Hands up if you've had a sh*t day 🙋‍♀️

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My worst Christmas ever!!!

@plominoagain what a terrible shock, I'm so sorry for you all.

Ehhh not terrible just a load of hard work I'd rather not have done tbh. I went to my mothers but I did most of the cooking, preparation, and cleaning up, because she insists on hosting but can't really manage it by herself. Relatives are mostly old, ill, and profoundly deaf and slept through most of it. Brother is no real help (and actually managed to break a couple of things). I couldn't have a drink because I need to stay sharp (mum nearly started a fire in the kitchen.....). I'm going back over this morning to start on the absolute mountain of washing up etc. The whole thing just feels like a chore I'll be glad to have over with. I do it for my mum's sake really - I only have one uncle left that I actually like/know as a person, but its important to mum to feel like she's done it properly.

Still, I've got the rest of the week off work, so hey ho.

I am so sorry for your loss. Your friends sound like azzhats.

{{HUGS}} from a fellow MNer.

Christmas eve was bad. Started out plugging in a space heater in our party room only to find out it didn't work, ran out and bought a new one then relized we had no power. Fixed that then accidentally plugged the dang broken one in and blew the upstairs circuits. Then after we got everything fixed our guest turned on the bathroom light and everything went out agian... really gatta hire an electrician

None of mine did either ... as they are busy with their own Christmas' so messaging is not a priority!!

Both of my children are so ill with covid. No one ate a single thing despite cooking for hours. Spent all day on the sofa or dishing out meds. Cried in the kitchen as even without the illness I was struggling waiting for dhs cancer results.

Following a therapy session, I spoke to my dad a few weeks ago to to talk through why he is always hostile and abusive towards me, he said he would be ‘honest’, that he has never loved me and didn’t want kids. my mum, dad and siblings are now celebrating Christmas in Scotland together as if nothing happened, and he hasn’t said a word to me since. Nor has anyone else. Not sure there is ever a way back after that conversation. My mum seems indifferent.
I don’t know how I have got through the day, without a meltdown, but I did and I am proud of that. It’s Boxing Day now and I have woken up so early and I am aching so much my eyelids hurt. At least Christmas is over..

Happier times await us all. Maybe some big/small changes for next year… big hugs to those struggling/grieving and in pain.

Well australia (SEQ) ended christmas day with a massive storm, complete blackout, house flooded & everybody on facebook offering help or begging for support & phone lines down so no way of speaking to anybody till morning 😄

We're now late on boxing day with the council sending out emergency storm warnings for tonight 💫

Spent the whole day with screaming baby who suddenly no one wanted to hold anymore. Exhausted.

@Jk8 so sorry to hear about shitty day. You’re doing so well. Roll on next year.

Why was it the worst Christmas?

Yes shit.
Neuro diverse 12 yr old stayed upstairs all day and refused to come down for xmas dinner so i ate alone.
I've spent all day with her being in a shit mood and just putting gadgets etc together. Had 2 dog walks alone, this was the best part. Oh and its 0600 hrs and she's still bouncing off the walls.
I put so much effort in and not even a thanks...

Well I thought mine was a bit shit. But hearing some of you guys, mine was nothing. I’m so sorry you had rubbish days.

My 12 month old has been poorly since Friday, yesterday her temperature wouldn’t drop below 39.5 even with calpol and nurofen so we ended up in a&e. Luckily they were amazing and we were fast tracked. She has an ear infection so now we have antibiotics I’m hoping today might be slightly better. Trying to cook Christmas dinner with a baby attached to your hip is not fun and very stressful!

Just wanted to wish you a happy 60th birthday despite everything x

Some sad stories here..

Mine wasn’t shit. Just a bit boring. I miss the chaos of when the kids were little and excited. Mine are teens and once presents were opened and dinner eaten they disappeared to their rooms. Just makes me a bit sad.

Neither me or DH have big families or family nearby. So just felt a bit of a ‘small’ Xmas.

Our expectations are too high at Xmas I think. That doesn’t help.

Aaaahw that's so rude and disrespectful of them :( I wouldn't bother again

Much sympathy to all having shit times. @pollyglot ffs - take 'your' money and spend it having best time with lovely husband. Cruises, Business class flights to five star resorts etc. x

Maybe time to do things differently? Christmas with young children can be so lovely and it isn’t the same once they have grown up. It can feel lonely.

Yes @Newchapterbeckons i think we will go away next year.

Yes at least that way you are not reminded of a family you don’t have and the lonely feeling will be less. Big hugs.

Stop blaming yourself, if DP is sulking you have not ‘caused’ it.

Err...visitors refused to be put off when you said you were busy? I'd have put my foot down

Have to say I think this is totally down to family culture - when my lot get together we want to TALK, and can happily do so for hours about politics, history, books we're reading, TV and films, what the wider family are up to, etc etc etc. The idea of stopping all that to play a game is not appealing, i just don't enjoy them and find them pointless and predictable. And Christmas quizzes aaaargh. Always the worst part of the work Christmas do, who wants all that nonsense when you're relaxing with family?

If you and your kids don't enjoy this, you play a game with them. Does your DH get bored too or is he participating in the chat?

If you're all bored then maybe don't go to the IL's on Christmas (or just a flying visit, hour or two then flee the scene)? It's not that you're wrong or they're wrong, people just enjoy themselves differently.

Small kids being foul and ungrateful
Teenager (18) couldn't even manage a mumbled "Happy Christmas", let alone a card or anything else
Food ordered at some expense from supermarket decent range turned out to be low-quality rubbish
MIL burbling halfwitted nonsense at the TV all day
Couldn't even be bothered to have a drink.

Solidarity to those newly bereaved. Lost my mother just after Christmas 5 years ago so I know what that's like 😔

Aw that remark from your DD 💔 I think she was actually probably trying to show you empathy in a very 4yo way. I'm so sorry, losing a parent is so difficult xx

Is it fun to talk about politics on Christmas Day?? Each to their own. Agreed that I wouldn’t go to the in laws again if it’s boring for dc. There are so few Christmases to enjoy when the children are younger, it’s not worth wasting them on xmases that don’t suit your family.