I’ve been single for 6 years. Had one 6 month relationship in all that time. I have had approx 150 online coffee dates. I never fancy any of them.
In the 6 years I’ve just concentrated on bringing my 2 kids up, my career and making ends meet. I have a good life really, great family and friends but admittedly have been lonely for adult company. I go on holidays alone or with friends and am out most weekends doing sports or with friends.
All this is relevant as I don’t want anyone to think I’m just grasping at straws as I’m that desperate.
Anyway if I read on a thread on mumsnet what I’m about to post, I’d be rolling my eyes and jumping in with advice.
Here goes, 4 days ago I matched with someone on Tinder, there was an instant connection, and we went straight onto WhatsApp, at my suggestion. First red flag “instant connection” I mean what a load of shit, how can you “connect” with someone online??
We’ve talked on the phone a couple
of times, for 2 hours at a time. We laughed nonstop. It was just amazing.
Ok, second red flag …. He works abroad! I know! I know!! Although it’s 2 months away and 1 month home in the UK.
Third red flag- he’s 13 years younger than me! Tall, good looking and from what I can gather from the job he does, very financially secure. He has 2 young adult kids who he see regularly and an ex who isn’t a psycho.
Look I’m a veteran of on-line dating, and I’ve seen it all, but this guy I feel is 100% genuine! Although … 4th red flag I can’t find him on social media and I can normally find anyone!
Right vipers getting ready for the punchline. He’s home in 10 days and … I’m picking him up from the airport!
WTF! I am so excited, we’re talking about a future together. WE HAVEN’T EVEN MET!
He says he feels the same, he’s not gone as far to declare his undying love but he’s said loads of amazingly sweet things. It doesn’t feel like love bombing. He’s only (so he says) been in 2 relationships.
Wish I could enable voting on the App, but I’m being stupidly naive eh?
Should add, I'm in my 50's