Does your husband wear a wedding ring?

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I have been married for almost 11 years and my husband has never worn a wedding ring.

He just says he hates wearing jewellery and finds it really uncomfortable.

I have never had an issue with this but yesterday my friend raised her eyebrow when the topic came up and said it’s very suspicious that he doesn’t want people to know he’s married.

I said it isn’t about that and he just doesn’t like wearing jewellery but she told me not to be so naive.

Do your husbands / wives wear wedding rings and does it bother you if they don’t?

I wear mine (husband). I am not a fan of jewellery either but I started to not notice it after a while.

I was against it initially.

DH and my BIL both do.

My dad doesn’t- he lost it shortly after the wedding during renovations and never replaced it.

Bit of a weird comment from your pal to be honest.

We both wear ours, and in fact the design of DH's is incorporated into one of his tattoos, but it wasn't standard for men to wear them for a long long time. My DDad has never had a wedding ring, but he's been very much married, and as far as I'm aware, faithful, for many many years.

It's not like it's hard to take a ring off occasionally if you want to play the field. A ring isn't a marriage. A man (or woman) either intends to abide by their marriage vows or they don't, but whether or not they wear a ring doesn't reflect on that.

We'd discussed it before marriage because rings are a safety issue / major risk to his finger in his work with ropes, cables, anchors etc. He has a cheap ring as we assumed he'd lose it in five minutes 😂 but he's managed to keep it for a decade so far.

He has had our wedding date tattooed on his ring finger in roman numerals for when he doesn't have the ring on. That was his choice, as he anticipated not wearing the ring much.

I was open to him not wearing any ring at all, but he wanted something for himself which is entirely his choice.

I take all my jewellery off at bedtime bar my wedding ring as it aggravates me to have rings, earrings etc on when I'm trying to sleep. Everyone is different!

Yes he does, although it isn't the original one as he broke it opening beer bottles at a BBQ one summer when there was no opener to be found. The replacement is much sturdier!

I rarely wear my rings as I'm often elbow deep in mud in the veg plot/garden and forget to put them back on. He doesn't care if I do or don't wear them.

Nope but I don't wear one either.

Yes, and I would think it was odd if he didn't want to wear one. I think if you got married without any real symbolism or importance placed on the rings, that's one thing. But definitely choosing and exchanging of rings was a meaningful part of us marrying. That doesn't mean it's 'wrong' not to, but it would feel off in the context of our relationship. Dh even does 'manual' work that involves his hands and gets him dirty and he still doesn't ever take the ring off. I don't take mine off either, unless I have to (CT scan, etc.).

I wouldn't necessarily be bothered about other people wearing rings as a couple, but I'd raise my eyebrows a bit when one partner doesn't or changes their mind and stops wearing one. That's not to say it necessarily means something bad for everyone, but I would definitely consider if there could be a reason.

Yes always

No he doesn’t, but he does work in a manual job where ‘de gloving’ occurs….

I don’t wear mine either, and I work in an office. Makes my finger a bit itchy as the water gets trapped

No he doesn't, never has, his choice and there is nothing suspicious about his lack of wearing a ring.

Your friend is lacking in common sense as if the wearing of a ring would stop someone who wanted to have an affair and that goes for either sex.

Not often. He would lose it because he would have to take it off for work for safety reasons - have you ever seen a ring degloving injury? Fuck that 🤮- so mostly he keeps it off. I take mine off for cleaning/showering too so I’m often without my rings as I’m forgetful!

My husband doesn't and never has. He used to Chef so never wore one due to that.

Married late 1980s. Yes he wears it. All the time. And I wear mine too. Both very proud and happy to be married.

We both wear them. Wouldn't bother me if he didn't

Usually nothing really changes for men when they get married. Name and title remain the same so no issues with changing information here there and everywhere. Nothing advertises the fact they are married whereas women often change their surname and their title as well as often wear a ring of some sort (engagement, wedding band, eternity etc).

If I was changing my title and my name I would expect my husband to wear a ring as his indicator to the world that he is married too.

I know my logic probably doesn't make sense.

I take my rings off to weightlift, because I don't like the way the metal grates against the metal of the weights. I sometimes forget to put them on again for days afterwards (largely because I don't have any regular ritual of taking off/putting on to prompt me). I'm not any less married in my mind and heart on those days than I am on the days I'm wearing it. (I also take them off on the rare occasions I'm working dough, because cleaning that stuff off is a bitch.)

I mean, I get your point that it would be strange to pick out rings and exchange them as an important part of your commitment and not bother with them at all after the wedding, and that also suddenly stopping wearing them after years of wearing them all the time, but I don't think that whether someone does or doesn't take them off to do messy or manual daily-life activities means jack shit. If you generally wear your ring, you probably never think about it as such anyway. It's just a thing that is on your finger. You don't get less married if you take it off to do the gardening.

Yes. His second marriage and he said he didn’t want to, I said - fine, no one is obliged to wear a wedding ring. He decided that he did want both of us to wedding rings🤣

But seriously, no one has to wear a wedding ring.

He wears a silicone one when he’s working (agriculture, handling heavy machinery and plant etc) for safety and wears his ‘proper’ one for days off and special occasions. I don’t ever take mine off, or my engagement ring.
I don’t think that not wearing a wedding ring is a sign of anything much unless it’s specifically taken off for nights out etc. Plenty of people don’t wear a wedding ring and remain faithful and plenty of people do and shag around constantly.

We don't have rings. Got married in Germany and we went for the non ring ceremony, have no idea if this is possible in the UK. I can wear my late gran's ring to make it feel like I have one but dh is quick to point out it's not my wedding ring.

Yes my husband does. He was very keen to have a ring and never takes it off.

I know of a few men who don't like wearing them though. I don't find it suspicious at all.

My dad stopped wearing one after an accident in work, where in got caught in machinery. He was too scared to wear one again after that incident. This happened before I was born, I've never seen him with a ring.

My DH has never worn one. He had one for the ceremony when we got married, but has never worn it since. He has issues with jewellery, hates the way it feels, has never even worn a watch.

A couple of friends have said similar to your friend, but I don’t take any notice.

I’m not a fan of jewellery and don’t wear my wedding ring either. I wear a watch, but nothing else.

In fact, I’ve lost mine. DH keeps his in his bedside drawers. He’s one up on me as at least he knows where his is 😂

Neither if us even know where our wedding rings are.

I dont wear mine, havent since all the covid sanitising gave me horrible contact dermatitis that hasn't really recovered

Mine doesn't. He has never worn any jewellery of any kind. Doesn't even wear a watch. We've been together 40 years this year.

Yes. But I know plenty of other happily married men and women who don't. It's not a big deal. It's personal choice.