I need a good talking to, bring me back down to earth vipers !

[GreenSilks]

I’ve been single for 6 years. Had one 6 month relationship in all that time. I have had approx 150 online coffee dates. I never fancy any of them.

In the 6 years I’ve just concentrated on bringing my 2 kids up, my career and making ends meet. I have a good life really, great family and friends but admittedly have been lonely for adult company. I go on holidays alone or with friends and am out most weekends doing sports or with friends.

All this is relevant as I don’t want anyone to think I’m just grasping at straws as I’m that desperate.

Anyway if I read on a thread on mumsnet what I’m about to post, I’d be rolling my eyes and jumping in with advice.

Here goes, 4 days ago I matched with someone on Tinder, there was an instant connection, and we went straight onto WhatsApp, at my suggestion. First red flag “instant connection” I mean what a load of shit, how can you “connect” with someone online??

We’ve talked on the phone a couple
of times, for 2 hours at a time. We laughed nonstop. It was just amazing.

Ok, second red flag …. He works abroad! I know! I know!! Although it’s 2 months away and 1 month home in the UK.

Third red flag- he’s 13 years younger than me! Tall, good looking and from what I can gather from the job he does, very financially secure. He has 2 young adult kids who he see regularly and an ex who isn’t a psycho.

Look I’m a veteran of on-line dating, and I’ve seen it all, but this guy I feel is 100% genuine! Although … 4th red flag I can’t find him on social media and I can normally find anyone!

Right vipers getting ready for the punchline. He’s home in 10 days and … I’m picking him up from the airport!

WTF! I am so excited, we’re talking about a future together. WE HAVEN’T EVEN MET!

He says he feels the same, he’s not gone as far to declare his undying love but he’s said loads of amazingly sweet things. It doesn’t feel like love bombing. He’s only (so he says) been in 2 relationships.

Wish I could enable voting on the App, but I’m being stupidly naive eh?

Should add, I'm in my 50's

I'll admit he's starting to sound fishy but fingers crossed OP! If he's the love of your life he won't care what colour your lips are or whether it looks like a bird is living in your hair. And if he is who he says he is I hope you do fancy him

Just ask him to facetime you from his room. They're not cooking in every room of the villa are they?

Well, okay...here we go...

DH has no social media and I didn't until about a year ago. Not everyone lives online.

Hmm...

You're posting on here that he's calling you? Shouldn't you be answering??

I'm beginning to think that none of this is real.

Also please ask him why it would be so bad if his housemate overhears his conversations!

Not going to lie this is the most exciting part of my day

He's getting muddled, if they're in the kitchen, then he can just go to his car, them cooking shouldn't stop him moving about!

@Begsthequestion oh shhh. Don’t be a kill joy.

Refresh refresh refresh! So sad lol I should get up and take my dog out even though it's pissing down and she's looking cosy curled up in her bed

Hope it's a good call OP

Or he could use one of the three bedrooms that his housemate doesn't use...

I'm hoping it's going well. I've gone full circle. Now I want him to be legit.

No, it really isn’t. My DP isn’t on social media, he’s definitely not got anything red flag about him. I have other very normal friends who don’t do social media either. All perfectly normal. They’ve been pressured by friends into getting online but don’t see the point.

Our DSs (late teens, early 20s) have a tiny presence on SM, but neither posts regularly so you’d be hard-pressed to discover much about them. They don’t see the point in it. Of their social circles, some are, some aren’t on social media.

I guess I don't enjoy being duped as much as some!

We won't have an update for ages now, I wonder if it's a phone call or FaceTime.

Damn I need to go to the shop. Hoping for updates when I return....

If he's not legit, I hope OP asks lots of awkward questions

If he is legit, I hope OP has a good convo

Tenterhooks………

Oh im so gullible, I’m still believing him 😂

Well this is good entertainment for a dark, cold winter night while I wait for the soup to finish cooking.

If it's good 👍🏻 not expecting OP back for ages.

Still think picking up from the airport is either awkward or foolhardy. Regardless of wether he's legit or not.

And I want him to be legit.

I think the gullible ones are the ones reading the thread

Keep an open mind. Go for it! Obviously be safe and meet in a public place. Don't share any financial details. Have protected sex, if that does end up happening. Treat it as a fun experience. You can think about the long-term potential of it after, it may not even last that long.

No social media IS becoming more common these days with people previously on social media either deactivating or deleting their accounts. I think in 10 days you will know you answer anyway..or at least be better informed. Basically if he shows up will be a start! Try and keep a level head until then..and afterwards for that matter even if he seems lovely. Always be sensible.

I think the gullible ones are the ones reading the thread

who cares 🤷‍♀️😉

No chance of a meeting like in Love Actually, on arrivals... he would be sitting in a cafe having arrived on a different flight...

Just come to same conclusion