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Voting to 'Get the Tories Out'

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DewHopper · 06/01/2024 09:55

Pro Labour posters are all over this platform telling posters to vote for whoever gets the Tories out. It does not seem to matter who it is as long as voting for them gets the Tories out nationally.

It's a worrying voting strategy from my pov but I tend to vote at constituency level. If I had an excellent Tory MP who cared about the things I cared about and served their constituents well, I would vote for them. Similarly Labour ( I would absolutely vote for Rosie Duffield) or Independent.

Do those people who will just vote for anyone as longs as this will oust the Tories - and what could be a very good MP - ever consider the effects of this locally? They may have got the Tories out at a national level but saddled themselves with a useless MP who does nothing for the locality.

Take for example women's rights. I am a gender critical woman and care very deeply about the erosion of women's single sex spaces etc. I am sure that many of the 'Tories out at all costs' people feel the same. The pro Labour people keep telling us that Starmer will be better for women's rights BUT if you vote on a single issue - getting the Tories out - you may well elect a hopeless constituency MP who is TWAW and who will be standing up to every pro woman move that Starmer makes. I worry that there will be a lot of these in the next parliament.

So should we be voting on the single issue - get the Tories out? I don't think so - AIBU?

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CoatOfArms · 06/01/2024 14:36

I am in Scotland and lots of us have been voting this way for years, voting for whoever is best placed to give the SNP a kicking. Over the past few elections I have therefore voted Lib Dem, Labour and Conservative.

Yes it's a single issue but when you have one party which is hellbent on separating your part of the UK from all other parts of the UK, that issue far outweighs any other issue. Self-ID or taxation or any other policies can be reversed, not so much independence. So yes, at the general election I will be looking at the websites which advise anti-SNP tactical voting strategies. In my constituency for the general election, that'll probably be Lib Dem. For the Scottish parliament elections, probably Labour.

lifeturnsonadime · 06/01/2024 14:36

AdamRyan · 06/01/2024 14:33

It's similarly hyperbolic to claim Labour "will further gender ideology" on the basis of no evidence at all (and in fact, their policy is the opposite). Yet that goes mostly unchallenged and if posters do challenge it they get called all sorts on FWR (I know, I've had all sorts of ridiculous accusations thrown at me for daring to say things like Miriam Cates wants women to go back to the 50s).

One of Labour's pledges is to half violence against women, with clear steps for how they will do that. That is putting womens rights at the forefront of their policies.

https://www.google.com/amp/s/amp.theguardian.com/politics/2023/mar/23/keir-starmer-promises-to-halve-violence-against-women-as-part-of-labour-crime-mission

You are not quoting me when you say Labour 'will further gender ideology'.

I am disappointed THEY won't reverse it when it is plain as the nose on your face that it harms vulnerable women because there is now evidence that it harms women.

They could protect single sex spaces for biological women AND do other great things if they actually put women before males.

jasflowers · 06/01/2024 14:38

lifeturnsonadime · 06/01/2024 14:34

I don't mean plastic surgery to make something that looks like a penis. How ridiculous.

No one can change sex.

What insidious ideology this is that convinces some that they were born in the wrong body and to have radical surgeries to pretend to be something they can never be.

Thats not what you said, You said no woman can have a penis, well they can & thats the problem with language, people would have been pointing this out to Starmer, which is why he said 99.9%, he is a lawyer after all, so detail matters?

Of course no one change biological sex but you ve done it again, Language! a GRC legally makes a man a woman and vice versa.

Oh and as was pointed out to me (everyday is a school day) Born in the wrong body is totally incorrect, its Gender dysphoria, a medical condition.

TooBigForMyBoots · 06/01/2024 14:40

DewHopper · 06/01/2024 13:24

How on earth does it sound like I will do anything rather than let a Labour govt in when I have clearly said upthread that would VOTE LABOUR if I had a decent candidate?

And I do not need your scolding for spoiling my ballot - it's my way of saying 'none of the above' PLUS I am in a very, very safe Tory seat so nothing will get rid of the current hopeless Tory MP that I have.

Enough tactical voters will.Grin

2dogsandabudgie · 06/01/2024 14:43

jasflowers - There was a man called Dennis Avner who had surgery 14 times because he wanted to be a cat. So in your world does that actually make him a cat?

EasternStandard · 06/01/2024 14:44

jasflowers · 06/01/2024 14:38

Thats not what you said, You said no woman can have a penis, well they can & thats the problem with language, people would have been pointing this out to Starmer, which is why he said 99.9%, he is a lawyer after all, so detail matters?

