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Firecrest19 · 10/02/2024 15:10

Hi,

my partner and I are trying to figure out where to move to and we are so confused! We just keep going in circles and then feeling really defeated. So I was wondering if MNetters of the uk could recommend your area or an area you know that might work for us…

I hope we don’t come off too badly here… I get really nervous posting questions like this!

I’ll try to keep it brief, but this is our situation:

we’re late 30s, have two under 5s, we’re academic, work in education/ arts and I think we’re in that “middle earners” bracket, we’re first time buyers and our budget is about 700,000. Both dp and I are neurodivergent, we currently live in a nice part of north London and have found the city more accessible than the countryside, where we both grew up. We love the culture in London: galleries, independent cinemas, etc and the huge choice of ways to spend time. We like the idea of raising our children here.

that said, we love the countryside and go there a lot at weekends and for holidays. I grew up on a farm and loved that aspect of childhood. I always thought I’d move back when I had children. Part of me would like my children to grow up there. Our budget also goes further and the places we can afford often seem a lot nicer.

we can’t stay living where we are for much longer as our rental is tiny and once we go we are totally priced out of our current area.

Our criteria is typically impossible to fulfill: we want to be walkable to wild feeling green space, have good state schools nearby, have an interesting high street or town centre within 15 minutes drive or walk (bookshops, cinemas, cosy pubs, swimming pool). We would like to be able to commute into central London once a week for work and at weekends a couple of times a month as a family (although this isn’t essential). We’d like to be within a three hour drive of Bristol for family. We’d like to live somewhere fairly pretty. Good transport links for the children as they get older.. we’re after a 3 bed with a garden. A drive way would be a huge pro. And we’d like to fit in. Where we live at the moment is very pretty, but we’re surrounded by the mega wealthy and have found it hard to make friends.

I fully realise we’re asking for a lot and we will have to compromise.

Id just love to hear some positive stories of people like us who have managed to find “home”

we’re open to all parts of London and the surrounding countryside. We’ve also looked further afield including Cornwall and Cumbria.

thanks in advance 🙂

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Wowzel · 10/02/2024 15:12

We lived in NE London and are now in Reading, really happy there!

Greensleevevssnotnose · 10/02/2024 15:13

East Grinstead, uckfield, Lewes

FrederickTrottersville · 10/02/2024 15:14

Gillingham Dorset and surrounding areas. Station with London trains, outstanding state schools. 700k would buy you the house of your dreams in that neck of the woods

Dacadactyl · 10/02/2024 15:14

Edges of the peak district might suit? You could get into either Nottingham/Derby or Manchester easily enough and lovely countryside still.

Autumn1990 · 10/02/2024 15:18

Parts of york

HowDoYouSolveAProblemLikeMyRear · 10/02/2024 15:18

Dorking would fit your criteria, or the surrounding villages.

-you could afford what you're looking for on your budget in town or in one of the villages
-good train links to London

  • the town centre is beautiful and has a cinema, leisure centre, a couple of bookshops, two dozen cafés, nice pubs there and in the countryside
  • it's friendly and there's lots of clubs etc for children and youngsters in Dorking itself and some in the surrounding villages.
-the bus services into Dorking from the villages are variable, depending on which village, but they aren't bad for non-London South-East -the town is on the edge of the Surrey Hills area of outstanding natural beauty, and has Box Hill on one side and Denbies Vineyard on another. Lots of green spaces walkable from the town centre as well as a big park, and way more within a 15 minute drive -within 3 hours of Bristol (I think).
DyslexicPoster · 10/02/2024 15:18

Haslemere or anywhere Guildford way. But your money won't go as far as other places. You'd get your 3 bed within budget

EducatingArti · 10/02/2024 15:21

Have a look at Stroud in Gloucestershire

distinctpossibility · 10/02/2024 15:23

Belper in Derbyshire, though it can be about 3.5 hours to Bristol at popular travelling times, it's usually 2 h 45ish. The high street is a proper one with a range of cuisines including vegan etc and a couple of large supermarkets. Schools mostly well regarded. Swimming pool which I think is council run. 25 mins drive to Derby with trains taking 90 mins from there into St Pancras, or 15 mins on the train to Derby as Belper does have its own train station too. Easy access to Sheffield / Notts too.

Derby is one of the cities with the most ND people (probably due to historically having huge engineering companies like Bombardier and Royces with roles that suit people who thrive on order, routine)

https://www.rightmove.co.uk/properties/142087316#/?channel=RESBUY this is about a 20 minute walk from town centre / station.

Check out this 4 bedroom detached house for sale on Rightmove

4 bedroom detached house for sale in Wood View, Crich Lane, Belper, Derbyshire, DE56 for £650,000. Marketed by Fletcher and Company, Duffield

https://www.rightmove.co.uk/properties/142087316#/?channel=RES_BUY

LlynTegid · 10/02/2024 15:26

Look at parts of West Sussex I suggest.

CircleofWillis · 10/02/2024 15:31

Not impossible in East London. This is close to your budget.

www.rightmove.co.uk/properties/144297509#/?channel=RES_BUY

icallitasplodge · 10/02/2024 15:33

If you’re in north London, you’ll go to Essex or Hertfordshire. It’s the standard route taken by all north Londoners looking for “countryside” for centuries 🤣

With that budget I’m predicting you’ll look everywhere and then “settle” on Loughton.

frozendaisy · 10/02/2024 15:38

Why not Bristol?

LonelyMom123 · 10/02/2024 15:38

Staffordshire/ Midlands?

Spagb0l · 10/02/2024 15:39

I live in Farnham, Surrey OP and it ticks all of your boxes.

jollygreenpea · 10/02/2024 15:40

CircleofWillis

The price of that and it's horrible. 😦

GalileoHumpkins · 10/02/2024 15:42

CircleofWillis · 10/02/2024 15:31

Not impossible in East London. This is close to your budget.

www.rightmove.co.uk/properties/144297509#/?channel=RES_BUY

That's a really overpriced dump.

WoahWannaDanceWithNoBody · 10/02/2024 15:44

Yes. You'd fit in in most of the UK with that criteria.

catchingzzzeds · 10/02/2024 15:45

Winchester?

WoahWannaDanceWithNoBody · 10/02/2024 15:45

icallitasplodge · 10/02/2024 15:33

If you’re in north London, you’ll go to Essex or Hertfordshire. It’s the standard route taken by all north Londoners looking for “countryside” for centuries 🤣

With that budget I’m predicting you’ll look everywhere and then “settle” on Loughton.

And then complain it's nothing like London

Floralnomad · 10/02/2024 15:46

I always recommend Kent as it really has it all - countryside , beaches , close to the continent and easy to get into London . I’d also look around the South Downs area

AquariusAquarius · 10/02/2024 15:50

Look for areas around Hitchin (and surrounding villages) and Letchworth Garden City.

Matches the majority of your wish list.

icallitasplodge · 10/02/2024 15:50

WoahWannaDanceWithNoBody · 10/02/2024 15:45

And then complain it's nothing like London

Smaller budget might have meant Chelmsford. Or Harlow but the OLD TOWN - stress on OLD ie I don’t live in a new built!

WoahWannaDanceWithNoBody · 10/02/2024 15:51

icallitasplodge · 10/02/2024 15:50

Smaller budget might have meant Chelmsford. Or Harlow but the OLD TOWN - stress on OLD ie I don’t live in a new built!

I really think Harlow should be on their list, perhaps maybe even Canvey Island and Tilbury at a stretch?

Snowsp · 10/02/2024 15:52

Middle earners but have 700k budget as a first time buyer? I think you need to re evaluate your idea of middle earners.

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