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Was attacked by a stranger a few hours ago, Waiting for the police

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verylongshot · 27/12/2023 19:03

I was with my disabled mum and my nan earlier in a supermarket, She had parked in a disabled parking space. We did a small shop then returned to the car and put two bags into the boot, A man in a waiting car shouted to ask if I was 'going to fucking be all night' I got in the car and Mum held her blue badge up to show him then reversed and went to drive away when we heard what sounded like rocks being thrown at the car, Still not sure what it was but he threw something from his car which hit my mums.

Mum stopped the car to check what happened and as soon as she stopped the guy got out of his car opened the back passenger door of my mums car and snatched my phone out of my hands and threw it across the carpark, It smashed into bits. He then grabbed my elbow and dragged me out of the car onto my knees. He then called my mum (trigger warning for the words he used) a spastic cunt and walked back to his car as I got back into my mums and she tried to drive away.

To get out we genuinely had to drive by him and the guy ran back up to the car asking why we were going back around near his family, he then looked at me and asked if I wanted some more.

Was going to report it to the supermarket security but felt so intimidated that we just left. I did call them to let them know what had happened and they said if the police contact them they can send the cctv. Once we got to my nans house my nan, who had been sat in the front with my mum told me she got my mums phone and managed to record the entire thing from him running up to the car and opening the door to us trying to leave the carpark and him coming back etc.

I know this isnt the thing to be focusing on but I saved up for two years for that phone and only had it two weeks, Didn't even manage to get to my next payday on the 3rd to get it insured, I wasn't even filming him was just holding my phone.

What is likely to happen from here once the police have been?

OP posts:
VitoCorleoneOfMNMafia · 28/12/2023 22:24

Justia · 28/12/2023 06:42

Breach of privacy; the person could sue you for this or defamation of character, something along those lines.

It could also jeopardise successful prosecution as someone else said.

So it’s an utterly stupid idea.

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I don't see how they can successfully claim to have their character defamed when they've actually done what they've been filmed doing. One of the statutory defences to defamation is that the assertion is true.

Prejudicing a future trial is a bigger concern.

Another possibility is retaliation. You can get a restraining order and other forms of legal protection if you've reported a crime and the suspect retaliates. You're on your own if you shame him on socials and he finds out where you live.

VitoCorleoneOfMNMafia · 28/12/2023 22:27

SnowyMcSnowball · 28/12/2023 08:52

This is awful, but I can't help feeling there's a little more to this story than we are being told.

So what do you think could be missing that would justify how OP and her mother have been treated? I'm all ears...

Victim blamers like you can get in the bin.

Delassalle · 28/12/2023 23:16

SnowyMcSnowball · 28/12/2023 08:52

This is awful, but I can't help feeling there's a little more to this story than we are being told.

It doesn't matter what you think!

Nan has it all on film and the police can view the video as evidence of the man being the aggressor.

AmazingDayz · 28/12/2023 23:32

SnowyMcSnowball · 28/12/2023 08:52

This is awful, but I can't help feeling there's a little more to this story than we are being told.

Totally agree.

BlazingJune · 29/12/2023 08:13

Are you willing to update us @verylongshot ?
You've had lots of support here.

It's disappointing no one came to help as disabled parking is usually right in front of store entrances. You'd have had witnesses then.

And why did he attack you ? He was annoyed surely with your Mum.

Did he not see your nan filming him? She was in the front seat so she'd have to turn round to film the assault. Surprised he didn't notice.

Clearly, thick as well as nasty.

Ginburee · 09/01/2024 09:29

Do you have an update OP?

SillyLemonZebra · 05/05/2024 22:38

verylongshot · 27/12/2023 19:03

I was with my disabled mum and my nan earlier in a supermarket, She had parked in a disabled parking space. We did a small shop then returned to the car and put two bags into the boot, A man in a waiting car shouted to ask if I was 'going to fucking be all night' I got in the car and Mum held her blue badge up to show him then reversed and went to drive away when we heard what sounded like rocks being thrown at the car, Still not sure what it was but he threw something from his car which hit my mums.

Mum stopped the car to check what happened and as soon as she stopped the guy got out of his car opened the back passenger door of my mums car and snatched my phone out of my hands and threw it across the carpark, It smashed into bits. He then grabbed my elbow and dragged me out of the car onto my knees. He then called my mum (trigger warning for the words he used) a spastic cunt and walked back to his car as I got back into my mums and she tried to drive away.

To get out we genuinely had to drive by him and the guy ran back up to the car asking why we were going back around near his family, he then looked at me and asked if I wanted some more.

Was going to report it to the supermarket security but felt so intimidated that we just left. I did call them to let them know what had happened and they said if the police contact them they can send the cctv. Once we got to my nans house my nan, who had been sat in the front with my mum told me she got my mums phone and managed to record the entire thing from him running up to the car and opening the door to us trying to leave the carpark and him coming back etc.

I know this isnt the thing to be focusing on but I saved up for two years for that phone and only had it two weeks, Didn't even manage to get to my next payday on the 3rd to get it insured, I wasn't even filming him was just holding my phone.

What is likely to happen from here once the police have been?

Oh my love. This is horrendous. People
are getting worse and worse and dare I say it I think men particularly are getting worse.

I hope you’re not badly Injured.

Mumoftwinsandasingleton · 11/05/2024 23:18

This thread just popped up for me to see. Did you manage to get a new phone?

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