Of course no one change biological sex but you ve done it again, Language! a GRC legally makes a man a woman and vice versa.

Oh and as was pointed out to me (everyday is a school day) Born in the wrong body is totally incorrect, its Gender dysphoria, a medical condition.

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Do you really believe that?

@lifeturnsonadime is right with this

I don't mean plastic surgery to make something that looks like a penis. How ridiculous.

lifeturnsonadime · 06/01/2024 14:45

jasflowers · 06/01/2024 14:38

Thats not what you said, You said no woman can have a penis, well they can & thats the problem with language, people would have been pointing this out to Starmer, which is why he said 99.9%, he is a lawyer after all, so detail matters?

Of course no one change biological sex but you ve done it again, Language! a GRC legally makes a man a woman and vice versa.

Oh and as was pointed out to me (everyday is a school day) Born in the wrong body is totally incorrect, its Gender dysphoria, a medical condition.

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He wasn't referring to women with reconstructed penises.

He was referring to men born with penises, who identify as women.

It is not me who is the one who is mangling language. Penis is male genitalia. A piece of skin used to construct something that resembles a penis is not a penis!

It is not necessary to have a diagnosis of any medical condition to identify as trans.

Cornettoninja · 06/01/2024 14:47

Happy to be corrected but I can’t think of a societal movement that has affected a political party to the point that it won or lost them parliament. Why is the current gender argument any different?

I don’t want to hear any politician nailing their colours to the mast over gender issues because it’s an issue that’s incredibly emotionally divided amongst people who all have an equal right to be represented by their politicians. Politics is generally influenced by society not the other way round surely?

Gender identity needs proper dispassionate discussion away from the desperation to win votes, I’m glad it isn’t leading the subjects up for discussion around the GE because it doesn’t need turning into any more of a circus than it’s already become. Demands to turn it into a political issue is doing neither side any favours.

How does that even work in practice anyway? I support women only spaces but what lengths are we talking about going to in an attempt to ‘prove’ that someone is in their approved space? Do people want a government approved genital checker on duty at every public toilet?

lifeturnsonadime · 06/01/2024 14:47

And as for the GRC, it needs repealing. No human should be given the rights legally to be the opposite sex. Women were not consulted on this piece of legislation which gives men additional rights at our expense.

It's absurd that this has been allowed to happen in the first place.

Cornettoninja · 06/01/2024 14:49

lifeturnsonadime · 06/01/2024 14:45

He wasn't referring to women with reconstructed penises.

He was referring to men born with penises, who identify as women.

It is not me who is the one who is mangling language. Penis is male genitalia. A piece of skin used to construct something that resembles a penis is not a penis!

It is not necessary to have a diagnosis of any medical condition to identify as trans.

That’s not entirely true though is it? A lot of controversial literature is aimed at biological women who identify as men not the other way around.

I’ve no idea why ftm identifying people are so often ignored in these discussions.

lifeturnsonadime · 06/01/2024 14:49

Cornettoninja · 06/01/2024 14:47

Happy to be corrected but I can’t think of a societal movement that has affected a political party to the point that it won or lost them parliament. Why is the current gender argument any different?

I don’t want to hear any politician nailing their colours to the mast over gender issues because it’s an issue that’s incredibly emotionally divided amongst people who all have an equal right to be represented by their politicians. Politics is generally influenced by society not the other way round surely?

Gender identity needs proper dispassionate discussion away from the desperation to win votes, I’m glad it isn’t leading the subjects up for discussion around the GE because it doesn’t need turning into any more of a circus than it’s already become. Demands to turn it into a political issue is doing neither side any favours.

How does that even work in practice anyway? I support women only spaces but what lengths are we talking about going to in an attempt to ‘prove’ that someone is in their approved space? Do people want a government approved genital checker on duty at every public toilet?

How about we revert to the original social contract that for the safeguarding of women we get single sex spaces?

Decent men know that.

It should not be too much to ask for them to do the right thing.

What's more important the safety of women or the feelings of males who are told they can't get what they want?

AdamRyan · 06/01/2024 14:50

lifeturnsonadime · 06/01/2024 14:36

You are not quoting me when you say Labour 'will further gender ideology'.

I am disappointed THEY won't reverse it when it is plain as the nose on your face that it harms vulnerable women because there is now evidence that it harms women.

They could protect single sex spaces for biological women AND do other great things if they actually put women before males.

I was replying to your point about hyperbole, not quoting you Confused
I will say again, the Labour position is: "We need to recognise that sex and gender are different – as the Equality Act does. We will make sure that nothing in our modernised gender recognition process would override the single-sex exemptions in the Equality Act. Put simply, this means that there will always be places where it is reasonable for biological women only to have access. Labour will defend those spaces, providing legal clarity for the providers of single-sex services.”

