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Acid attack in Clapham

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PawsAndReflection · 31/01/2024 23:06

Has anyone else seen this horrible news story? Apparently 9 people have been injured, looks like the original targets were a woman and two children.

What is WRONG with people?!

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ChardonnaysBeastlyCat · 03/02/2024 12:09

herewegoroundthebastardbush · 03/02/2024 12:00

Some of my best female friends are immigrants to this country. Do I just not care if they are raped and maimed then? Or not as much as if a stranger British woman is? One of my friends has moved to Israel, do I care about her more or less than my British neighbour? I have a friend who is a Pakistani and she has migrated to the USA - I mean is she so far outside of "my own" I really shouldn't care at all if she is abused, raped and murdered? I mean certainly not more than I should care about the woman who was struck over the head with a paving slab, dragged behind the bins and raped by a local (white British) teen on my local park not long ago?

Women are my people. All of them. All over the world. Even the ones I don't much like a d could never agree with. Because by our immutable female biology we AS A CLASS are victimised and oppressed by the class of men. Nationality is irrelevant to this fact which has been true in ever culture in every country all over the world since forever. THAT is the threat I recognise, not misogynist men moving from one country to another.

If men are the problem then are you OK with thousands of men arriving every single year? Surely that exacerbates the already existing problem of male violence?

Is misogyny as much of a problem in the UK as it is in Afghanistan, or Iran, for example?

Bridgetta · 03/02/2024 12:10

But he's a refugee, and has no safe country to be sent to. We're stuck with him unless/until circumstances change and refugees can return

He is not a refugee, he was denied twice so he was supposed to return before his fake conversion

jasflowers · 03/02/2024 12:10

Notaflippinclue · 03/02/2024 12:03

So a heinous criminal wanted in his country comes here claims asylum but we can't send him back as he will be persecuted! Fuck off!

You need to understand that we have no returns agreement with the Taliban, they would not accept him back.

A bit like when we removed UK citizenship from that ISIS British woman as she had Bangladeshi citizenship (CV brain fog, can't remember her name) they refused to let her into their country, hence she is stuck in a camp in northern Syria or is it Iraq.

Sovereign countries can decide who they want back in to their states too.

EasternStandard · 03/02/2024 12:15

Notaflippinclue · 03/02/2024 12:03

So a heinous criminal wanted in his country comes here claims asylum but we can't send him back as he will be persecuted! Fuck off!

We’d be much better off to deter all and check before we say yes

Other countries have worked it out. This system is a roulette wheel

herewegoroundthebastardbush · 03/02/2024 12:17

EasternStandard · 03/02/2024 11:57

Why on earth would having these violent men here be a positive?

It’s madness

It isn't a positive. It it's no more a negative than having our own violent men. Why is it whenever something like this happens, people look at every single possible factor (Wayne Couzens = a problem with the police, Rochdale = a problem with Pakistani culture, this guy = a problem with Afghani refugees), rather than considering the obvious common denominator - that it's always, always bloody men?

OhmygodDont · 03/02/2024 12:17

Too many people feel sorry for anyone.

If we cannot deport to certain countries then don’t accept people from them countries. It shouldn’t be a free pass to basically be a criminal do time, become free then go ahah but I still get to stay despite breaking your laws and rules because such and such isn’t safe. Even though lots of people still holiday and visit family and this particular man wanted to go home to find a wife. In his very unsafe country that he needed asylum from. Makes the system a joke.

ChardonnaysBeastlyCat · 03/02/2024 12:18

herewegoroundthebastardbush · 03/02/2024 12:08

You are arguing with a point I haven't made. My point isn't that we can white-saviour Afghanistan. We can't and won't. Women will die in hundreds fighting their oppression there, it's already happening. I hope that they win. And I hope any who manage to make their way out are given refuge here or in another safer country.

The point I am making is that this man's nationality is irrelevant. What's relevant is his misogyny and his willingness to a t on it. Women and girls in the UK are unsafe anyway, even if we never accepted another male afghani refugee, because misogyny is global and gathering in courage here as it is everywhere else. I could reel off a list of white British men who have committed unspeakable crimes against women and children in the past year, there is a whole twitter feed devoted to their victims, the majority of the perpetrators mentioned are white British (as you'd expect given our demographics). The Amber Gibson case sticks out in my mind,as does the tragic case of Zara Aleena who was sexually assaulted and murdered just down the road from where I used to live by a White British guy.

Thinking that keeping the Afghani men out of England will make any appreciable difference to our safety or that of our daughters is a nice fantasy but it simply isn't true. The problem is misogynist men. I'll be no happier if my daughters are abused, raped, murdered by a white man than by a brown one.

I don't agree with you.

I think that the fantasy is one of your making.

EasternStandard · 03/02/2024 12:18

herewegoroundthebastardbush · 03/02/2024 12:17

It isn't a positive. It it's no more a negative than having our own violent men. Why is it whenever something like this happens, people look at every single possible factor (Wayne Couzens = a problem with the police, Rochdale = a problem with Pakistani culture, this guy = a problem with Afghani refugees), rather than considering the obvious common denominator - that it's always, always bloody men?

I don’t want your version where we let in anyone acid attack, rape or worse

herewegoroundthebastardbush · 03/02/2024 12:23

ChardonnaysBeastlyCat · 03/02/2024 12:09

If men are the problem then are you OK with thousands of men arriving every single year? Surely that exacerbates the already existing problem of male violence?

Is misogyny as much of a problem in the UK as it is in Afghanistan, or Iran, for example?

