Does your husband wear a wedding ring?

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I have been married for almost 11 years and my husband has never worn a wedding ring.

He just says he hates wearing jewellery and finds it really uncomfortable.

I have never had an issue with this but yesterday my friend raised her eyebrow when the topic came up and said it’s very suspicious that he doesn’t want people to know he’s married.

I said it isn’t about that and he just doesn’t like wearing jewellery but she told me not to be so naive.

Do your husbands / wives wear wedding rings and does it bother you if they don’t?

Nope. Your friend is weird. I know very few men who wear a wedding ring (which is possibly the generation I am). DH worked manually and would not wear any kind of jewellery. It would have been a H&S risk and he could have caught it in machinery/lost a finger.

My DF never wore a ring, still doesn't. He and DM have been together for 69 years now.

Yes.

I have a platinum ring and he has a titanium one we bought when we got married.

However we wear family rings on a daily basis, I wear one that was my great aunts (without my engagement ring) and he wears his grandads.

Yes. My husband hates jewellery but has worn it. He now says his finger feels odd if he doesn't wear it. I wear mine all the time also.

He wears it at weekends due to safety reasons at work. I wouldn't mind if he never wore it though, I don't need him to "prove" he's married to all and sundry 😂

If he wanted to cheat I doubt a ring would get in the way

@Aparecium Agreed. It shouldn't be an "expectation" for anybody to wear one should they choose not to. But if a husband chooses not to, he can't expect his wife to wear one (and vice-versa).

Mine doesn’t because it gets in the way when he plays his instruments (which he does every day). I sometimes forget to put mine on. We’ve been married 20 years, no sniff of infidelity, and they are just things, not talismans or superstitious safeguards against someone straying.

If you’re relying on another woman refusing your husband’s advances because she can see he is wearing a wedding ring, you’re not thinking in the right way about infidelity!

My DH wears his on a necklace
I've stopped wearing mine. Only my mum has noticed or passed comment. It's not anyone else's business. The fact I'm married is no one other than my, my DH's and anyone dealing with one of us as next of kin's business, and the wearing of a ring proves nothing to us or in that situation.

He didn't wear it previously as was outside /digging /using equipment and worried it would get damaged or caught and lose his finger

But would put it on once home /evening /weekend

But now and past 18mths or so he always wears now as different job

He has one but doesn’t wear it as he’s a musician and it gets in the way he does have a small tattoo on his wedding ring finger that has a special meaning

Equally my friend rarely wears her engagement ring as says doesn't want to catch it /ruin it

I do feel it's a waste of money and feel for her partner

But they aren't bothered so no one else should be

Never worn mine since don't like rings and DH gave up wearing his after a sports catch left his ring finger bleeding copiously. @FreshWinterMorning and happy to be married. "Proud" to be married seems a bit excessive ... it's not as if it's a major personal achievement, more something that two people agree to do because they love each other.

Mine doesn't wear his, it was his late dads and he wore it when we got married but has barley worn it. He never wore jewellery before we got married, it doesn't bother me. I know he's not out there pretending he's single.

Nope. He never wanted one, hates wearing any jewellery. And couldn’t wear it at work for safety reasons. Neither of our fathers had a wedding ring, and both had long, once only marriages, so it’s never bothered me. Been married 38 years. Ring doesn’t guarantee anything xx

DH and I both wear wedding rings.

It wouldn't bother me if he didn't though. I trust him.

One of my friends is in a relationship with a married man. She met him in a bar and he said he was single. I guess if he'd worn a ring she might have queried it and not got herself involved in a massive dick head.

no. wear mine sometimes and his is lost and shows up every now and then (he just got a token one for 20£ or something at the time. I don't care

Yes, he bought a titanium ring as it was more likely to survive relatively unscathed in his job.

DHs DF never wore a wedding ring and cheated repeatedly on MIL for 40+ years. Finally left her for one of them and now wears a wedding ring. It's a case study of 1 but he managed to get used to it in later life when it suited him.

Yes and he's never taken it off in 12 years, including during his two month long physical affair - clearly it means nothing!

I no longer wear mine (see above).

My Dh has never worn his, only for our ceremony.
He isn’t allowed to wear rings at work, but I don’t think he would anyway because he doesn’t like the feeling of any jewelry. The cheating thing never occurred to me 🤣

No, he doesn't because of his job.

I don't regularly wear either an engagement or wedding ring. They annoy me.

Neither of us feel the need to wear them, we know we are happily married, as do our friends and family. We don't need a symbol to prove it.

Yes DH does, my DF did but as he got older his knuckles got bigger and after a work injury had to have it cut off, they went to get another one but anything big enough to go over his knuckles spun on his finger so he doesn't wear one now but kept his original and carries it in his wallet

My DH had the blingiest wedding ring I've ever seen, platinum and diamonds, he loves it. Mine is a lot more subtle but we both wear them all the time. It's like the membership cards to our exclusive club.

DH didn’t want a ring when we got married, he’s never worn jewellery, just personal preference and doesn’t bother me in the slightest. I bough him a “wedding watch” instead. He upgraded my ring and I upgraded his watch for our silver anniversary a couple of years ago

Both of us do.

The pattern has worn off mine and DH had a new one a few years ago, because his had worn too thin, so a new one was made from that, mixed with gold from a ring of his dad’s.

Yes. Never taken it off since our wedding