I'm not sure how much more clearly you need them to say they will protect single sex spaces before you hear it.

I understand many women don't trust them to do what they say, I am entirely sympathetic to that, but you and other posters are misrepresenting them and that's not OK.

EasternStandard · 06/01/2024 14:54

Cornettoninja · 06/01/2024 14:47

Happy to be corrected but I can’t think of a societal movement that has affected a political party to the point that it won or lost them parliament. Why is the current gender argument any different?

I don’t want to hear any politician nailing their colours to the mast over gender issues because it’s an issue that’s incredibly emotionally divided amongst people who all have an equal right to be represented by their politicians. Politics is generally influenced by society not the other way round surely?

Gender identity needs proper dispassionate discussion away from the desperation to win votes, I’m glad it isn’t leading the subjects up for discussion around the GE because it doesn’t need turning into any more of a circus than it’s already become. Demands to turn it into a political issue is doing neither side any favours.

How does that even work in practice anyway? I support women only spaces but what lengths are we talking about going to in an attempt to ‘prove’ that someone is in their approved space? Do people want a government approved genital checker on duty at every public toilet?

I don’t get this. I want a vote on this. If we’re going to have legislative change and we should then let’s decide

Women are unfairly impacted currently, not everyone will agree though so let’s use a democratic vote to decide if we should use sex or gender

As for men staying out of women’s spaces @lifeturnsonadime most people of whichever sex are decent and will be law abiding

Cornettoninja · 06/01/2024 14:57

lifeturnsonadime · 06/01/2024 14:49

How about we revert to the original social contract that for the safeguarding of women we get single sex spaces?

Decent men know that.

It should not be too much to ask for them to do the right thing.

What's more important the safety of women or the feelings of males who are told they can't get what they want?

Ok, but how are you proposing to achieve this?

The genie isn’t going back in the bottle so if we’re saying that women only spaces are being infiltrated by men who are only identifying as women for nefarious purposes how are you proposing to ‘fix’ this through legislation? Proving gender before purchasing clothes and grooming items? Proving genitalia before being granted access to designated spaces? What does this actually look like in practice? Is this the kind of power you’d be happy to grant to politicians to write legislation for?

Cornettoninja · 06/01/2024 15:00

I want a vote on this. If we’re going to have legislative change and we should then let’s decide

Fair enough but there’s not an MP offering this is there? There are opinions being offered but no one is actually motivated to put the question to a parliamentary or public vote.

DewHopper · 06/01/2024 15:07

AdamRyan · 06/01/2024 13:49

Maybe its time for a reminder of Conservative MPs who have been accused of sex offences:
Andrew Rosindell (rape)
Crispin Blunt (rape)
Ahmad Khan (sexual abuse of child)
Charlie Elphicke (sexual assault)
Peter Bone (sexual assault)
Chris Pincher (sexual assault)
Andrew Griffiths (rape)
David Warburton (sexual harassment)
Rob Roberts (sexual harassment)
Stephen Crabbe (sexual harassment)
Mark Garnier (sexual harassment, cleared but did call his secretary "sugar tits" and asked her to buy him sex toys)
Neil Parish (watching porn in HOC)
Damien Green (copious porn on his HOC computers)
Boris Johnson (accused of groping)

How on earth anyone sees this party as the "protector of women's sex based rights" is beyond me.

What about those from other parties? 56 MPs are currently being investigated for sex offences. 56!

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EasternStandard · 06/01/2024 15:08

Cornettoninja · 06/01/2024 15:00

I want a vote on this. If we’re going to have legislative change and we should then let’s decide

Fair enough but there’s not an MP offering this is there? There are opinions being offered but no one is actually motivated to put the question to a parliamentary or public vote.

As in pp Kemi Badenoch is on it, from a petition response sent 11/23.

‘On 21 February 2023, the Minister for Women and Equalities (MfWE) sought advice from the Equality and Human Rights Commission (EHRC) on the benefits or otherwise of an amendment to the Equality Act 2010 on the current definition of 'sex', as she was concerned that the Equality Act may not be sufficiently clear in the balance it strikes between the interests of people with different protected characteristics, particularly in the case of the protected characteristics of ‘sex’ and ‘gender reassignment’.

Having received that advice, the Minister for Women and Equalities has asked officials to undertake detailed policy and legal analysis, as per the EHRC’s request, to understand the impact of its advice on various protected groups and related issues arising.’

