bit woo- but have you ever met anyone you have felt scared of for no reason?

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I'm fascinated by stories like this- when you meet someone and they don't necessarily do anything - more that you just feel scared- intuition etc

I'm nearly 50 and it's happened once very strongly (was justified I later came to find out) and once not as strongly - so it's not a regular occurrence, but stories like this really interest me

What did PP expect?! Probably not that!

Telling an anecdote about a dodgy man is not an invitation for another dodgy man to make inappropriate suggestions to a client. (Most of us were pretty naïve at 20; I certainly had no idea at that age how many wrong’uns were around).

But it wasn’t just an ‘anecdote about a dodgy man’ — it was an anecdote in which you say you told the driving instructor you’d answered the ad offering free accommodation in exchange for sex, suggesting you were in fact open to sex barter for services. Given that it’s an extraordinary thing to tell a man you barely know about during a driving lesson, it’s perfectly possible he thought it was your way of proposing a similar arrangement to him!

Absolutely it was a completely inappropriate suggestion from him, but I’m not sure I believe anyone, even a sheltered 20 year old, would be so naive.

I didn’t accept the offer!!

And the ad didn’t say about the arrangements!

My instructor was friendly & chatty so I told him about an ad I had answered for a flatshare - basically I would have free rent if I cleaned for the guy & provided sexual favours

Surely if you were shocked & horrified you'd accidently applied for a free rent property in exchange for sexual favours you'd have also made clear you were not up for it when retelling the story though which sounds more like he thought she would do this kind of thing

But obviously everybody reads things differently

Once, a teenager I taught. There was nothing overtly wrong with him he just set my nerves on edge. About a year after he left the school he badly beat a girl.

@Urcheon, you seem to be addressing me as if I was the poster that told that story. I wasn’t, but was just speculating on it because @Jk8 seemed to be suggesting the poster was ‘asking for it’ which didn’t sit very well with me.

And while I can’t speak for that poster, I can confirm that I was very naïve at 20 and had no idea how depraved many men are.

Many 20 year old girls want to see the best in people and it helps explain a lot of things that are badly amiss in our present world. If some pervy bloke sticks a dress on and prattles out a sob story about desiring inclusion, it will be young women who fall over themselves to facilitate him. We world-weary crones know better.

I wasn't suggesting she was 'asking for it' I read it as him misinterpreting a litteral offer of it.

@Urcheon
"you told the driving instructor you’d answeredthe ad offering free accommodation in exchange for sex,"

You've misunderstood! The landlords don't place ads offering accommodation in exchange for sex. Did you honestly think they do? They place innocent looking ads offering the room/flat etc in the normal way, and when an unsuspecting young woman turns up that's when they make the "offer".
There's been at least one documentary exposing this, it's an increasing trend unfortunately.

That's bloody terrifying, so glad you were OK and thank goodness for that bus driver.

A local man takes it upon himself to clean up the streets of a particularly rough area, in his own time and for no payment. Ostensibly a wonderfully altruistic person with great community spirit. However I find him incredibly sinister and firmly believe he's only doing it for the masses of praise and adulation he gets on social media. Every time he does a 'clean' he posts pictures of the area along with a smug selfie. He never posts without a photo of himself. His face just radiates unpleasantness to me.

I am convinced something bad will come out about him one day.

Since this thread started (my favourite thread so far!) I have been looking at strangers serving me in shops, people I walk past etc and trying to decide if I get a weird feeling about them 🤣

My mum told me to write Jim’ll Fix It about something I wanted. I can’t remember what it was now but I didn’t because he gave me the creeps, DM thought I was being ridiculous

Ha ha, me too. Haven't encountered anyone that's made the hair on the back of my neck stand up yet though.

My DP had some business acquaintances over for lunch a few years ago. One man, despite his pleasantries, gave me the chills. I have never ever had this feeling before or since.

This might be the first time I've ever seen anyone on Mumsnet admit to this!

Most people are like "well i knew, surely it was OBVIOUS!". Except ... to all those thousands of people who publicly mourned him, visited his coffin. He laid in state and 5000 people visited his coffin!

I didn't really know who he was, was too young to have watched jim'll fix it, but i was taken aback by all the public grief for this person.

But of course everyone on Mumsnet just "knew" and "had a feeling about him".

Also re Paul on Traitors - yeah he was quite smarmy, but i think people are forgetting that we knew he was lying to everyone, we could see all the behind the scenes little chats with him. he was getting carried away with himself and very much enjoying his role as a traitor. Doesn't mean he's a bad person. It's weird that Harry was behaving EXACTLY the same way as Paul, charming to people's faces and lying to them, then very very pleased with himself behind the scenes. Wilfred was the same in season 1. All it means is they're playing the game.

Funnily enough though some of the thread ,s posted on here at the time of his,death,posters were mourning him and Saying what a great guy he was
But of course everyone knew really 🙄

People, incl many women, mourned Sean Connery and Diego Maradona too, and they were a couple of wifebeating bastards. Connery always made my skin crawl, the sleazy-looking git.

I had a strange encounter a few years ago whilst on holiday that has always made me feel a bit wtf?! I was holidaying in Turkey in the fethiyhe area and as a prerequisite, did all the usual tourist attractions - boat trips, island hopping, sightseeing etc etc. One day we decided to get the local dolmus to kayakoy - the " ghost town" which lived up to it's name and was a huge uninhabited village where all the buildings, houses and churches were intact but were largely, ruins. It's a popular tourist attraction but we'd left it to the late afternoon to explore to try and escape the searing heat, so there were only a couple of people around at that time. Anyway, getting to my point - we came across the abandoned church but the gates were locked preventing you from entry, but a gap had been cut into the wire fence. We were debating whether to go for it when 2 men approached from inside the abandoned church and beckoned us over - telling us to come in and it was wonderful and they would help us through the wire fence. God knows what it was, other than instinct, but every fibre of my being was telling me these men were off and to get away from them. We made our excuses by feigning tiredness and they kept in and on " come on, you'll love it " whilst telling us the were from " Constantinople and did we know it" ( really old name for Istanbul) which again rang alarm bells as an odd turn of phrase.. Anyway we got away from them in the end but the odd thing being that upon returning home an English teacher went missing in that exact area a week later and to this day, he has never been found. He had been exploring the old ghost town on his own and just went missing! I've always wondered if these men were somehow connected to the disappearance. Probably not connected at all but very very odd.

@HopeInAJar Ooh. That is creepy

I just googled that man @HopeInAJar and he actually gave me a weird feeling! Horrible to say.