Been married 3 years, together 9 years. MIL been a nightmare since day one.
There have been stints of NC or greyrocking but now she is back in our lives because we have a baby.
It is hard to describe what she is like so I'll give you recent examples.
She came to visit a few weeks ago and I was making a meat pie from scratch for dinner. She stood over my shoulder and demanded to know what I was doing. I was confused and said I was rubbing fat into flour to make pastry. She is very shrill naturally and shreaked that in her country NO ONE makes pies or pastries because they're not as good as the professionally made ones. She then started going on about how the Nazis would shoot people in the street when her parents were younger. It was horrible. She was rude, judgmental and said "why not just leave it to the professionals?" DH was furious at her and told her she was insensitive. Her childhood stories and what she likes or doesn't like or thinks dominates any conversation.
We were watching a comedy show on tv and every time I laughed, she craned her neck, scowling at me in confusion. Making me self conscious for finding comedy funny, in my own home. (She didn't find it funny)
Had a go at ME for not tidying up enough for her visit then laughed and said she was joking when DH said "you're not a guest, you're family, so we don't stand on ceremony for you".
She's just gone home after another visit and this time she sat staring at me nursing my 13 month old. I knew what was coming because 9 years ago she said that women who breastfeed for more than 12 months are getting a sick sexual pleasure from it. I never forgot what she said and I was so tense as she stared at me. "When are you planning to finish breastfeeding?" I knew it! But I tried not to bite. "No plans."
She questioned me, very concerned that she thought it would stunt DD growth, cause weight issues. That it isn't as nutricious as cows milk and surely I want to stop??? At least she didn't accuse me of being a pedo.
I tried laughing it off and DH told her again she was rude. But by the end of the three day visit, we'd been forced to listen to her talking about babies being murdered, wars, her views on politics, on religion (she is a devout Christian and we are atheists) and the best one - a three hour lecture about why we are wrong to not watch TV every evening and instead read, do crafts and play games or whatever. She thinks WE are rigid and unimaginative.
I'm absolutely fed up of her. DH is an only child and she lives alone in London, She is early 70s, fit and healthy.
Yes she might be autistic but honestly, that doesn't excuse her shitty behaviour. She doesn't take no for an answer and her way is the only way, the right way and she doesn't stop when we ask her to.
I don't see this situation improving really!
Anyone else got a MIL like this?