Does your husband wear a wedding ring?

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I have been married for almost 11 years and my husband has never worn a wedding ring.

He just says he hates wearing jewellery and finds it really uncomfortable.

I have never had an issue with this but yesterday my friend raised her eyebrow when the topic came up and said it’s very suspicious that he doesn’t want people to know he’s married.

I said it isn’t about that and he just doesn’t like wearing jewellery but she told me not to be so naive.

Do your husbands / wives wear wedding rings and does it bother you if they don’t?

I’d be highly amused by someone who thought men need to wear their rings in case predatory women pounce upon them, talons glistening, like collarless and unchipped strays being taken up by the dog warden.

DH and I have never had wedding rings.

Yes.

She doesn’t think he’s going to cheat, it’s more the fact that without a ring on he presents himself as being single, and that in doing so he’s more likely to be approached by women than if he were wearing a wedding ring.

So although she doesn’t doubt his loyalty / faithfulness she thinks I’m naive for not realising it’s a purposeful move of my
husand in order to increase the likelihood of women approaching him and him just wanting their attention. 😂

I have no idea why she thinks women are going to be giving him attention though. I mean I think he’s gorgeous but he’s no sex symbol when it comes to other women I’m sure 😂

Mine wore his till it got to small. So hasn't worn it for years. I wouldn't worry.

No, he didn't want one and was a bit aghast at the suggestion he had one. He didn't know any men who wore a wedding ring and thought jewellery on men was strictly for 70s medallion men and rappers.

He agreed to have one so we could exchange rings during the ceremony but wasn't really keen on the feeling of it.

He wore it after the wedding but it was probably too big because it came off while he was gardening and took ages to find buried in a flower bed, then it came off again and he was unable to find it despite enlisting the help of a man with a metal detector.

We didn't replace it and he hasn't worn one since.

My Dad has one but hasn't worn it since the early 80s because it irritates his skin.

My brother in law can't wear his at work so sometimes wears it but often doesn't.

It is less common to have one for men who got married before the 70s and there is a class and occupation factor too.

My husband wore his for a few months because he thought he should but he never felt comfortable. He stopped wearing it. It has never bothered me.
We have been married a looonnnggg time.

Just wondering...for those of you with husbands that don't wear wedding rings... Do you? Why/why not? If not is your hubby OK with that? I'm not for one second saying he shouldn't be by the way! Just hoping we're not still in an age of double standards?

Yes my husband does, but, like me, he has a desk job. people working in physical roles/play sport rarely do because it can be very dangerous (although there seems to be a trend for rubber rings now to mitigate this).

I like wearing mine, my husband and I spoke about it recently and said we’d feel a little lost without them now. However, I can totally understand that some people might have sensory issues around this and I know many men who really just aren’t jewellery people, which is understandable if they have never really worn any.

I don’t think they are an indication of the strength of anyone’s marriage quite honestly. I have a few members of my family who work in physical jobs and they don’t wear theirs and I can tell
you quite categorically that they would never cheat on their wives.

I think your friends comment may have undertones of deflection!

No, I don’t. I’m not thrilled by the patriarchal baggage associated historically with the institution of marriage, and am not in favour of jewellery or a title indicating my marital status. I do wear a ring on each hand, just not a wedding ring.

We don't and recently, another woman asked me why...suspiciously!

My parents have been married 45 years and my dad's never worn a ring (or any other jewellery). My mum hasn't worn hers since she was pregnant with me 40 years ago, though she does sometimes wear other rings on that finger (one looks like wedding band, the others don't). They seem happy enough!

This is interesting, because, aged 51, I can honestly say I have never looked at the hands of anyone, male or female, to check for a wedding ring! It sounds weirdly 1950s to me, or like dress codes of the past where unmarried women dressed in a way that distinguished them from the ‘matrons’ — like married women in the Regency period always wearing caps, including under their hats, while younger, unmarried (ie considered marriageable) women didn’t.

Mine doesn't wear one. He has knobbly thin fingers so if he gets one to fit his finger it's too small to get over the finger joints. If it's big enough for the joint then it's too loose from his hand to first joint. He also dislikes wearing any jewellery so isn't inclined to get used to it with a resizer thingamybob. He's also the last guy on earth to have an affair. Never goes out alone, doesn't socialise and work is too local in a small village where he'd never get away with it even if he did want to. (But being the most attentive, loving dedicated man I've ever known, it's the last thing I'd ever think he'd bother with)

I think she's being a bitch. I can't wear my ring for long as I find jewellery uncomfortable. Why does a bloke get automatic suspicion for doing the same? This says more about your "friend" then your husband. She's naturally untrusting, would probably cheat if tempted, etc
Loads of people would never cheat and a stupid ring is irrelevant to whether someone could or would.

Hilarious😂

Neither my husband nor dad wore wedding rings.

They regarded jewellery as not something men wear.

DH and I have been married for 24 years and neither of us wear a ring. We just don't want to/ don't feel the need. I don't think either of us are presenting ourselves as single! FFS!

Your friend sounds deeply insecure. Is she very controlling in her own relationship?

Mine has never had or worn one. But we’ve been married for a very long time and I’ve never so much as suspected him of cheating.

OP I hope you have enough people on here telling you that not wearing a wedding ring is very normal for many men and even women so you can tell your 'friend' she's a deeply insecure idiot.

@joyfulnessss If it's very normal for many men, why have you said and "even" women? Just curious.

Just that more women tend to enjoy wearing jewellery overall not just wedding jewellery than men. Not on an individual basis but as a generalisation of a group. So with a group that wears more jewellery in the whole there are those that don't wear wedding jewellery or any jewellery.
Men on the whole don't wear a whole lot of jewellery. Again not talking about individuals but as a group. So not wearing wedding jewellery isn't a big leap really.

No, he lost it early on in our marriage, and actually shouldn't wear it at work anyway because it's not safe. I couldn't care less whether he wears it or not.

DH does, I don't. I was hiding my married status for various reasons when we got married and never got into the habit of wearing them.

Thing is, the "reasons" given as to why not... do they apply to men and women equally? 🤔

Yes DH does, but my Dad never had one at all - works with his hands all day (they're celebrating 50 years of marriage this year).