What’s your genuine, heartfelt life advice?

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Feeling a little melancholy and thinking about life and all the stuff that comes with it.

What advice do you try to live by?

I’m a big believer in looking at the intention in any act, and its advice my mother gave to me that has served me well. Often if some does something wrong but was genuinely well intentioned, it’s easier to see past their mistake.

@Manyandyoucanwalkover

Sending love❤️, hope everything works out ok

And another one from the Bard:

Neither a borrower nor a lender be,
For loan oft loses both itself and friend,
And borrowing dulls the edge of husbandry.

One I reminded myself of after having a baby: my loved ones didn’t love me for my size 8 body back before I became a mum.

This is the one mantra I keep in mind. One day I’ll die, it could even be tomorrow and I won’t have to be me anymore. All the shit will be over.

Bad things will happen regardless, good things need to be created or worked at.

So organise that night out, do that course, make that appointment, go on that date etc.

Well it's advice i live by. Don't be utterly ridiculous saying it's gaslighting. - changing your attitude doesn't mean acceptance of a situation, it means change. For example, somebody in a dv situation could change their attitude by making plans to leave where they hadn't before. Somebody unfulfilled in their job makes plans to leave. You clearly don't understand the advice. It's not about denying feelings AT ALL. It's not about people accepting their lot and deciding they themselves are 'bad' You sound very angry but twisting a piece of advice so it fits your agenda won't help you feel less angry.

Try to think of problems as just issues that aren’t resolved yet

It was always 'Trust your Instincts'

Now it is 'Life is too Short' or 'Make hay whilst the Sun shines'

Have no regrets even though you knew you were damaging yourself.

Put on a brave face.

Death comes to all of us. Be grateful for every day.

For my kids

Know that you are loved and supported in everything you do.

Hehe

Be kind and be grateful for what you have

Mine is not as poetic as much of the advice on here, but it is heartfelt. Don't spend hours obsessing about your weight. Reaching your ideal weight is not the route to happiness.

The past is history
The future is a mystery
Today is a gift
That’s why it’s called “The Present”

@MadridMadridMadrid

Mine is not as poetic as much of the advice on here, but it is heartfelt. Don't spend hours obsessing about your weight. Reaching your ideal weight is not the route to happiness

Yes, stop worrying that you are not slim or pretty enough, when you are older you will look back at photos and realise that you were more than likely a lot prettier and thinner than you thought at the time and there was absolutely nothing wrong with you

• Own your shit,
• There's always a way.

Sod ‘em, sod the lot of ‘em

Round em up, put ‘em in a field and bomb the bastards

Try to create a big family for yourself and your children - biological and/or otherwise.

Loneliness is a tiger hunting you the woods if you let your circle become too small unfortunately.

Similar to this, the only person you can rely on is yourself. Stop looking for someone to validate you, rescue you, complete you, whatever.

Want to visit a country? Book the flight and go.
Want to move to a nicer area? Earn the money to be able to move there or downsize.
Want to lose weight and get fit? Just fucking do it.

A lot of times I’ve been told that other peoples opinions don’t matter, don’t worry what people think of you etc. it never worked until someone once told me “Other peoples opinions about you are absolutely none of your business” ie no one controls our thoughts about others and nor should they, therefore we shouldn’t try to do it to others either. Completely reframed it for me as it’s all about control and realising that letting go of trying to control things is the only option to truly not care what others think.

Loved Kenny Everett.
its over used but Carpe Diem does it for me - cease the day

Great advice OP, I think that way too.

That a happy life requires work and doesn't just always fall into your lap. Plan fun days out, work on your marriage, our real effort into people and things that make you happy.

Don't look back your not going that way.

I use to walk into a room and wonder if people liked me; now I walk into a room and wonder if I like them.

I like that one!

If it feels wrong. Get rid of it.