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Voting to 'Get the Tories Out'

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DewHopper · 06/01/2024 09:55

Pro Labour posters are all over this platform telling posters to vote for whoever gets the Tories out. It does not seem to matter who it is as long as voting for them gets the Tories out nationally.

It's a worrying voting strategy from my pov but I tend to vote at constituency level. If I had an excellent Tory MP who cared about the things I cared about and served their constituents well, I would vote for them. Similarly Labour ( I would absolutely vote for Rosie Duffield) or Independent.

Do those people who will just vote for anyone as longs as this will oust the Tories - and what could be a very good MP - ever consider the effects of this locally? They may have got the Tories out at a national level but saddled themselves with a useless MP who does nothing for the locality.

Take for example women's rights. I am a gender critical woman and care very deeply about the erosion of women's single sex spaces etc. I am sure that many of the 'Tories out at all costs' people feel the same. The pro Labour people keep telling us that Starmer will be better for women's rights BUT if you vote on a single issue - getting the Tories out - you may well elect a hopeless constituency MP who is TWAW and who will be standing up to every pro woman move that Starmer makes. I worry that there will be a lot of these in the next parliament.

So should we be voting on the single issue - get the Tories out? I don't think so - AIBU?

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cardibach · 06/01/2024 19:55

EasternStandard · 06/01/2024 19:46

Ha at this. I’m not delicate after you all post as you do on every thread. Come on 😂you’re all committed to telling me to stop because fucking hell it’s dull that women care, I get it.

Like I said I’m grateful to every poster you don’t badger off and continues. And every woman on Twitter or wherever that does the same

But vote how you want and I will too 🤷‍♂️

Oh and of course I’m going to do what I choose are you banning my vote?

Every thread? I think I’m on a total of 3. All started as general threads and that’s why I was on them.
Banning? What? You genuinely seem to think someone who has a different voting preference from you, and tries to explain it, is ‘dictating’ to you or ‘banning’ you. I don’t get it.
I haven’t even said who I’m voting for, never mind who I think you should vote for. And if I did make a suggestion, you’re obviously free to ignore it.

edit: why is it ‘badgering’ when I post my beliefs and argue with you or others I disagree with but not when you (or they) reply - in your case accusing me of insulting you and wanting to ban your vote?

jgw1 · 06/01/2024 19:55

lifeturnsonadime · 06/01/2024 19:47

So would I, but I give you....

baby changing in women's toilets.
Male attendants
Disabled males
& health emergencies.

You are the queen of whataboutery when it comes to ensuring women don't have access to the single sex spaces that we need to have equality to males in society.

So you didn't like my practical examples that pose problems for your ideal world view that single sex spaces should be strictly adherred to.
I fail to see who trying to further the discussion that you appear keen to have is whataboutery.

EasternStandard · 06/01/2024 19:55

cardibach · 06/01/2024 19:48

Jesus.
Why do you always say that anyone who agrees with you doesn’t care about women’s rights? I do. I just have a different view about the best way to ensure good outcomes for women and girls in the current political situation.
And I still can’t see how anyone could think more of the Tories was better for any aspect of life in this country unless they were a dyed in the wool supporter already.
Where have I insulted you, as a matter of interest?

So if it matters to you why are you whinging it’s a topic on this thread?

lifeturnsonadime · 06/01/2024 19:56

cardibach · 06/01/2024 19:51

Are there any twin rooms in U.K. student accommodation? I’m not aware of any. They’ve heavily gone for single rooms with en suites. Even in the 80s when I went twin rooms were incredibly rare.
And if you can find examples of them (which I doubt - was about to google myself) is there any evidence someone has to accept one?
There are many genuine concerns around women’s rights and trans issues. Pretty sure this isn’t one, so stop scaremongering about it.

My son is currently applying to unis, some are in London. The London ones definitely have double room options. But no they are not the norm.

It was scaremongering when women said that men could access women's prisons. It happened. It was scaremongering when women said men could compete in women's sport, it happened. There are many further examples of this.

