bit woo- but have you ever met anyone you have felt scared of for no reason?

[crochetmonkey74]

I'm fascinated by stories like this- when you meet someone and they don't necessarily do anything - more that you just feel scared- intuition etc

I'm nearly 50 and it's happened once very strongly (was justified I later came to find out) and once not as strongly - so it's not a regular occurrence, but stories like this really interest me

@IggOrEgg Ooh I know who you’re referring to. After he was arrested my friend and I both agreed there was something “off” about him, but never imagined the level of depravity. Loveliest children though. So awful for them.

Couple of times. When my eldest was born, my husbands nephews and thr parents came to visit us and my newborn. We hadn't seen them in years due to a fall out and my husbands brother being weird. I got such a strong sense from both the nephews there were evil and sick. The youngest who was 16 at the time wouldnt take his eyes of my baby. It freaked me right out. Odd behaviour from a teenage boy. Thankfully after another incident they're out our lives again. They'll never come near me or my boys again. I honestly think it's a protection thing. That was the 1st time I felt like it. Maybe coz I was a new mum? Who knows.

When I was 15 I did work experience at a landscape gardening company my dad worked at - there was one man I was scared of, the others used to tease me and say "don't worry he looks rough but he's soft really" to be fair a lot of landscapers are a bit rough round the edges and really soft but there was something about him ...

It turned out he was a serial rapist (20+ reported cases over a few years) from years ago - he was caught after they took DNA after a domestic dispute. My mum and dad had been to his wedding a few months before.

Another one. Again involving my eldest when he was 2 years old. We had just found a nursery for him. I never felt right leaving him there. I just assumed it was mum guilt but the feeling got stronger ans stronger and I pulled him out. I lost money too because I'd paid for the term but again it didn't feel right. 1 member of staff there I just didn't trust. Still can't explain why

Remembered another one....

Had a neighbour who brought her daughters to play in my garden one day, her husband came to meet them and go home.

My dog who was the stupidest dog (she used to run into door frames and once refused to go in the garden for a week after she saw a hot air balloon in the sky 🙄)

When he walked towards the little girl my dog put herself between them and growled (I'd never heard heard her growl - I didn't even knew she knew how)

Turned out he was abusing the children 😔

And so many women make excuses for the disgusting and creepy things he has said about women, even when they have heard them from his own mouth 😮😡

@wonderings2 That did make me chuckle about your dog 😁
My family had a dog who was scared of the ironing board 🤷‍♀️She’d run off and hide in another room until the scary thing had been put away.

To be fair, I do that. Can't abide ironing.

Not scared but repulsed by a couple of men when I was young.

First was when I was of secondary school age, helping my dad clear out my granddad's house after he'd died. One of granddad's friends turned up to see what stuff he could take, and he kissed my hand in what felt like a really seedy way when he greeted us. I remember feeling absolute revulsion. Still makes me cringe thinking about it. Maybe it felt weird just because I was a dorky young tomboy and we were hardly there for a jolly time so it was inappropriate but I hated him!

The second was when I was a student (still dorky and shy!) I had a part time job at a Morrisons. Every single Tuesday and Saturday evening this creepy man (probably in his 60s) would come in and beeline for me on my food counter (where I was always alone in the evening) and just talk at me for ages bragging about how he took young girls abroad with him alone for educational trips, and how he'd trick their parents into letting him take them. He was telling me one one occasion that he had a 26 year old wanting to go with him but that she was "far too old for" him. Yuck.

I sometimes used to hide and ask an older colleague from another department to serve him when I saw him coming, and he would ask them where I was and say he wanted me to "unfurl my big eyes" at him. 🤢

There were several weird inappropriate customers when I was working there but he was vile. I actually seem to have moved near to where he lives as I've recently spotted him/passed him in the street a few times. He's a lot more frail now and I doubt he remembers me (it was years ago!) but I've passed him and he's stared right at me. Blerghh. I'd like to think a manager would protect their staff from this type of thing these days l, I'd certainly not let grim people like that hassle my staff if I was in charge!

Not a scary one but my instincts were right. Worked with a small agency, many years ago. They employed a bookkeeper and I just didn’t like him. I was often told off for being short with him. We had money go missing and I was certain it was him but no one would believe it. Many months later he started writing cheques on the company account. Not sure how much he got away with.

I used to watch JS sometimes back then and felt nothing - but i was under 10 so maybe too young to pick much up. My Mum found him annoying but nothing else.

However - our neighbour back then, LOVED Jim'll Fix It and loved JS. She told my mum that her daughter Z (early teens) had written about 4 times and had finally had a Fix It accepted and they were going on the show in a few weeks. She was SO excited and banged on and on about it all the way up to it. They used to chat over the fence. i remember this, and my mum being 🙄''Sick of hearing about bloody Jim'll bloody fix it!''

Anyway the day after the filming my mum caught neighbour in the garden and asked how it had all gone. Neighbour was was unusually quiet. Mum pressed her and the lady said she'd never been so worried and confused as she had been on set with JS as he kept wanting to take Z off on her own with him.

