Do you take valentines serious ?

[chychyete]

Hi ladies just wanted to know if other women or men take Valentine's Day serious like do you love when your partners do something for you even if it's just a nice cooked meal or flowers or taking you out.

Reason asked my boyfriend said to me today why do I keep asking about what we are doing for Valentine's Day it's only a one day thing and i'm being annoying he's not interested in that and it's something he's not interested in bare in mind I don't usual get nothing for him anyway lol so I take Valentine's Day as a nice occasion that we both can do for each other as im a big gifter and feel good when I give others stuff I even get my mum something for Valentine's Day some flowers

When I was five I wasn’t aware Valentine’s Day even existed.

We usually get each other a card and maybe a meal deal.

I usually give a donation to a charity for Valentine's Day I would rather someone benefit rather than wasting money on cards that are likely to be thrown away.

Or even cook a meal. A few supermarkets are running some excellent offers at the moment.

No. It's for teenagers and those insecure in their relationship.

Most men have zero interest in it and only buy last minute bunch of flowers and chocolates to keep partner happy. I work in a supermarket and it's quite obvious their heart isn't in it.

On an aside note, I think it does give a bit of a boost to certain sectors such as card manufacturers and independent restaurants, just like Mothers Day. It makes jobs for people so I think it's a good thing from that point of view. I work in hospitality and (especially at the moment) special days are a god send.

I think it's a horrible day. Massive pressure on young people and terribly sad for those who have just broken up with someone. My friend committed suicide on Valentine's Day when I was a teenager

We get each other cards (usually the meanest/funniest we can find) and schedule in a date night for a day roughly around that time but usually not the 14th.

Its very commercial but we figure reminders to prioritise each other don’t hurt and we have fun choosing the cards.

I work in a supermarket and very telling how many men buy more than one Valentine

Now, now. I'm sure they're loving boys buying for their mums or little sisters.

We don't go overboard but we do get each other cards, and I think we would both be sad if the other forgot. I know my DH is very sentimental so he does like a romantic poem in his.....

We did for our very first valentines that was 18 years ago and have never bothered since.

I don't bother but I'm a firm believer in doing stuff that matters to someone you love even if you don't give a shit yourself and would prefer not to bother. So if my husband was someone who liked romance and shit I'd do it for him. Luckily though, we're both joyless arseholes so we do nothing.

I do like feb 15th though. National half price chocolate day.

That's very different to my experience! It's been hugely commercial for yonks and at school, where so much of the younger years is crafts-based, we'd make hearts and cards and other saccharine nonsense. There were even older kids assigned to "deliver" the Valentine messages which had been "posted" in the school. I can't remember making much in school for Valentine's beyond the age of ~8.

Anyway, definitely has the feel of a child's view of love to place so much emphasis on one solitary day.

We don't exchange cards or gifts (but do for Mother's/Father's day, birthdays etc). We do the same for Valentine's Day as we do for our wedding anniversary, which is cook a nice meal at home e.g. steak and chips or go out for dinner if we can get a babysitter. I agree it's how you treat each other all year round that matters.

I do a little something on Valentine's Day for DDs and make them heart shaped pancakes or something small like that. Mainly because my lovely dad always did the same for us when we were children and we loved it.

No. I think I bought him a card in 1985 when we were 18 and thought that's what you did, but we'd grown out of it by the following year.

Ha: should have said we bought each other one!

Sorry pressed post too soon,
Many men buy more than one Valentine day card and flowers and say with a cheeky wink "Don't tell my missus"
Years ago my friends husband came through my till and said same, they separated not long after.

Just cards, maybe some inexpensive chocolates or similar. We never go out or have a special meal or whatever.

No. Its naff.

I still remember going to sainsburys one 13th Feb just before it closed to see lines of men at the checkout clutching the last bunches of flowers and boxed of Fererro Rocher etc as they all lined up one behind the other to pay.

I'd never had much interest in Valentine's Day anyway but that pretty much sealed it for me.

Least romantic thing I've ever seen!

I'm not remotely bothered about it but DH is so we get each other a card and he cooks something nice.

Nope. Waste of money. We tell each other we love each other every day. 50 years together.
Look out for the meal deals and reduced flowers though.

I went to school more than yonks ago and it was a strict convent school.

Needless to say, Valentines Day wasn’t high on the nuns’ priorities.

No. Not since i was about 13.

Christian religious festivals are not commercial rubbish.

Commercialised yes, but not the actual reason for the festivals themselves. St Valentine was a Christian saint.

Do you hold other faiths in similar contempt?