What age would you quietly think is young to have a baby?

[Bebebaba]

Times are changing and first time parents definitely seem a lot older around where I am. Myself and DH are quite young but would like a family. Just curious to know what age MNers would privately think was young, or too young!

I was 22 when I had DS. Took a year of trying.

DH and I have been together ten years now. We have a mortgage, jobs, cats, etc.

But I do seem to be amongst the youngest on the school run and personally would say anything under 28 would be considered young now.

Just to add - DS is 5 now.

Under uni leaving age probably, so under 21. I know quite a few people who got married straight out of uni and didn't wait too long for kids.

I was what many would consider too young at 21 when I had my little boy. I'm now a 24 year old, single mum with a 2 year old. He wasn't planned and I was on birth control when he was conceived. I would still say 21 is young, possibly too young depending on their circumstances. I have friends from school who were homeowners at 21/22, in good graduate careers. I don't feel like I've missed out on anything to be quite honest though, we've got a good life and I'm attending a Russell group uni for a STEM subject in September

I'd say under 25 really.
I had my first just after I turned 17, honestly, looking back I could have set us up for a much better life of I'd have had a few years of adulthood to have done so.

Under 30.

But I had my first at 20, just I'm old now and people in their 20s seem so young (not in a patronising way, looking back I was young just didn't see it.).

25 and under seems young to me. I'm not going to be a judgy fucker and put a number on 'too young' for anyone else, but it's any number my DC currently are.

14 or fifteen.

I got pregnant when I was 17 and gave birth 2 months after turning 18. It would be hypocritical of me if I thought negatively about younger people having children.

My cousin was married and had her first baby by 26. I think it just depends on the person.

@Bebebaba if you's are married at 18 then yes too young.
I was married at 25, didn't have our first child until I was 30. That was due to unexplained infertility and not through choice.
We're now 35 and no other babies and this year is our cut off year for age.

You do you OP and what feels right for your relationship

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I don't feel like there's any particular age that's good/bad to have kids. I do know that in my late 30s, I have a 15 and 17 year old and can't imagine having really young kids at my age, mainly because I know what hard work it is and how much less energy I have now in comparison to my 20s.

25

25 but saying that, I’m pretty sure Dh was 25 when we had our eldest (I’m older). We were together from when he was 21 and married at that point.

I seems young and like at that age you wouldn’t have lived enough or have enough life experience, but looking back, I think we did a lot of living before we had dc, and we certainly did well in life, built successful careers, bought a very nice house, traveled, etc. So I suppose it maybe wasn’t that young. It certainly worked well for us.

Under 20 is young and anything over is normal as far as I can see.

I’d personally say under 24. But that’s really just because I’d feel for you that you’d had so little time to enjoy your adult freedom before taking on such a massive responsibility. Not as any kind of judgement or because I don’t think you could make a good job of it.

Gosh this was an eye opener!

I'd say 20 or under would be young.

I was 23 and 25 when I had mine (long term relationship, house, good job and I got married in between - all my friends already had babies so I didn't feel young at all!), so people saying 26/30 and under seems mad!

26/27

I think it depends hugely on what is culturally normal for you. Having said that I have read that women are more likely to bring forward having a baby if their sisters or close friends do, so it’s possible to set a trend.

I had my first at 26, as soon as I could having finished my professional training and bought a house. I thought I was grown up having done these things but with hindsight I was still pretty immature. My friends who had babies in their mid-thirties are better parents imo. I’m a good mother now but it took time.

Under 21, but really anything from 18 onwards, parents will manage... The younger they are the better they cope with broken sleep and the children are reared by the time they are 40.there are positives to youthful parenting.

Below 20 years.

Too young under 20, young under 25.

I was pregnant at 23, had her at 24 and had my second shortly before I turned 29. In hindsight, I was too young. We had been together 5 years and had a house though so were stable, just massively underestimated what I was sacrificing for her.
I inwardly think anyone under 25 is a bit young when I hear them announce but would never say anything. I'm 31 now and most of my friends I grew up with are just settling down now

Under 30, get your career established & lots of living done, get your life experiences done before children.