Neighbour wouldn't allow it and JS had got snappy and nasty and turned around and ignored them for the rest of the day and it was awkward and miserable for them after that. Neighbour said she had just been desperate to get her daughter away from him almost from the first minute because in person he was a creepy sleezy bastard and she couldn't understand how everyone around him wasn't seeming to think the same!

@Laiste

hat. Neighbour said she had just been desperate to get her daughter away from him almost from the first minute because in person he was a creepy sleezy bastard and she couldn't understand how everyone around him wasn't seeming to think the same!

THIS

as a child o liked the program but he made my skin crawl.

I thought I would not want him to put his arm round me ....

That was interesting! Totally didn't pick the right one

Quite apart from his politics, I find him physically repulsive, too.
I do wonder how any woman could ever bring herself to sleep with him. 🤮

When I was in halls of residence at uni in the late 90s we’d all come down to eat together in the canteen. One of the girls at the end of the corridor used to come down regularly with her Dad who had stayed the night in her room. He was so odd. Devoid of any pleasantries. I can see his bearded face clearly now. She confided in another girl later that he was abusing her. I can’t believe I didn’t do anything about it. Hope she’s ok now. 😢

@BarbaraWoodlouse1 That's really shocking. The poor girl. He was so brazen, wasn't he? She must have thought university was a way for her to get away from him.

I’ve always been a pretty good judge of character. Few times in particular that I remember

1. a friends friend - from the get go I was uneasy with her, she was just odd.. many years later she’s had an affair with my friends husband 😳 and now together whilst kids will have zero to do with her and she wonders why…
2. a guy in a petrol station/shop - I actually asked staff to keep an eye on him when I /he left…he was driving, I was walking. Unfortunately he followed me, he’d have kidnapped me if I hadn’t managed to get in my friends door before he got to me, police called and petrol station had to hand over tapes. Weeks later I walked in to a bar and felt really unwell, he was there!!!!
3. a teacher at my school - arrested for pornography, ex pupils included 😔
4. friends ex - odd character and I couldn’t place it (unfortunately during lockdown so meetings had all been distanced). They separated after a domestic around 8months later. He was a rapist and has since been convicted and jailed, she had NO idea. Though the domestic that occurred had meant police were involved so it is on file but at the time she didn’t want it actioned and then 6 months later we read of his sentencing. He knew exactly what he was doing by involving himself with her just a mere month or so after the 2nd attack. Sick!
5. my stepsons ex girlfriends - 2 in particular! Both poison. So much so I still have messages saved from 10years ago just incase..messages all state lies and them going to say such things to “ruin” him. Have never felt it’s something I can get rid of!

keep following instincts - there is reason for it!

This reminds me of a driving instructor I had when I was 22. So similar with the changing gears and putting his hand on mine. He made me feel physically sick each time I got in the car with him. He would also make really inappropriate jokes that made me feel uncomfortable. One night he took me round the back of a dark residential area and made me pull over so he could have a pee. He came back and put his hand over mine on the brake.
I blocked his number the next day after family members gave him a piece of their mind on the phone!

@Vixibell if number two happened last year then you most likely live very close to me. Absolutely horrific.

That is so horrible!! Sorry it happened to you too, it really put me off learning to drive for a while. Mine also took me down a really quiet street and taught me how to change gear and touching my hand, I remember feeling really scared and just wanted to get home. I should have reported him really, I'm not sure what my mum did, it's possible she did call the company to complain and never told me.

Me either! Which just goes to show that psychopaths can be very good at masking.

A lot of years ago I think the late 1990s I used to visit my friend from University ( sadly passed away now) and the neighbours a few doors away used to have barbecues. All well and good. they were nice people.But my senses pinged so badly with the boyfriend. He was in the Police and I couldn't square up my feelings - they are supposed to care about people. I was an abused child and I couldn't get away from my thoughts.
I thought about those feelings for years and guess what, he was convicted for CSA.
Everyone seemed to like him, he was trusted. I didn't like him.
His name is David Crossley. I don't know how to do links.

I wonder if it was the same person! I wished I had of reported him too (my family were encouraging me to) but I was worried he would do something as he knew where i worked and lived etc. It put me off learning to drive for a while as well 🙁

It was in the south west. I can't remember the company or his name it was 20 odd years ago.

I think many people feel this way about this jumped up, entitled Arsehole. I think he may come across as malevolent because of his pretentious twatishness and because he is an elitist relic from a bygone era. I actually think he’s a stupid, insignificant little shit who would want us to be afraid of him, but honestly he’s a wafer thin joke of a man and apart from what I believe to be his disgusting odious Views I don’t think he is strong enough in any sense of the word to be truly evil. He’s just a complete and utter bell end who would probably faint at your feet if you so much as looked at him in the wrong way, in my humble opinion. This was in response to the Jacob Rees Mogg post of earlier, but I don’t know how to reply correctly!