What’s your genuine, heartfelt life advice?

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Feeling a little melancholy and thinking about life and all the stuff that comes with it.

What advice do you try to live by?

I’m a big believer in looking at the intention in any act, and its advice my mother gave to me that has served me well. Often if some does something wrong but was genuinely well intentioned, it’s easier to see past their mistake.

We all have bodies, be comfortable with your naked self.

Nothing matters as much as you think it does, find joy in the little things

Bbq1
You can change any situation by changing your attitude towards it

Elvansayshortage: "Sorry but this kind of statement, though very common, is a type of gaslighting. There are so many things in life that are simply awful and can’t be changed. Nobody should be told to change their attitude towards terrible stuff. If things are bad, they are bad and a person experiencing that should be receiving empathy and validation, not being told to change their attitude.

Not only that, but there are lots of bad things in the world that we should be encouraging each other to be ANGRY about, not denying our feelings about."

But @Elvanseshortage you are assuming that by attitude it is saying you need to be positive or deny your feelings. That is not what the original statement says. Being angry IS an attitude you choose and yes, that can make a difference to the situation for the better. If you don't get angry things won't change. Therefore your attitude matters. If you are going through something terrible, allowing yourself to feel your own feelings about it - extending yourself compassion, will help you recover more quickly. Burying it might help you cope in the moment, but will probably come back to bite you later. The attitude you take makes a difference.

This quote does not tell you what the right attitude is- just that it can influence outcomes - at very least the state in which you survive things.

That said, @Bbq1 I think your response (the attitude you chose to take) to the challenge was pretty nasty and overly defensive.....not the best example of living your mantra.

This kind of phrase CAN be misused in the way the other poster said when it is used as a 'think positive mantra'.

Seize the day ! Cease the day means something completely different.

I was hung up about some stupid things I’d done as a young adult/teenager and this person said to me if you could see yourself now and speak to your young self what would you say? And I said well I’d say ‘it wasn’t your fault’ point being try and be as kind to yourself as you are to other people x

Sex on a first date is not necessarily a bad thing.

I also believe when you stop caring what others' think that you are free to live your life on your own terms. It helps to remember that when you're dead - you're forgotten quickly (bar your kids) so why worry what people think.

Caring what others think…how to rise above if the one in ‘group’ singled out for ridicule/bitching etc & weakest? I’ve never understood it, how can people not. especially if we were once an outsider.

@Inkanta

User14March Yes it's tough if you/ others are being mistreated. In those instances my advice would be to call it out and then get distance. Avoid being around dumb asses best you can - you don't need them.

@ddephlogisticated you put it perfectly. I am only just finding that place, but it makes a world of difference to how I feel about.....everything!

Far fewer things actually matter than you think. Take a breath and ask yourself is this actually all that important.

If you can't get out of it, get into it.

That you don't know what tomorrow will bring so be sure to tell someone you care about that you love them and treat everyone with kindness.
I lost my husband suddenly and a great comfort is knowing he was in a 'good place' with me, his family and friends.

Some of these are terrific.

Treasure your loved ones.
Spend time outside.
Be grateful for small pleasures.
Avoid or reduce bad habits (anything which makes you feel bad)
Find hobbies/interests you like.
Enjoy your life, for none of us shall live forever.

Well said. This is absolutely true. Our attitude influences everything.

And this. Perfectly said

Don't save things for 'best'. Life is best.

I'm old so my outlook on life is coloured by my years.

You come into the world on your own, and you will leave this world on your own. Do your very very best to be as fiercely independent and self sufficient as you possibly can, because it will serve you well later in life. In other words, don't depend on others.

If you are going through hell, keep going, because hell is no place to stop.

And, to new parents - good enough is good enough.

Work smart not hard.

Live in your own house/ home. Do not house share with spouse / partner. Keep a distance. Familiarity breeds contempt

My main one at the moment is "Life is too short for... [ FILL IN THE BLANK]

...bad coffee
...to save things for best"

Be kind to yourself.

Never ever rely solely on a partner for your money.

Don’t get into debt if you can avoid it.

Don’t place too much emphasis on your appearance - work on your education, your skills and your sense of self-worth. These will still be there when your looks have long gone.

Try to develop a sense of self-esteem that doesn’t rely on other people’s opinions of you.

Don’t procrastinate. Future you will thank you for getting things sorted as soon as possible.