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Does your husband wear a wedding ring?

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2024BigWhoop · 10/01/2024 11:31

I have been married for almost 11 years and my husband has never worn a wedding ring.

He just says he hates wearing jewellery and finds it really uncomfortable.

I have never had an issue with this but yesterday my friend raised her eyebrow when the topic came up and said it’s very suspicious that he doesn’t want people to know he’s married.

I said it isn’t about that and he just doesn’t like wearing jewellery but she told me not to be so naive.

Do your husbands / wives wear wedding rings and does it bother you if they don’t?

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adriftinadenofvipers · 10/01/2024 23:00

2024BigWhoop · 10/01/2024 16:25

Wow - what an unexpected large response!

And I’m glad to see that it’s actually quite common for men and women not to wear their wedding rings.

The point my friend was getting at was that my husband would be far more likely to be approached by a woman if he weren’t wearing a ring than if he were.

I said that even if he was approached by a woman I wouldn’t be worried because I trust him.

She said that may be the case but by not wearing a ring my husband is coming across as single and he probably likes the attention that can bring him from women.

She's talking shite.

SouthLondonMum22 · 10/01/2024 23:03

Neither of us wear wedding rings and never have.

MystyLuna · 10/01/2024 23:05

Neither of us wear wedding rings. My husband does a lot of work on cars and he has already had to have parts of fingers sown back on.
If he was wearing a ring he would probably end up with even more injuries.

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DontGetMeStartedOnThat · 10/01/2024 23:07

My husband has never had a wedding ring. We've been married for 43 years, and I haven't worn a ring for almost 40 years.

SwordToFlamethrower · 10/01/2024 23:08

Yup

ActDottie · 10/01/2024 23:11

Mine does for dinner out or formal occasions but he doesn’t day to day because of his job and hobby. He’d be taking it off all the time and probably have lost it!

My dad doesn’t wear a ring and doesn’t even own one. So I grew up thinking it was normal for men not to wear them. My dad is a vet though so used to say he’d have to take it off for surgeries anyway so didn’t see the point.

In my profession though (office financial services) most married men do. I think the job that they do makes a big difference as to whether it’s actually practical to.

MadMumOfTwoHorrors · 10/01/2024 23:11

My DH has never had a wedding ring full stop. We were asked when we sorted our wedding vows if we would be exchanging rings and we said only I was having one, so we only did one ring giving part of the ceremony. He has never worn jewellery and does the kind of job where wearing a ring would be dangerous, so I bought him an expensive watch instead, which he wears on special occasions. I love my rings though, and I never take them off except to clean them. We’ve been married for 19 years now.
Marriage is about more than rings on fingers - trust and faithfulness are either there or they aren’t.

tillyandmilly · 10/01/2024 23:11

Mine doesn’t- hates wearing any form of jewellery- so no - doesn’t bother me in tge slightest!

Cincinnatus · 10/01/2024 23:12

No. In our circles the men don’t.

Bluelightbaby · 10/01/2024 23:13

My ex didn’t as was a builder and too dangerous. New DP will wear one when we’re married though as he’s in a safe job

my dad only wore his once he retired

MamPadi · 10/01/2024 23:13

My DH had one when we got married but he had to stop wearing it a few years ago (been married 14 years) because it makes eczema on his hands flare up. Doesn't bother me, I wouldn't expect him to wear something that makes him uncomfortable same as I wouldn't expect him to mind if I didn't wear my wedding ring if it gave me eczema

thebestinterest · 10/01/2024 23:15

2024BigWhoop · 10/01/2024 11:31

I have been married for almost 11 years and my husband has never worn a wedding ring.

He just says he hates wearing jewellery and finds it really uncomfortable.

I have never had an issue with this but yesterday my friend raised her eyebrow when the topic came up and said it’s very suspicious that he doesn’t want people to know he’s married.

I said it isn’t about that and he just doesn’t like wearing jewellery but she told me not to be so naive.

Do your husbands / wives wear wedding rings and does it bother you if they don’t?

Although I find jewelry uncomfortable, I wear my wedding ring. My husband doesn’t seem to mind wearing his ring either.

Snowdogsmitten · 10/01/2024 23:16

Neither me nor my husband have wedding rings.

TooMuchPinkyPonkJuice · 10/01/2024 23:17

Every day. Me on the other hand... Rarely but that's partly a sensory issue, partly a memory issue.

OzziePopPop · 10/01/2024 23:18

DH - does
I - don’t (I’m female)
My Dad (married for 50+ years) - never has
My mum - always has
It’s personal 😀

Canyoubelievethesepeople · 10/01/2024 23:20

I only wear mine when going out and DH never wears his.
Together 25 years, married 15 this year.
Your mate has got trust issues.

Teasie123 · 10/01/2024 23:22

I don't, and neither does my hubby...we ve been married 15 years 🤗🤗🤗

Passingthethyme · 10/01/2024 23:23

Mine does. I think I'd feel a but pissed off and suspicious if he didn't when I was younger, but I think that's more due to insecurity. I think finding it uncomfortable is a legitimate reason. Also if anything a ring probably makes people seem more appealing, not less

TheCatterall · 10/01/2024 23:26

Wouldn’t give it another thought @2024BigWhoop - honestly sounds like your friend projecting her insecurities and experiences onto the situation.

Teasie123 · 10/01/2024 23:26

Only reason I don't is because I've lost so many, lol. Between washing dishes and rearing kids, it was difficult to keep them safe. He doesn't wear one because he works in building and there's no point

DuchessPotato · 10/01/2024 23:27

Neither of us wear ours. We both find rings uncomfortable, no other reason.

Letsrunabath · 10/01/2024 23:29

I do, husband doesn’t unless we are going out to formal occasions. His work prevents it because of safety. Never bothered me and nobody’s ever commented on it , I think.

Plantymcplantface · 10/01/2024 23:31

nope, my husband doesn't wear his. Actually he doesn't wear jewellery at all.

sondot · 10/01/2024 23:32

Not any more, he did for the first ten or so years but he has very bad lumps in his fingers now so can't wear a ring. I think I only wore mine for 2/3 years, all it did was irritate me.

Selenitetower · 10/01/2024 23:39

Neither of us wear ours regularly, I’ll occasionally chuck it on if it goes with my outfit but we both work in healthcare and wearing a ring just gets in the way. Plus the thought of getting bodily fluids caught under it makes my skin crawl. If it doesn’t bother you that he doesn’t wear it I wouldn’t take notice of your friends comments, I assume she’s just projecting her own insecurities around how she would feel if her DH didn’t wear his ring.