Things I haven’t said out loud this week. Christmas edition

[YorkieTheRabbit]

As requested by @CousinBella
Stop with the drama, stop treating your partner like crap, it’s not his fault.
You’ve had months to sort it out but done nothing. Now it’s Christmas and you’re like a headless chicken.
We’ve listened and advised but the rest is down to you and there’s not a chance we are doing it for you.

Thank you for the years and years of love and the huge effort and care you put into our Christmases every year. I would give anything for just one more. I miss you so very much. Merry Christmas to heaven xxxx

You say you want a close family but your inability to move on with disagreements and tendency to punish people is the real bar to this.

Seriously - get some professional help - you are not entitled to be abusive when people dare to follow their own rather than your plan. It is ok to be disappointed or disagree but it isn’t healthy to be so angry when it was never your decision to make.

No he doesn’t feel like part of the family. Because you’ve been so unwelcoming that is impossible. But because he loves me he keeps trying with you regardless.

To my son: Stop slurping your bloody drink and rattling the ice around your mouth and smacking your lips. Just. Bloody. Swallow. It.

And to my sister: why did you point out my son's habit? I can't unhear it now.

Why does it take 30 minutes to wash out 5 plastic containers in the kitchen sink and why did you decide to do it when I said I was about to make supper, Just why ?

It's your fault, Mother, that I hate Christmas; you always made it so pressurised and all about meeting your needs and never considered anyone else.

Yes, I would rather pay through the nose to eat out on Christmas Day rather than spend the week before preparing for 'Christmas'

I cannot believe I got lucky enough to have you 3 and your dad. I don't want to embarrass you by telling you how much I love you constantly but you're all such nice people and I can't believe you're mine.

I don't love you anymore, I'm just waiting to get this Xmas over so I can end this relationship.

To my friend of 40+ years: it is none of your fucking business who I am abroad with this week (reader: I am away solo). You married and stayed with a complete waste of space. I do not want what you have but you would never believe or accept this.

That’s lovely

You’ve got two teen relatives you need to buy for or ask what they’d like for Christmas. They’d really like money so you can save this and transfer them some money tomorrow or you can act like knob that we know you are and claim you’ve no idea what to get them, then reluctantly transfer money in mid January. After making the lack of thought all about you.

I’ve managed to buy nice presents for your kids, that they’d like.

If only Christmas Day was the same date every year.

Do you really need to buy all those tins of biscuits and a massive thing of mini cheddars?

Just because I helped you once or twice it doesn't mean your my responsibility your in your 60s you have family friends all your facilities ring your dr yourself do your shopping yourself stop demanding I help you I literally don't KNOW YOU

dear ex you ignored your children for 6 months then fire off a text to my phone demanding to know what they want for Christmas a week before? You show up on ds birthday the other day expecting to be welcome yes he ignored you yes we saw you on camera yes he decided not to answer his silence is the result of yours and as a near adult I cannot compel him and after ten long years I have simply stopped trying IM DONE every single time I've increased your contact you shorten it everytime I enable you being a father you blow up at me im "forcing" you (to see your own children) I'm stopping you from seeing your children im breaking you financially because your "forced" to pay child support he will be 18 soon and you have lost him YOUR FAULT NOT MINE

Ffs dad will you stop bloody moaning!!!! Everything is wrong and I don't want you coming here anymore. I'm not endlessly cooking only for you to say I can't eat it because of my teeth!!!!! Ffs

I'm annoyed that you promised not to eat the chocolate coins for the stockings this year and yet again, you have consumed them. Arse.

You must think I’m fucking stupid. I know it’s you calling from a withheld number which comes up no caller ID. Three times. What was your plan going to be if I had answered? Take the hint and fuck fucking off

That’s so lovely. Xx

Be nice for once. Stop being so negative. Get help for your issues and stop dragging us all down. Nobody wants to spend time with you. And that's down to you and your behaviour. There is zero sympathy for you now. You reap what you sow.

I will never host again.

Oh my god stop moaning you feel tired/sick etc. I’m sick of hearing it. You’re so focused on how you feel at every nano-second of the day. I can’t keep listening to it or pandering to it. I can’t wait to get the hell out of here. I fucking hate Christmas

Maybe buy some fucking wrapping paper yourself next time instead of using all mine and then flouncing off in a strop when I commented on it.

And why did you fucking ignore our guests, they noticed that you went and sat in the other room and I had to make excuses for you. You joyless bastard!

Don't you remember how your dad used to ruin every Christmas by getting angry and being in a fucking strop every year? You are turning into him in more ways than one.

They’re as much your parents as they are DH’s now fucking well help look after them. Quit taking advantage of everyone else’s hospitality for the 52nd year running, making no contribution, sitting with your arms around your ‘fiancé’ of 15 years like a teenager, and start acting like a soddin adult. Oh and tidy up your house cos you’re hosting in 2024. Hahaha as if that’ll happen.

That feels slightly helpful

If you’re up there looking down on me I hope I’m doing it right. But I’m tired, and my body feels old. Can you see how big the boys are? I have put so much energy and love into them. I think about you both a lot