no way to live your life.

It's nothing to do with her. Take your anger out on him and forget about him.
the best revenge is to be happy and a life well lived

This is a small glimpse of what your life will be like if you get back with him.

Him insulting her like that speaks volumes too.

Take this as a massive kick up the rear and stick to your guns about staying away from him.

I don’t know, her seeing you with him will have totally fucked with her head. So much better than yelling at her. She’ll be over thinking it for weeks. Take it as a sign op, time to move on.

He sounds revolting.

Take your anger out on him. What a prick

Am I understanding this correctly? Did he drag you out for a walk specifically so you could bump into the OW? What was the point of that?

Or was it a coincidence?

Either way he sounds like a knob and you're well rid . OW deserves him.

Yes this is what I was thinking

Yes it happened today. He said it was a coincidence and I believe him from how uncomfortable he clearly was.
Sorry I don’t think I was clear, they was a doodle type dog running around and he tried to distract me with that so I wouldn’t see her.

OK, so you’re not getting back together with him?

As hurtful as it is the OW is not the one you should be mad at. She didn’t lie to you and betray your trust.

Sounds like you have had a lucky escape - would you really want to spend the rest of your life looking over your shoulder, checking his pockets and phone and wondering if you can ever trust him again

Why be angry at her? She hasn't broken broken any promises she made to you. I hope this has reminded you why you are not going to resume life with him.

Too much of a coincidence. Is he trying to make her jealous?!

So you haven’t been out with him in 6 months. You had no clue who she was or what she looked like.

But today he managed to convince you to go out with him. He spotted her and tried to distract you from her by pointing out her dog? Even though you probably wouldn’t have even given her a second thought if he hadn’t?

It’s a complete coincidence? And he actually drew your attention to her?

I would be thinking it’s far too much of a coincidence.

No not her dog, just a random dog on the park.
The fact she was with someone, her mother, makes me think it’s unlikely she came on his say so.
No I’m not getting back with him. It was the wake up call I needed. I stupidly thought enough time had passed that we could be friends, go for a walk and a brew no issues.
Those saying don’t be angry at her, she knew about me, she knew my DM died shortly before and she knew I had kids. Of course I’m angry at her, for treating another woman like this. How are we ever going to stop men behaving like pigs if there’s women like this who would stick a knife in a random stranger for a quickie, and I mean a quickie!

To be fair op, you don’t know what he told her about your relationship or her own life. Few women get with a bloke who says hey I love my wife and our sex life is great. Mostly they tell them it’s over. Has been for a long time, just sharing the house for the kids etc.

Er, the men stopthemselves ffs

@Getthethrowonthesofa I told her myself, to which she was nasty back. I would never be with a bloke who told me it was ‘over’ etc.

I would never do that to another woman. Likewise I fleetingly thought about tearing a strip (verbally) off her but thought better of it and directed it solely at ex but it didn’t stop me going home and thinking I wish I’d confronted her too. But I’m sure if I had I’d be at home now wishing I hadn’t and worrying about that instead. Likewise I’m trying not to think about what she looked like and why he’d go there etc.

Op, were you hoping to get back with him?

look, your husband is to blame here, and if you need to rely on other women saying no, to keep your husband faithful then , that’s not good really is it.

and again, you don’t know what he said to get her to sleep with him. It is seldom I love my wife etc.

@Toadstool1985 totally. Your right. But women need to stop putting up with this shit and knifing each other. But that’s another story.