Does your husband wear a wedding ring?

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I have been married for almost 11 years and my husband has never worn a wedding ring.

He just says he hates wearing jewellery and finds it really uncomfortable.

I have never had an issue with this but yesterday my friend raised her eyebrow when the topic came up and said it’s very suspicious that he doesn’t want people to know he’s married.

I said it isn’t about that and he just doesn’t like wearing jewellery but she told me not to be so naive.

Do your husbands / wives wear wedding rings and does it bother you if they don’t?

Yep, this.

i don’t wear a ring. I haven’t changed my name, and my title is not Mrs. There are no external indications that I’m married and I like it that way. I don’t wear any jewellery.

it’s nobody’s business.

i saw an interesting comment the other day, about women wearing rings, or telling someone they have a boyfriend to reject a man’s advances.

What they are basically saying is you don’t respect me when I say no, but you’ll respect another man by keeping away from what’s “his”.

Yes. He takes it off for washing up because it's titanium and scratches mugs, but it stays on otherwise.

My dad didn't wear one, but he was an old-fashioned misery guts on the whole.

Mine wears his. I'm surprised he's not lost it as he's always twiddling with it.

I have to take mine off sometimes for a week or two as I get contact dermatitis under them so I need to let the skin heal. Otherwise I wear my wedding and engagements rings.

We both wear ours. But I would absolutely not accept it if my husband didn't but the expectation was that I did.

Yes we both wear ours. My dad has never worn a wedding ring but that's because my mum chose and bought the wedding rings without him being there, and she bought them both in the same size 🤦‍♀️ she has relatively big hands so either she wasn't thinking or thought well I have quite big hands it'll be fine. 53 years later and she still wears both of them. I don't know why they didn't replace or enlarge them but my mums always worn both!

I'm divorced now, but my ExDH always wore his although I regually didn't wear mine because of work. I wouldn't have thought twice about it if he'd chosen not to. I find it strange that anyone one else would really have an opinion on it.
Your friend dropping hints that theres ulterior reasons for your husband not wearing it - that says more about her than your husband.

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DH does but I wouldn't have been bothered had he decided not to. I wear one except for the time when I had to have it cut off and resized because my fingers had got bigger ( occupational hazard in the females in my family). It felt quite strange without it so I wore a wide dress ring instead. I don't think anything of it regarding anyone else though - wear one, don't wear one, it's all a matter of personal choice.

i saw an interesting comment the other day, about women wearing rings, or telling someone they have a boyfriend to reject a man’s advances.
What they are basically saying is you don’t respect me when I say no, but you’ll respect another man by keeping away from what’s “his

If you wear a ring, you don’t need to say no because the question doesn’t get asked in the first place.

At least, not as often.

My dad is awesome to mom and wore his ring once in their marriage. Husband wears his, I don’t wear mine. It catches in my hair and I don’t do jewelry. I do wear on special occasions.

You can look into getting him a cooler ring. Or silicone- you don’t feel it. Still catches in hair.

i wouldn’t worry about cheating unless you have other reasons to.

Yes. He has never taken it off since I put it on his finger.

No. He has a manual job and it would be too dangerous.

He has it in a box on the side at home.

He wore it for about a year then got it caught on a window handle and it de gloved part of his finger. Because of the scarring he hasn’t worn it since. I have never given it much thought.

Yes, he takes it off to cook sometimes though (eg, kneading dough etc).

I get dermatitis in the winter sometimes so switch my ring between my left and right hands if my left hand is sore.

My parents wear theirs too (though neither are the originals anymore)

DH, DB, and both my father and DH's father didn't ever have a wedding ring. Just not considered a thing really 40 years ago or before.

This isn't quite true. It was still considered a thing. Like now, some people chose to wear their wedding rings and some didn't- for a multitude of reasons I'm sure. But to say it wasn't a thing is a bit of a generalisation. I know my dad wore his and he and my mum were married 50 years. My FIL wears his too and he and MIL have been married 48 years. My grandfathers also wore theirs and were married in the 1930s and 1940s respectively. So it was a thing well beyond the past 40 years.
That isn't intended to sound judgmental. There'll be plenty who didn't wear their rings too so it's personal circumstance and choice.

Not considered a thing by who? My Grandad always wore a wedding ring and they'd have been married 64 years now if they were still here.

I suspect it was different in other circles. Growing up, I didn't know any men at all who wore wedding rings.

highly likely that men who did physical jobs where rings could get caught were the ones not wearing rings.

@Nonamesleft1 that's probably the answer.

Yes he does but he has arthritis in his fingers now so is getting to the point where he can't wear it comfortably. I've told him to remove it before it becomes a problem but he refuses.

Yes, my husband always wears his wedding ring. My dad (who would be 98 if he was here) wore a signet ring as his wedding ring.