If people care and want sex based rights write say so. It all helps

The EqA amended to mean biological sex is pretty much the solution (bar repealing the GRA which I doubt has enough support currently)

DewHopper · 06/01/2024 15:09

lifeturnsonadime · 06/01/2024 13:38

I'm just totally fed up with our voting system.

We live in an area which is a safe Tory seat. I'll eat my hat if anyone who is not Tory succeeds in the next GE despite all of the rightful distain against the actions of the Tories (particularly in recent years).

We had a fantastic local MP pre- Brexit. She was ousted by Boris Johnson over her views on Brexit. Our recent one is as useful as a chocolate fireguard and turns up for Photo opps but hasn't bothered to even attempt to live in the constituency.

I have no idea who the Labour candidate will be because they don't bother to leaflet or doorstop, presumably because they know they are on a hiding to nothing.

On the other thread that people are referring to there was a suggestion that women should not have the right to be concerned about what Labour will do about women's rights vis a vis trans rights because the Tories have been bad. I just don't get that logic. We want to know what the policies will be on the NHS, public services, tax and environment so why not women's rights. Labour is a disappointment to me on this issue because women's rights are not a single issue they effect everything and have more of an impact on vulnerable, poor, disabled and religious minority women than they do on rich women. It is dreadfully disappointing that Labour are under the thumb of the TRAs and aren't using this election to put the minds of 52% of the population at rest. Framing this as trans rights is wrong. It's women's rights.

So at the moment I don't know how I will vote. I've never voted conservative and won't at this election. My vote is pretty worthless anyway. I'm not inclined to vote for a party that won't answer questions on issues that impact vulnerable women in such a pervasive way and doesn't think we should ask questions implying we're being bigoted for raising them. I may not vote at all. Which is a crying shame but is my right.

Excellent post.

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AdamRyan · 06/01/2024 15:10

The gender debate always makes me think of this quote by Professor Brian Cox (https://twitter.com/ProfBrianCox/status/1682708828880531458)

"I don’t like this sort of politics. Societies are made up of individuals with different backgrounds, opinions, economic interests and moral and philosophical positions. The primary job of politicians in my view is to at least try to navigate these differences (guided of course by their own hopefully well-thought out political philosophy) with the aim of building a stable consensus - a necessary foundation for a well-functioning and prosperous society. That’s very hard of course, but it should be the desired destination. Nobody gets everything they want in a democracy, because a free society is a collection of individuals who hold different views, but also nobody should feel absolutely defeated. This is not compromise in a wish-washy sense of the word - it’s the very essence of and indeed the guarantor of our freedom as individuals. As Feynman memorably said, democracy is based, like science, on a satisfactory philosophy of ignorance; running societies is very hard, and nobody really knows how to do it, so we regularly change direction whilst building on the achievements of the past. Understanding this requires humility, and the instinct to unify rather than to divide. Seeking division therefore runs counter to everyone’s interests because it undermines a key idea underpinning democracy itself - the idea that individuals have legitimately differing views."

I think Starmer is trying to achieve this position and Sunak absolutely isn't. I think the idea of votes on controversial issues is directly against this idea - and it doesn't work. See how divisive and vitriolic the Brexit debate was, and recent polling suggest that despite it veing "the will of the people", almost 90% if the population now think it was a bad idea.
https://www.google.com/amp/s/amp.theguardian.com/politics/2023/dec/30/britons-brexit-bad-uk-poll-eu-finances-nhs

https://twitter.com/ProfBrianCox/status/1682708828880531458

jgw1 · 06/01/2024 15:12

lifeturnsonadime · 06/01/2024 14:07

Right but should that mean that the Labour Party doesn't have to answer questions on these issues?

Because it seems to me that some posters think it's reasonable to ask questions on other policies like funding the NHS or the environment where the Tories are worse, but not on women's rights ?

I don't see the difference? Why is it ok to ask questions on some issues but not others?

In the interests of factual accuracy I would like to point out that the Tories are also worse on women's rights.

