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Do you take valentines serious ?

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chychyete · 04/02/2024 15:05

Hi ladies just wanted to know if other women or men take Valentine's Day serious like do you love when your partners do something for you even if it's just a nice cooked meal or flowers or taking you out.

Reason asked my boyfriend said to me today why do I keep asking about what we are doing for Valentine's Day it's only a one day thing and i'm being annoying he's not interested in that and it's something he's not interested in bare in mind I don't usual get nothing for him anyway lol so I take Valentine's Day as a nice occasion that we both can do for each other as im a big gifter and feel good when I give others stuff I even get my mum something for Valentine's Day some flowers

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WandaWonder · 04/02/2024 22:31

mydogisthebest · 04/02/2024 22:21

Supermarkets don't put the price of their flowers up and M&S flowers are lovely. Of course though that doesn't fit the tacky and inflated price narrative that so many posters want to follow

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No idea never thought of it that deeply

MYSTERIOUSGIRL2024 · 04/02/2024 22:31

It's not something my husband & I are into really as it's just another day on the calender but it is sweet our tween daughter is into it & has bought her boyfriend a valentine card & an ever so cute teddy bear & chocolates so it's made the day cute in that way! I do love to see ones though that's had a special delivery & their faces lighting up though as it's made their day even more special as I'm a romantic gal deep down even though I don't always show it lol.

Mindovermatter247 · 04/02/2024 22:33

Nope, been with DP 20 years now and we only celebrated valentines for the first couple of years, I think it’s alright for new couples or people looking o get together but if your already in a long term relationship I don’t see the point. Not to mention it’s an excuse for restaurants and hotels to put thier prices up…

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BarelyLiterate · 04/02/2024 22:35

No. We ignore Valentine’s Day, and leave it to the teenagers & people who are incapable of thinking independently.

We prefer to express affection when WE want to, not when Interflora or the marketing department of fucking Tesco tells us to.

CrispsandCheeseSandwich · 04/02/2024 22:36

No, we never do anything for Valentine's Day. Partly because we're not fussed, we show each other we care the rest of the year.
But also my birthday is a couple of days after, so we generally go out for dinner for that and it seems unnecessary to add another card/present/meal out to the same week.

jellybe · 04/02/2024 22:41

Nope. We have dates that are actually meaningful to us that we celebrate. Don't get the V day hype.

BigButtons · 04/02/2024 22:44

blacksax · 04/02/2024 17:41

Christian religious festivals are not commercial rubbish.

Commercialised yes, but not the actual reason for the festivals themselves. St Valentine was a Christian saint.

Do you hold other faiths in similar contempt?

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No I don’t at all. But there is a pressure from those who will profit and we shouldn’t be party to it.

CrispsandCheeseSandwich · 04/02/2024 22:45

CrispsandCheeseSandwich · 04/02/2024 22:36

No, we never do anything for Valentine's Day. Partly because we're not fussed, we show each other we care the rest of the year.
But also my birthday is a couple of days after, so we generally go out for dinner for that and it seems unnecessary to add another card/present/meal out to the same week.

And when I say "we show each other we care the rest of the year." I don't mean that you can't also do Valentine's Day as well. I meant it more in response to PPs saying things like "isn't it nice to have one say to show someone you care/love them".

HighQueenOfTheFarRealm · 04/02/2024 22:49

Dh will usually buy some chocolates for me but really, it ends up being a whole family thing.
Its not a big deal at all and we show each other we care all year round etc but we still enjoy marking occasions just for the fun of it.

BashfulClam · 04/02/2024 23:15

We always do cards just because it’s quite sweet. We are not insecure or unable to think independently it’s just another nice thing we do for each other. We do have a competition for best card though!

tuvamoodyson · 05/02/2024 04:59

EveryKneeShallBow · 04/02/2024 22:27

I’m single now, but in my 45 year relationship, we never once managed to remember Valentine’s Day. And even if we had, we wouldn’t have bothered with all the tacky Hallmark nonsense.

Ah well, you just need better taste! I always manage to steer clear of ‘tacky!’

pleasepleasepleasebequiet · 05/02/2024 05:28

Just cards.

Maybe a takeaway!

And we probably only do those because we feel we should.

It's all a load of commercial BS.

