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Does your husband wear a wedding ring?

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2024BigWhoop · 10/01/2024 11:31

I have been married for almost 11 years and my husband has never worn a wedding ring.

He just says he hates wearing jewellery and finds it really uncomfortable.

I have never had an issue with this but yesterday my friend raised her eyebrow when the topic came up and said it’s very suspicious that he doesn’t want people to know he’s married.

I said it isn’t about that and he just doesn’t like wearing jewellery but she told me not to be so naive.

Do your husbands / wives wear wedding rings and does it bother you if they don’t?

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Bells3032 · 10/01/2024 15:20

Mines never had one let alone worn one (in our religious ceremony the man doesn't get a ring). he just didn't want to - no more than that. my father, his father, my brother in law have never worn rings either and all had long and faithful marriages.

Honestly a ring has never stopped anyone cheating and they can come off easily. in fact i do think sometimes it can make a man more intriguing to a more forward type of woman. the truth is I trust my husband, i wouldn't have married him if I didn't and a ring isn't going to change that/

TBH i often forget to put mine on (have a toddler and have scratched her a few times so don't wear it in the house) and it's really not a big deal.

user1471556818 · 10/01/2024 15:41

Yes he does all the time. I've lost 2 and mainly dont wear the 3rd one .Been faithfully married over 30yrs. It'd just a ring

Turfwars · 10/01/2024 15:48

No I don't think he ever will. We got one off amazon for the ceremony and it didn't even come on honeymoon with us. He's not a jewellery person and has never worn any. Years ago I got him a chain and he genuinely loved it but he forgets half the time to put it back on. He got himself a watch that he never wore, then that got replaced with a smart watch and he's started to forget to put that on too so a wedding ring was always going to be something he'd forget to wear I think.
I've no concerns or suspicions, the way I see it is that either a person will value their marriage or they won't, a ring won't change that.

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LorlieS · 10/01/2024 16:13

@Bells3032 How come the woman gets one but the man doesn't?

Bells3032 · 10/01/2024 16:16

LorlieS · 10/01/2024 16:13

@Bells3032 How come the woman gets one but the man doesn't?

Cos we are more special. lol. it's an old fashioned religion. the ring also has to cost a certain amount as they're effectively "purchasing" you. not great in principle i know. Women also don't say a single word during the ceremony and the man get's literally 10 words in total.

hotdiggetydog · 10/01/2024 16:18

Not wanting to wear a wedding ring and not wanting people to know you are married are two different things.

SunflowerSeeds123 · 10/01/2024 16:22

When I was married, he didn't, no. He never wore any jewellery. I wore a wedding ring throughout our marriage but have recently taken it off.

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2024BigWhoop · 10/01/2024 16:25

Wow - what an unexpected large response!

And I’m glad to see that it’s actually quite common for men and women not to wear their wedding rings.

The point my friend was getting at was that my husband would be far more likely to be approached by a woman if he weren’t wearing a ring than if he were.

I said that even if he was approached by a woman I wouldn’t be worried because I trust him.

She said that may be the case but by not wearing a ring my husband is coming across as single and he probably likes the attention that can bring him from women.

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WhereIsMyLight · 10/01/2024 16:31

We did but now don’t. We both picked rings and exchanged them as part of the ceremony. We wore them for maybe two years. We then started losing some weight, my rings went flying across the kitchen. I couldn’t wear spacers with them due to the nature of my rings. I did eventually get one of my grandma’s ring resized and wore that for a bit and DH got his resized and wore his for a bit. But then we put weight back on. Mine would probably fit me as I didn’t resize my original ones, DH’s doesn’t, but neither of us want to wear them.

I last saw them on the day we moved house and I moved them into one of the boxes that were coming up with us as the removals wouldn’t take jewellery. Don’t know where they’ve ended up since though.

WeneedSamVimesonthecase · 10/01/2024 16:36

I don't think DH has taken his off since I put it on his finger 15 years ago.

Dacadactyl · 10/01/2024 16:39

Yes he does wear a wedding ring and I would be massively bothered if he didn't.