EasternStandard · 06/01/2024 15:13

AdamRyan · 06/01/2024 15:10

The gender debate always makes me think of this quote by Professor Brian Cox (https://twitter.com/ProfBrianCox/status/1682708828880531458)

"I don’t like this sort of politics. Societies are made up of individuals with different backgrounds, opinions, economic interests and moral and philosophical positions. The primary job of politicians in my view is to at least try to navigate these differences (guided of course by their own hopefully well-thought out political philosophy) with the aim of building a stable consensus - a necessary foundation for a well-functioning and prosperous society. That’s very hard of course, but it should be the desired destination. Nobody gets everything they want in a democracy, because a free society is a collection of individuals who hold different views, but also nobody should feel absolutely defeated. This is not compromise in a wish-washy sense of the word - it’s the very essence of and indeed the guarantor of our freedom as individuals. As Feynman memorably said, democracy is based, like science, on a satisfactory philosophy of ignorance; running societies is very hard, and nobody really knows how to do it, so we regularly change direction whilst building on the achievements of the past. Understanding this requires humility, and the instinct to unify rather than to divide. Seeking division therefore runs counter to everyone’s interests because it undermines a key idea underpinning democracy itself - the idea that individuals have legitimately differing views."

I think Starmer is trying to achieve this position and Sunak absolutely isn't. I think the idea of votes on controversial issues is directly against this idea - and it doesn't work. See how divisive and vitriolic the Brexit debate was, and recent polling suggest that despite it veing "the will of the people", almost 90% if the population now think it was a bad idea.
https://www.google.com/amp/s/amp.theguardian.com/politics/2023/dec/30/britons-brexit-bad-uk-poll-eu-finances-nhs

I couldn’t disagree more.

I think people get worried women can actually vote on something that impacts them.

Sex or gender is a big change, which impacts me and dd. Plus my dc actually. I’ll take a vote

AdamRyan · 06/01/2024 15:14

EasternStandard · 06/01/2024 15:08

As in pp Kemi Badenoch is on it, from a petition response sent 11/23.

‘On 21 February 2023, the Minister for Women and Equalities (MfWE) sought advice from the Equality and Human Rights Commission (EHRC) on the benefits or otherwise of an amendment to the Equality Act 2010 on the current definition of 'sex', as she was concerned that the Equality Act may not be sufficiently clear in the balance it strikes between the interests of people with different protected characteristics, particularly in the case of the protected characteristics of ‘sex’ and ‘gender reassignment’.

Having received that advice, the Minister for Women and Equalities has asked officials to undertake detailed policy and legal analysis, as per the EHRC’s request, to understand the impact of its advice on various protected groups and related issues arising.’

If people care and want sex based rights write say so. It all helps

The EqA amended to mean biological sex is pretty much the solution (bar repealing the GRA which I doubt has enough support currently)

Kemi Badenoch wants the Equality Act repealed and Britain out of the ECHR. Anyone who thinks repealing the equality act is a good idea needs to look at how disadvantaged groups, including women, were treated before it was put in place.

She is not doing this for the benefit of women. Don't fall into the trap of "useful idiot" by supporting her.

jgw1 · 06/01/2024 15:15

EasternStandard · 06/01/2024 14:09

Not aimed at the same pp but I am glad that so many have ventured over to a thread with gender ideology in the op given how bored people were of the topic

But yes Labour will further gender ideology to the detriment of women. So when it happens there’ll not be much surprise.

@EasternStandard have I understood correctly your position on an earlier thread on the subject that changing the status quo with respect to the GRA is far too difficult for the Tories to do, but that you want the Labour party to do so, because they will be much more competent at being a government?

C8H10N4O2 · 06/01/2024 15:16

Cornettoninja · 06/01/2024 14:57

Ok, but how are you proposing to achieve this?

The genie isn’t going back in the bottle so if we’re saying that women only spaces are being infiltrated by men who are only identifying as women for nefarious purposes how are you proposing to ‘fix’ this through legislation? Proving gender before purchasing clothes and grooming items? Proving genitalia before being granted access to designated spaces? What does this actually look like in practice? Is this the kind of power you’d be happy to grant to politicians to write legislation for?

The equalities act already allows for segregation by biological sex.

IME the only people who say otherwise are lobby groups who want to replace "sex" with "gender" in the legislation, and those who are desperate for the support of said lobby groups.

There is no complicated legislation needed - just enforcement of what is already there and removal the endless and inaccurate "guidances" stating that chosen gender should be the priority and affirming that sex takes precedence by default. ie the case has to be made to justify removal of sex based spaces, not to justify their existence.

Its no accident that removal of sex based protections is so popular amongst the liberal middle classes and pony club feminists like Nokes. The bulk of the victims are disadvantaged and minority women and children, not MC professional women.

EasternStandard · 06/01/2024 15:17

jgw1 · 06/01/2024 15:15

@EasternStandard have I understood correctly your position on an earlier thread on the subject that changing the status quo with respect to the GRA is far too difficult for the Tories to do, but that you want the Labour party to do so, because they will be much more competent at being a government?

Before I answer are you going to moan as you did last time this topic was being discussed?

yes or no..

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