I'm not scaremongering by pointing out the implications of the current laws. I want the incoming government to change the laws to protect women. That's not unreasonable.

LightSwerve · 06/01/2024 19:56

lifeturnsonadime · 06/01/2024 19:48

For all I know it is happening and girls have been told to shut up and that they are bigots.

It could happen as the law says the girl is wrong for objecting.

If you don't have an issue with that, that's up to you. I do.

I don't understand why you post in this style?

I am asking in good faith as I'd like to learn about it, this sort of shit comes back.

jgw1 · 06/01/2024 19:57

cardibach · 06/01/2024 19:48

Jesus.
Why do you always say that anyone who agrees with you doesn’t care about women’s rights? I do. I just have a different view about the best way to ensure good outcomes for women and girls in the current political situation.
And I still can’t see how anyone could think more of the Tories was better for any aspect of life in this country unless they were a dyed in the wool supporter already.
Where have I insulted you, as a matter of interest?

As far as I understand it, it is insulting to disagree, especially when that disagreement is thoughtful and comes with evidence.

jasflowers · 06/01/2024 19:58

DewHopper · 06/01/2024 19:49

And I was happy for her to do so - she wasn't piling on whereas some posters just cannot seem to bear that some women really do care about this.

Why are you moaning about the direction of the thread?

Why is the GC side allowed to "pile on" but opposing views have got to go and go and start their own thread.

Insane indeed!

EasternStandard · 06/01/2024 19:58

It’s insulting to tell women to stop speaking up 🤷‍♂️

And a few posters spend a lot of time doing that

lifeturnsonadime · 06/01/2024 19:58

LightSwerve · 06/01/2024 19:56

I don't understand why you post in this style?

I am asking in good faith as I'd like to learn about it, this sort of shit comes back.

Apologies if you don't like my tone, that wasn't intended.

I just get a bit frustrated when people say that because something hasn't happened that it won't happen.

This has been going on for years now. How many women and girls have to be harmed by males in single sex spaces to make women want the Labour Party to take clear action on this by changing the law to protect us? It always seems it's N+1.

ifIwerenotanandroid · 06/01/2024 19:59

@cardibach I'm going to be off MN for a bit but I'm interested in an expansion of this, if you'd care to - e.g. why would standing up for women lead to a culture war any more than failing to do so, & why would the results be worse than the culture war which will probably happen on this issue? Will look for any answer later.

'I’d like them to up their game. I think they aren’t because their (professional and knowledgable) pollsters tell them it’s not going to make a blind bit of difference to the election result but could lead to huge culture war nonsense in the press which couldaffect the result.'

Firefly2009 · 06/01/2024 19:59

Tactical voting wouldn't need to be a thing if we had a fair voting system. The archaic first-past-the-post system has created this problem.

Not withstanding that, it's like you're saying local issues might be more important than national ones. That's a whole other topic, and quite a complex one. Can I point out the obvious, that those who want the Tories out no matter what, feel quite strongly about that, and more than you do.

Is that the point you're really making? Why not just say that.

EasternStandard · 06/01/2024 19:59

jasflowers · 06/01/2024 19:58

Why are you moaning about the direction of the thread?

Why is the GC side allowed to "pile on" but opposing views have got to go and go and start their own thread.

Insane indeed!

It’s the op’s thread and clearly it’ll go towards what they’re interested in

Is there a shortage of mn space or something

cardibach · 06/01/2024 19:59

DewHopper · 06/01/2024 19:49

And I was happy for her to do so - she wasn't piling on whereas some posters just cannot seem to bear that some women really do care about this.

Nobody is piling on.
Women are giving their opinion. Don’t you like that?

Cornettoninja · 06/01/2024 20:00

@EasternStandard you do realise that you’re the only one issuing direct instructions to other posters don’t you? It’s ballsy to act like people are telling you what to do when you’re outright telling posters to start their own threads when all they’re doing is debating (debating is not bulldozing their PoV on others, although it might feel like that when they make points you don’t feel you can counter).

jasflowers · 06/01/2024 20:00

EasternStandard · 06/01/2024 19:59

It’s the op’s thread and clearly it’ll go towards what they’re interested in

Is there a shortage of mn space or something

Why are you yet again trying to shut down posters with your acerbic wit?