Think about it. Someone says "right, today is the day you have to show your partner you love them. Be nice to them, buy them some flowers and take them out for dinner"!

Shouldn't you be doing that spontaneously?!

tuvamoodyson · 05/02/2024 05:30

Of course! Why do think you can’t do both??

Pearlyclouds · 05/02/2024 05:43

I like it. And I think if your partner cares about you they should care about you liking it. I don't make it a massive deal but I'd be sad if I didn't get a card with something sweet written in it and some flowers. I don't expect a date night or anything.. I wouldn't like that as it would be busy out on that night and make me anxious. But it's the thought that counts as far as I'm concerned so just something sweet written in a card. Some acknowledgement.
I'm quite aesthetically orientated so I get pleasure from things like pretty cards and flowers.. I put them up around the house. I know for some people they aren't into that... but like I said if your partner cares about you they should care about what makes you happy even if it's not something they personally enjoy..

Passingthethyme · 05/02/2024 06:40

Not really, we have Christmas, Our wedding anniversary, and both birthdays all before March. I do like to get flowers though, who wouldn't. Usually a card and we'll go for dinner (can't be bothered with gifts anymore).

Passingthethyme · 05/02/2024 06:42

neleh87 · 04/02/2024 15:08

I like it. It's cute and an excuse to have something nice to eat and a drink. We'll exchange cards, DP will probably get me flowers. We'll have the M&S meal deal.

Exactly. No big deal, but cute and a good excuse to do something

Lulu1919 · 05/02/2024 06:45

We don't go out
I might buy one of the supermarket meal deals ...so no cooking and not much clearing up !!
Married 34 years ..very happily !!!

cloudtree · 05/02/2024 06:51

chychyete · 04/02/2024 15:09

@neleh87 I find it cute to even if it's a simple dinner nice movie at home especially if your partner likes Valentine's Day it's nice to show that you care about what they like

Why can’t you be nice to one another sll year round?

it’s commercial rubbish aimed mainly at teenagers. We do a card, that’s it.

Sceptre86 · 05/02/2024 07:44

I can't make sense of your post. You've said that you don't get anything for him and then that you are a big gifter?

We usually have a meal out or dh cooks and we exchange a gift and I get flowers. I love it tbh. We do appreciate each other throughout the year and it's just a nice day to celebrate us.

NDerbys32 · 05/02/2024 07:55

OK. Married 37 yrs here.
We do Valentines day, on the 15th.
I like to work out how much we've saved by not going out for an overpriced meal/ roses etc on 'the' day.
Think it's catching on as there was a bit of a scrum around the heavily discounted flowers last year
It's one of our ways of rebelling against the system 😂

MrsDanversGlidesAgain · 05/02/2024 08:23

blacksax · 04/02/2024 17:41

Christian religious festivals are not commercial rubbish.

Commercialised yes, but not the actual reason for the festivals themselves. St Valentine was a Christian saint.

Do you hold other faiths in similar contempt?

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As far as I'm aware Valentine's day (got downgraded from St Valentine's Day decades ago) hasn't been a religious festival (in the sense of Easter or Christmas) for years. Not in my lifetime, anyway. It's an excuse to sell cards, flowers, cute little teddies wearing vests saying 'Be My Valentine' and similar tat.

theduchessofspork · 05/02/2024 08:26

No

But the big issue here is that he’s not generally nice to you - is that right? If that’s the case, dump. If you like to make a fuss of people and want a fuss made of you then you need someone who will do that, or you will never be happy.

SanFranBear · 05/02/2024 08:31

Having been single for almost 10 years, this is the first Valentines I've had a boyfriend for in a long time. Whilst I agree with the main sentiment of the thread (should appreciate you all year round, commercially motivated, doesn't matter), I'm looking forward to a little card and a night out.

I love him and tell him so every day but there's no harm in it - celebrate, or not, however you like!

OldTinHat · 05/02/2024 08:55

Having got married on Valentines Day and divorcing soon after, I think it's all a crock of shit!

Deathraystare · 05/02/2024 19:38

Nope don't take it seriously - usually forget the date anyway (and I am single!). Usually only realise when I get on a tube and all the blokes pong highly of after shave!.

A more important date is pancake day!!!!!

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