No, but I'm also not ok with the thousands of home grown misogynists roaming the streets, raping and abusing as they please, and everyone focusing on this guy's nationality is giving them all a great big free pass to carry on doing it because no-one is talking about them, just those awful immigrants. The problem is global, it's native and it's a problem with men, not with subsets thereof. Until we start dealing with it as such, instead of footling at the sub categories, the culture of all countries ours included will remain rape-enabling and misogynist.

herewegoroundthebastardbush · 03/02/2024 12:24

EasternStandard · 03/02/2024 12:18

I don’t want your version where we let in anyone acid attack, rape or worse

That's not "my version" and I'm not sure where you got the impression it was. Quote me?

EasternStandard · 03/02/2024 12:25

herewegoroundthebastardbush · 03/02/2024 12:24

That's not "my version" and I'm not sure where you got the impression it was. Quote me?

I have been quoting you.

Your views are concerning but hopefully in a very small minority

herewegoroundthebastardbush · 03/02/2024 12:27

ChardonnaysBeastlyCat · 03/02/2024 12:18

I don't agree with you.

I think that the fantasy is one of your making.

Edited

Great argument 👌

herewegoroundthebastardbush · 03/02/2024 12:30

EasternStandard · 03/02/2024 12:25

I have been quoting you.

Your views are concerning but hopefully in a very small minority

Edited

And nowhere have I said anything like what you say is "my version". Pick out where exactly yo think I've said that?

ChardonnaysBeastlyCat · 03/02/2024 12:34

herewegoroundthebastardbush · 03/02/2024 12:27

Great argument 👌

As opposed to your arguments?

All men are bad, the UK is as bad as Afghanistan, we have men here anyway so let's have some more?

Gonnagetgoingreturnsagain · 03/02/2024 12:35

EasternStandard · 03/02/2024 11:43

God no not stop him but call police

Maybe they were unaware of the story still, which is highly possible

Agree on chemicals. I don’t want an uplift in these types of attacks, horrendous, who is doing it and why this

Edited

Police say these types of attacks have decreased. Usually amongst people who know each other so ex partner. As I said before I’m scared they’ll be on the increase again and who knows if some dumb BNP type decides to target eg “brown” people?

Heard a worrying but scary Radio 4 news piece this week on the rise of the far right in Germany. Don’t say that won’t happen here, it well could.

EasternStandard · 03/02/2024 12:35

herewegoroundthebastardbush · 03/02/2024 12:30

And nowhere have I said anything like what you say is "my version". Pick out where exactly yo think I've said that?

The point I'm making is this guy being here or being there makes no difference,

There is a difference and I don’t agree with you that we should be open to violent men on the premise there isn’t one.

As I suggested to you you could deter all irregular arrivals and choose women only for asylum.

ChardonnaysBeastlyCat · 03/02/2024 12:35

Deal with it globally? What does this even mean?

Set up a committee?

Fantasy, pure and sweet.

cheezncrackers · 03/02/2024 12:40

New article in DM says he was in a relationship with the woman he attacked and that a relative of his fears that he's dead. No info on whether either of the DC were his. He came here in 2016 in the back of a lorry and the older DC is 8 years old, so presumably he isn't the father of that one, but he could be the father of the 2-year-old.

jasflowers · 03/02/2024 12:41

This man came in on a lorry, no background checks would have prevented his entry, same with the over 100k let in via small boats by this Government over the last few years.
How many convicted criminals have the Tories given asylum too is what i'dlike to know.

Mostly these people come from failed states, with no accurate criminal records data bases.

Didn't we recently grant asylum to a man rejected by the Norwegians?

Its a joke, govt rubber stamps applications in order to have no backlog.

EasternStandard · 03/02/2024 12:42

Stop all entry

It’s easy Aus has.

God by the time people cotton on..

EasternStandard · 03/02/2024 12:46

And then guess what you can choose who you want

Women only if you prefer

Gonnagetgoingreturnsagain · 03/02/2024 12:50

On the flip side. I live locally in an area where there’s a hotel which houses refugees/asylum seekers. You see a mixture of men/women/children but men in majority. A NDN who does charity work helps out and has got to know them. You’d have no idea they were here apart from last summer they played football/volleyball out in the local park or you see the odd one sat on the park bench. But no bother at all. Tend to keep to themselves but can’t say I blame them. One or two men have had it tough with cancer diagnosis in one, severe sickness in another. You’d have to have a heart of stone not to feel any compassion there.

Also in places with strict regimes eg Iran I’d agree 100% women and men should be welcomed into UK. Ex colleague was an immigration lawyer for Iran clients and his predecessor for Koreans.

Gonnagetgoingreturnsagain · 03/02/2024 12:53

EasternStandard · 03/02/2024 12:46

And then guess what you can choose who you want

Women only if you prefer

Or they’re vetted. Or stop economic migrants. Or help countries where less employment/tourist trade so the men have more chances to work and create a life for themselves there. Different if they’re refugees fleeing war and torture. Do we hear much about the migrants from Hong Kong? No.

herewegoroundthebastardbush · 03/02/2024 13:16

EasternStandard · 03/02/2024 12:35

The point I'm making is this guy being here or being there makes no difference,

There is a difference and I don’t agree with you that we should be open to violent men on the premise there isn’t one.

As I suggested to you you could deter all irregular arrivals and choose women only for asylum.

I'd certainly be up for a women and children only policy on the basis of risk. However, this would only work alongside a domestic policy that recognised the equivalent risk of our native male population and sought to mitigate it in some equivalent way.

EasternStandard · 03/02/2024 13:18

herewegoroundthebastardbush · 03/02/2024 13:16

I'd certainly be up for a women and children only policy on the basis of risk. However, this would only work alongside a domestic policy that recognised the equivalent risk of our native male population and sought to mitigate it in some equivalent way.

Great let’s do it

Ww could lead the way internationally as a place for women, kick the gender stuff out too whilst we’re at it

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