What’s your genuine, heartfelt life advice?

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Feeling a little melancholy and thinking about life and all the stuff that comes with it.

What advice do you try to live by?

I’m a big believer in looking at the intention in any act, and its advice my mother gave to me that has served me well. Often if some does something wrong but was genuinely well intentioned, it’s easier to see past their mistake.

And no one can give you unbiased advice so don’t listen to everyone else - you make your own choice for you

I had abusive parents, mansion, millionaires, private school and they also put me in hospital and you blame yourself. It changed the course of my life. I have two failed marriages as I wanted to be loved and therefore was attracted to abusive love bombing men.

No one saved me. I saved myself.

Therapy at 45 visiting my childhood - made me see the abuse was far reaching and on every level. In the end they have rejected me and my children as I drew up boundaries and yes I still want them to say sorry and tell me they love me - but even if they did - it wouldn’t be enough as they wouldn’t mean it. And that’s ok. It’s ok to feel rejected. But I need to remember it’s not me - I could have been any child - they are incapable of love. Even the love they have for each other isn’t real.

Go outside. Get lost.

Never make someone a priority if you are only an option.

Teaching children to count is fine, but teaching them what counts is better 🙂

If it costs you your peace its too expensive. It was that quote that gave me the courage to leave a very very unhappy marriage. Please if anyone is living unhappily remember that and remember no one can force you to stay married, you can find the strength to leave.

Feel the fear but do it anyway.

Sometimes you just need to step outside your comfort zone, whether it's a work, hobbies, relationships etc in order to achieve your goals.

That this life is not a dress rehearsal. Work to live not live to work. And finally there are no pockets in a shroud. Otherwise live life like you mean it, your family are more important than a job and things are just crap you don't need.

@pictoosh I don't get that line?

Most people will treat you as badly as you allow them to.

You don't have to live up to anyone's standards but your own

Always be nice to people, regardless of how nasty they are.
Save money, as much as you can, as young as you can.. don't buy too much rubbish you think you need but don't, your 40-50 year old self will thank you for making life easier.

Don't waste time in the company of people you don't like and/or who don't like you.

Don't dwell on the past, you can't do anything about it, it's been and gone.

Better to be late in this life than early into the next.

I don't get it. What does this mean?

Slow down and don't rush around so much it kills you

Most people can do most things.

I don’t mean accumulating wealth or a rockstar, things that by definition only a minority can do, but skills, tasks, projects, etc. I believe that most of us are perfectly capable of building a house, writing a novel, becoming a doctor, learning Sanskrit, etc., if we have the determination and are able to put the hours in. Confidence, motivation and opportunity are all, while innate talent and intelligence are relatively unimportant.

Treat people how you would expect to be treated yourself.
Tomorrow is a new day.
Don't judge a book by its cover.

It's almost always cock up not conspiracy.

Don't set yourself on fire to keep other people warm.

Mine is similar: We always look t at ourself first in a group photo, and often only look at ourself! This is a metaphor for life: nobody will really care about your mistakes; they’re too busy thinking about their own and themselves.

Ain't that the truth

A lot of mine may be cliches but I genuinely believe in them and live by them. My main ones are:

• What other people think about you is none of your damn business.
• You’re not guaranteed tomorrow so make each day count. I try and make peace with myself before I go to sleep each night and I’m thankful each morning I wake up.
• Be kind, you never what know demons someone is battling
• You’re responsible for your own happiness and peace of mind. Never give anyone else that power over you.

Life is incredibly short. Live it your way, not by how society tells you too.

When you are sad or grieving: "this too shall pass". Everything is temporary, and eventually you will come out the other side, so hold on and be patient.

Don’t trouble trouble until trouble troubles you.