To me it looks like you often run out of argument.

cardibach · 06/01/2024 20:01

EasternStandard · 06/01/2024 19:52

You are berating women for speaking up

Well me to be precise

It’s tedious and insulting

Where are you being berated please?
I disagree with you and I say so. Why is that berating? If it is, then you are also berating me, surely?

cardibach · 06/01/2024 20:02

HRTQueen · 06/01/2024 19:54

In what a few polls

this has been quoted before it’s not the first time there has been an apparent surge of tactical voting

but in the end it doesn’t happen you are more likely to have non voting, apathy especially as things are just slightly improving which is predicted to continue

neither party is particularly exciting voters at present I think we are far more likely to see voter apathy

There was massive tactical voting in the last GE. That’s how the red wall fell.

jgw1 · 06/01/2024 20:02

lifeturnsonadime · 06/01/2024 19:56

My son is currently applying to unis, some are in London. The London ones definitely have double room options. But no they are not the norm.

It was scaremongering when women said that men could access women's prisons. It happened. It was scaremongering when women said men could compete in women's sport, it happened. There are many further examples of this.

I'm not scaremongering by pointing out the implications of the current laws. I want the incoming government to change the laws to protect women. That's not unreasonable.

Be careful of pointing out the implications of actions and laws. Apparently it is whataboutery.

cardibach · 06/01/2024 20:03

EasternStandard · 06/01/2024 19:55

So if it matters to you why are you whinging it’s a topic on this thread?

Where have I whinged that it’s a topic on this thread please?

cardibach · 06/01/2024 20:04

lifeturnsonadime · 06/01/2024 19:56

My son is currently applying to unis, some are in London. The London ones definitely have double room options. But no they are not the norm.

It was scaremongering when women said that men could access women's prisons. It happened. It was scaremongering when women said men could compete in women's sport, it happened. There are many further examples of this.

I'm not scaremongering by pointing out the implications of the current laws. I want the incoming government to change the laws to protect women. That's not unreasonable.

Double? For couples? Or twin for people who don’t know each other?
Many unis have double rooms, yes. You apply for them as a couple.

Cornettoninja · 06/01/2024 20:04

EasternStandard · 06/01/2024 19:59

It’s the op’s thread and clearly it’ll go towards what they’re interested in

Is there a shortage of mn space or something

Forums don’t work like that. An OP starts a discussion but they don’t get to control where that discussion goes, that’s grown by other members contributions. An OP is an invite to discuss not an instruction to only participate if people feel/think the same.

cardibach · 06/01/2024 20:04

EasternStandard · 06/01/2024 19:58

It’s insulting to tell women to stop speaking up 🤷‍♂️

And a few posters spend a lot of time doing that

Where?

EasternStandard · 06/01/2024 20:05

Telling me I only use this topic to legitimise a vote is not only wrong but insulting

I couldn’t be more politically motivated on sex based rights for women, including dd and my dc generally

And no I’m not on every Labour thread there’s many I look at and see over a certain amount of posters in a Labour echo chamber and hide. Look at all of you on this one having to have your say why would I want that Hmm

DewHopper · 06/01/2024 20:05

jasflowers · 06/01/2024 19:58

Why are you moaning about the direction of the thread?

Why is the GC side allowed to "pile on" but opposing views have got to go and go and start their own thread.

Insane indeed!

I wasn't moaning! I was responding to what someone had posted upthread.

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EasternStandard · 06/01/2024 20:06

Cornettoninja · 06/01/2024 20:04

Forums don’t work like that. An OP starts a discussion but they don’t get to control where that discussion goes, that’s grown by other members contributions. An OP is an invite to discuss not an instruction to only participate if people feel/think the same.

Well join in but don’t moan if you can’t police it and keep a topic off it

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