Do you take valentines serious ?

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Hi ladies just wanted to know if other women or men take Valentine's Day serious like do you love when your partners do something for you even if it's just a nice cooked meal or flowers or taking you out.

Reason asked my boyfriend said to me today why do I keep asking about what we are doing for Valentine's Day it's only a one day thing and i'm being annoying he's not interested in that and it's something he's not interested in bare in mind I don't usual get nothing for him anyway lol so I take Valentine's Day as a nice occasion that we both can do for each other as im a big gifter and feel good when I give others stuff I even get my mum something for Valentine's Day some flowers

No it's a waste of money. We will have a nice dinner and watch a movie same as every other Wednesday

No, never been into it. It's pretty meaningless.

We do a card and nice at home meal together. It's always lovely, and forces us to sit down together which is difficult in a busy household. I don't understand the comments of no, I'm not 5, 12 or a teenager, trying to make out like other women are insecure or pathetic is just plain nasty. Most women I know like to get a little card and some flowers!

Not really, it’s just plastic tat. More recycling.

DH used to get me flowers then I found out how much they cost. Ridiculous! So we just get a meal deal, glass of wine, film.

😂 me neither! Cards and lunch out though….❤️

Well me and DH celebrate and have done for 44 years. I can assure you neither of us are insecure in our relationship.

I can never understand why those who don't celebrate it (and there is nothing wrong in that) have to sneer about it being for children, means tacky presents and tell us all that they show love every day so don't need to be told to on that day.

We too show love to each other every day. We tell each other that we love them every day. We quite often buy little gifts for each other if we see something we know they would like. DH often buys me flowers but will also surprise me with a book, a cd, a dvd, a pair of earrings or just a bar of my favourite chocolate.

We like getting each other a card for Valentines and most years buy a small gift but, believe it or not, we can manage to buy a gift that is not tacky!

Sometimes we go out for a meal and manage to go to a restaurant that has not put its prices up for the day, sometimes we cook a meal at home, sometimes we get a meal deal. Some years we have gone away for the night or couple of nights.

We celebrate our birthdays, our wedding anniversary and the day we met. Nothing wrong with being romantic.

Hahaha some people just love to piss on every bit of joy.

No I don't massively believe it valentines but it's an excuse to celebrate, do something nice etc, why ever not celebrate?

Fair enough if he's not bothered but if it's important to you, he should be making the effort. And more effort in general too.

No. Might have got some chocolates back in the day but no we didn't need one special a year.

It’s Mumsnet though! ‘We don’t need a special day blah blah…’ soon it’ll be ‘Do you decorate for Easter…’ ‘Decorate for Easter!! Is this a thing now??’ ‘I didn’t get a thing for my birthday’ ‘I pay no attention to my birthday! That’s for children!’ ‘I didn’t get anything for Mother’s Day, I’m so sad’ ‘I’m happy with a drawing and a daisy from the garden! You sound hard work and grabby!’ I’ve honestly never known such a bunch of miserable people as there are on here! 😂😂 everything is tacky, every gift they get is tat….what a life!!!

I get dh’s card and small gift. He does the same for me. We’ll have a nice meal - dh likely to cook but we don’t eat out as experience tells us service is awful on Feb 14. We take a moment for us as a couple but nothing more. We’ve been married 20 years this year. We made more of it when we were dating but anniversaries have taken over.

Why are only 5 year olds allowed to enjoy feeling special 🙄

oh, we go all out for birthdays and anniversaries. Can’t imagine a situation where dh wouldn’t get me a nice gift. Mn is very bizarre over birthday expectations and this thread is living up to the mn standard.

Not as seriously as Al Capone no

Nope. Dh will pick up some reduced flowers for me the day after and that’s why I love him.

The amount of posters feeling the need to tell us all that they don't need a special day because they show love every day makes me laugh. It's not an either or situation is it? You can show love every day and still celebrate Valentines.

Last year we invited our new neighbours in for a drink. It was a couple of days after Valentines and our cards to each other were on the mantelpiece.

They came in holding hands and struggled to get through the door as they didn't let go of each others' hand!

The woman (both mid 30's) said "oh you celebrate Valentines?" to which I replied "yes". She said, with a sneer, "we don't as we think it's pointless. We show love all year round".

Those words came back to me every time they had an argument and were screaming abuse at each other (you f..ing c..t was a favourite of both of them). The arguments were pretty frequent and, unsurprisingly, they are no longer together.

No. I find it really cringey. DH and I are really not hearts, flowers, chocolates and teddies type people.

Maybe if you both ‘bare ‘ with each other it will be special. Not so much f you just bear with each other. Sorry to be pedantic but it’s great to know what words mean.

I know! We celebrate every year, and have done for over 30 years! I’m not, as a PP suggested, insecure in my relationship, quite the reverse! We celebrate BECAUSE we love each other! I thank God every day for my husband…we’re lucky to have each other and we appreciate that. So come the 14th we’ll raise a glass to us….and love! ❤️

I take adverbs more seriously than I take St Valentine’s Day, OP.

(Yes, I am aware I’m a pedant)

We ignore Valentine's day. Why should you have one day a year when you do something nice together or for each other? Even worse is the price inflation for meals out etc.

No, we don’t in general. We might give flowers, though. If it’s important to you, I think you need to make it clear to your other half, though.

It's for the young ones, and for those trying to woo another. First flush of love etc.

For me it is total rubbish. I once lived in Dublin and a church nearby had the relics of St. Valentine in a shrine. The place was crammed every 14th Feb, presumably praying for a lover ha ha. However it was good fun in the nearby pubs after the "pilgrimage".

For anyone interested this is the church -

Shrine of St. Valentine | Whitefriar Street Church | The Church of Our Lady of Mount Carmel & Shrine of Saint Valentine | Dublin, Ireland

Feeling like a bit of a twat now 😂

LenaLamont 👍

But it doesn't mean that if you celebrate it you are only doing something on that one day does it?

As I said before, we do nice things for each other all the time. Small gifts, nice meals, days out, meals out etc etc.

Plenty of restaurants don't have a special menu so DON'T put their prices up. Not all florists increase their prices and supermarket flowers don't go up in price because it's Valentines. Maybe roses do but as I dislike them DH would never buy them for me.

It is perfectly possible to celebrate Valentines and not be forced to buy tacky gifts or pay over the odds for meals or flowers although the mumsnet Valentine haters don't seem to think it is