Do you take valentines serious ?

[chychyete]

Hi ladies just wanted to know if other women or men take Valentine's Day serious like do you love when your partners do something for you even if it's just a nice cooked meal or flowers or taking you out.

Reason asked my boyfriend said to me today why do I keep asking about what we are doing for Valentine's Day it's only a one day thing and i'm being annoying he's not interested in that and it's something he's not interested in bare in mind I don't usual get nothing for him anyway lol so I take Valentine's Day as a nice occasion that we both can do for each other as im a big gifter and feel good when I give others stuff I even get my mum something for Valentine's Day some flowers

God no, it makes me cringe to sit in a line of people at tables for 2 all being 'romantic' to a formula. Last time I did anything I was 19 and still in love with the idea of being in love. I'm thrilled that this year it's parents evening for the night (secondary school so can take about 3 hours), avoids my mum asking what we're doing.

I never realised it's compulsory if you celebrate Valentines to go out for a meal and, of course, you must go to one that has a special Valentines menu (plenty don't).

You could have a takeaway or cook a nice meal or, of course, it doesn't have to involve food!

Why do you need one day a year to tell someone you love them?

I don't like the conveyer belt feel of eating out in restaurants on Valentine's Day, but I do think it's nice to mark it and put in a little effort. DH and I still exchange cards and have a nice meal at home. And when the restaurants are a bit quieter, we do go out for a meal.
I guess it can feel a bit 'going through the motions' when there's a set day - you might not be feeling too particularly romantic, if you've got other things going on to worry about.
And I think it causes pressure in younger people and some social anxiety around their popularity.
But I do think it's nice for people in relationships to make some effort.

I love that you do this! A great example for your girls.

I'll stealth a card and some cheap pink or red sweets like haribo strawbs on to his bedside table once he's asleep. Then enjoy the slap up meal out he has to pretend he was definitely already planning mwahaha

"God no, it makes me cringe to sit in a line of people at tables for 2 all being 'romantic' to a formula."

You're going to the wrong places 🤣 that sounds fucking awful. We take the kids anyway, if they get wind we're off out for a curry without them they sulk

I think when you first get with someone you always seem to make more of an effort with things like Valentines but after a while it kind of seems pointless. My partner and I have been together 10 years, if he remembers that its valentines day he'll buy me a cheap bunch of flowers and I'll cook us a meal but thats about it.

No, but my girlfriend does like these things, so I make myself get into it

Nope it's just a day for retailers to sell
Overpriced tish

Just a ruse by retailers! No we don't do anything though I have picked up a supermarket meal deal in the past. If I'm lucky I get a card. No biggie after the first year

We've always given eachother a card and bought a small treat, ie small box choccies or DH might get me some flowers. We tend to have a nice easy meal in the evening, but chose something we both really enjoy. This year, I happen to be off work so I think we're going to the local for lunch.

Our parents always did something similar, so I guess it's carried on. It's an excuse to have a bit of fun, treat eachother for us.

This year we are going out in fact - with dsd, we'll be heading for a really romantic meal at ... McDonald's . With all the 12 year olds

You don't. Hopefully you tell them every day but why not give them a card or small present on Valentines?

I think it's sad that couples start off being romantic and then ditch it. I guess me and DH are just pretty romantic as we still celebrate the day we met which is now 44 years ago.

We both make a big thing of each other's birthdays and our wedding anniversary. We also buy each little gifts throughout the year if we see something we know the other would like, surprise each other with nights/weekends away, meals out etc

We're going out for dinner, exchanging cards and presents
I like any excuse for a celebration

we go out for an extra nice dinner but never on the actual day as it's always a set menu & you get rushed through your meal

Why do so many posters insist that all restaurants have a special menu for Valentines? Many restaurants don't.

If we eat out we will almost always eat in an indian restaurant. In my experience it is pretty unusual for them to have a special Valentines menu.

Quite a few other restaurants in our area don't have special menus either - couple of italian restaurants, a chinese restaurant and quite a few others

I do have rather fond memories of a valentines day with my DH that we didn’t realise was a special day. FIL randomly offered to babysit one night so we headed into town for a meal and it took a while to twig it was a ‘special occasion’ as everywhere was packed. Still we nabbed a table and by bonfire night FIL had a 2nd grandchild 🤣

Because the ones local to me do, I actually looked them up view the menus & decide which to go to

We mark the day with cards, small gift and a meal out. No odd menus though as it's usually a curry or tapas. I also give a card and chocolates to our three kids from the cat 😬

Cheesy and a bit Ick, it's ridiculous

What all of them? Seems unlikely

Would you like me to send you my address & a little map as you clearly have nothing better to worry about?

I don't take it seriously at all.

Income for card manufacturers, florists, chocolate makers and restaurants in between Christmas and Mother's Day.