YouJustDoYou · 10/01/2024 16:42

Mine lost his and we haven't been bothered to replace it.

YouJustDoYou · 10/01/2024 16:42

Bells3032 · 10/01/2024 15:20

Mines never had one let alone worn one (in our religious ceremony the man doesn't get a ring). he just didn't want to - no more than that. my father, his father, my brother in law have never worn rings either and all had long and faithful marriages.

Honestly a ring has never stopped anyone cheating and they can come off easily. in fact i do think sometimes it can make a man more intriguing to a more forward type of woman. the truth is I trust my husband, i wouldn't have married him if I didn't and a ring isn't going to change that/

TBH i often forget to put mine on (have a toddler and have scratched her a few times so don't wear it in the house) and it's really not a big deal.

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Devilsmommy · 10/01/2024 16:46

Me and DH both do. I take mine off if I'm washing up or giving little one a bath but DH has never taken his off

OneTuTuThree · 10/01/2024 16:47

Mine has never owned or worn one. He hates jewellery with the exception of a wristwatch.
I only wear mine on special occasions.

cassgate · 10/01/2024 16:48

Nope, and never had one. Been together over 30 years married for 16. I wear one but I love rings and have always worn a ring on my wedding finger anyway, even as a teen. He didn’t want one even for the ceremony so we didn’t even do the ring bit at the service as it’s not a legal requirement to do it. He gave me my wedding and engagement ring on the morning of our wedding and put them both on my finger before we got married. Our whole wedding was a bit unconventional though.

Hatty65 · 10/01/2024 16:55

@2024BigWhoop I'll say it again, OP. Your friend is weird. And rude.

It's seriously odd to tell you 'he's coming across as single and probably likes the attention'. Perhaps my DH is hideously unattractive, but he's never been approached by a strange woman offering herself to him due to his lack of wedding ring.

inappropriateraspberry · 10/01/2024 16:57

2024BigWhoop · 10/01/2024 16:25

Wow - what an unexpected large response!

And I’m glad to see that it’s actually quite common for men and women not to wear their wedding rings.

The point my friend was getting at was that my husband would be far more likely to be approached by a woman if he weren’t wearing a ring than if he were.

I said that even if he was approached by a woman I wouldn’t be worried because I trust him.

She said that may be the case but by not wearing a ring my husband is coming across as single and he probably likes the attention that can bring him from women.

How ridiculous. You have to be pretty insecure about your marriage to think that!

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2024BigWhoop · 10/01/2024 17:05

Hatty65 · 10/01/2024 16:55

@2024BigWhoop I'll say it again, OP. Your friend is weird. And rude.

It's seriously odd to tell you 'he's coming across as single and probably likes the attention'. Perhaps my DH is hideously unattractive, but he's never been approached by a strange woman offering herself to him due to his lack of wedding ring.

Nor mine 😂😂

I mean I think he’s gorgeous but I don’t think random women are rushing over to introduce themselves 😂

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Arabaloosa · 10/01/2024 17:10

We only wore ours for the ceremony and the week of honeymoon afterwards. Then it was back in the jewellery box with them! Husband is a blacksmith, and I have horses and other assorted farm critters, so both not really ideal for wearing rings. I know someone who lost a finger when doing their horse's rug in a field, untied. Horse spooked and bolted off. Edge of the T clip of the surcingle had slightly hooked under her ring, and the force of horse going full pelt yanked her whole finger off 🤢

bishbashboshjobsagoodun · 10/01/2024 17:13

My DH does although he is still getting used to wearing a ring as he's never worn one before! We got married in August. I wear mine. I am also wearing my late DM's wedding ring on my right hand.

BIossomtoes · 10/01/2024 17:22

I wear my mum’s wedding ring on my right hand too. I love having part of her with me all the time.

RufustheFactualReindeer · 10/01/2024 17:23

My husband wears a wedding ring…i do not

PurpleReindeer2 · 10/01/2024 17:26

Yes he wears his wedding ring.

LorlieS · 10/01/2024 17:45

@Bells3032 Gosh. As a feminist I'd struggle with that.
My wedding ceremony was the complete opposite; you couldn't shut me up!!