Hostile neighbours

[Bewilderedallthetine]

I am a new member so please go easy on me :) I moved to my new house in May this year. My elderly next door neighbours are forever knocking on my door complaining. The latest bug bear from them are my bins..bin day Wednesdays, I put bin out the front of house at 8.00am, before work and take them in at 5.30 when I get in from work. In the summer it is my clothes drying on the line 8 till 5.30 on nice days..it blocks there veiw they say! We live in a semi detached with small front garden and larger back garden both separated by a fence. I get a grocery shop delivery on a sunday at about 10.30 ish..apparently its too early/noisy!. Anytime me or my son are in the back garden, they complain as we set there dog off barking!..I am so tired of tip- toeing around them its becoming ridiculous! They're old and I suppose are stuck in their ways but its becoming such a big problem for me. They have even had a go at my window cleaner about 'noisily' cleaning the windows.. This is normal every day noise isnt it? I am beginning to doubt myself ( fled from DV to live hear)

Harassment*

www.met.police.uk/advice/advice-and-information/asb/asb/antisocial-behaviour/disputes-with-neighbours/

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OP, you sound like you need a hug.

Just keep ignoring. They probably have nothing to do. I know plenty of curtain twitchers like this.

Nothing stops them.

If it gets worse ring 101 for advice. They'll put you in touch with the right people

Try and ignore them, you don't need to justify yourself or explain anything, if they want to report you for spying they will get nowhere, print out a copy of the cctv camera in private homes. Don't answer the door, don't go round there and enjoy your pizza.

I'm so sorry you are going through this, I have a neighbour like this and it's draining! Mine is a single woman in her 50s who has called the police on us and other neighbours for just living normally in our homes. If we have any work done she sends her father round who then interferes with the work being done and the trades we employ!

We have had the most ridiculous complaints (to DH never me) about car washing, planters on OUR drive, deliveries to our home.. the list goes on, its been 7 years of her absolute crazy behaviour. I laugh at her mostly but it does get me down sometimes as I know that anything we do will cause drama. She seems to actually look for things to complain about.

Eg we had a furniture delivery 7.00am, she NEVER leaves for work before 8 EVER yet the minute our delivery arrived she rushed out the house shouting at our delivery people claiming they were obstructing her drive (they werent) and she needed to leave NOW! She must have grabbed her stuff and ran to the door just to take the opportunity to make a fuss!

I dont engage with her pretend she doesn't exist and get on with my life best I can, but I refuse to let her stop me living and enjoying my home

Now they know you mean business.. IE you want and intend to get privacy and respect.... Don't give their attitude another thought op.

I’d tell them I put it up to record their harassment when they come to your door and to provide evidence that their complaints are unfounded. I’ve got a neighbour who harasses me with notes and texts about imagined acts. She doesn’t know it but I’ve collated them all as I’m building up a case against her so I let her carry on for the time being. One day she will live to regret it.

This!

How are you doing today, @Bewilderedallthetine ?

Happy New Year to all of you xx nothing much to report (nothing I cant handle)..the next door neighbours have been looking over my back garden fence..shaking there heads and going in side. Twice I have been getting into my car at the front of house with my son (we are both off until Tuesday) and they have been at the front of there house mumbling 'spying on us' etc. I think I am just going to ignore them. I got talking to a nice lady opposite me ( bless her she stopped me to ask if my son and I would go over for a New years drink/treat), she must have noticed there was only me and my son at Christmas/New year)and she asked if I have had any trouble off the old couple next door. Apparently they are known for complaining. My son and I had a lovely full hour at my new friend/ over the road neighbours house. I think we are going to like it here. Xx feeling so positive xx

Great news. Just ignore them, they mean nothing to you. If they continue looking over the garden fence and shaking their heads they are just trying to intimidate you by making you feel you are the saddo and not them,

Fab update - definitely ignore the hostile neighbours!

Seems like they are known complainers OP!
Youve got ring and coverage at the rear so they can tut and head shake all they like, but if they do raise it again id just say that you've had enough of the harassment and the ring will collate and save all of their intrusive door knocking for future reference should you decide to make a complaint.
Leave it hanging and go about your business! Goods luck.

I think you need to report them for harassment. Their behaviour is unacceptable and is definitely harassment.

So pleased you have met other normal neighbours.
I'm sure you will be just fine in your new life anyone who can get a ring doorbell and a camera installed between Christmas and New Year has got what it takes.
good luck you deserve it.

Good advice 👍

Hi everyone xx I thought I would do an update on old next doorneighbours.
In the last 3 weeks my son (who is a quiet kid) has been playing in our back garden when the weather has been dry.
As soon as he goes out, the next door neighbours let the dog out and complains that it's barking! They say my son torments the dog when all he is doing is playing with his toys in our garden. The toys are just little toy cars/dinosaurs/figures etc. No ball games or noisy games. My son doesn't call / encourage or even look at the bloody dog. The next door neighbours dogs bark whenever they can see someone out the back! We are doing the counting wild bird thing (the big garden watch) this weekend and have put a small bird table up outside. We have put some bird seed and nuts on it for the birds...World war 3 has begun because apparently we are encouraging rats etc and tormenting the dog with the birds!
Its exhausting!..All I want is a peaceful home! Just feeling stressed 😫.

You need to tell them firmly that if they continue to harass you, you will report them. And mean it.

Document absolutely everything. If it’s like this now, imagine how it will be in the summer when your son is trying to play. Please do something OP, you really deserve to live peacefully x

I am of today writing down everything in my book. Its ridiculous! My son and I love this little house. He is enjoying school and has a couple of new friends, which we would like to invite over when the weather gets nice. I would love to get a barbecue for the summer but I wouldn't dare at the moment because of the neighbours. I tell them every time they complain that they are being unreasonable.

How tall is the back garden fence? If it’s not the full 6ft I’d place a 6ft one inside my garden.

Also I haven’t read everything only your posts. Make a record of every interaction with them so that if it comes to legal blows you’ve got a written record prior and then what’s required at the time.

If they complain just fire it back. “Your son make she dog bark” yes it is very annoying that my own child cannot use his own garden without your dog barking at him.

”your washing blocks our view” I not appreciate you staring at my
undies either so I will get a bigger fence.

“the rain is flooding our garden” yes rain does tend to make things wet.

finally if you keep knocking over such petty issues that are only yours I will report you for harassment.

Complain to them that their yappy dog is barking. Tell them to bring it inside as the barking is disturbing your sons play time

' STOP HARASSING US!!'
'FUCK OFF YOU BATSHIT SAD SACKS!'
'YOUR HARASSMENT TOGETHER WITH YOUR BARKING DOG IS RUINING MY SON'S QUALITY OF LIFE'
'YOUR THE ANTISOCIAL NEIGHBOURS FROM HELL I WOULD PREFER THE COMPANY OF RATS!'

Are all acceptable and justified responses at this point. They are full crazy. Don't let them think they are grinding you down as that's what bullies want.

This, you are going to have to start standing up for yourself. You are doing nothing wrong. Keep loving your live and keep at arms lengths, don’t engage and ask them to leave you alone.

if they knock on your door, have your note book ready, title it harassment from next door and make a log in front of them.

Hang some really skimpy thongs on the washing line, with 2 pegs and tell them to stop staring at your knickers or you'll report them for being perverts 😂