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Don't have present for friend

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Shithole101 · 23/12/2023 18:28

I have a friend who wants to come round tomorrow. To exchange presents I have not bought her anything because I have had other stuff on my mind. I'm not going out Xmas eve. I have loads of stuff I need to do in the house as well. I really can't be bothered . But I know I'm being horrible.

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LinnieM · 23/12/2023 21:18

I’m really confused by this thread! I think it’s time to unwatch otherwise I’ll keep on coming back adding pointless suggestions. Hope you work it out

KateyCuckoo · 23/12/2023 21:21

PepperJacksBestHo · 23/12/2023 19:58

What are you hoping for from this thread, OP? You seem to have shot down every suggestion so far.

All OP's threads are like this.

RosePetals86 · 23/12/2023 21:21

Digital vouchers are life savers! The likes of ASOS and virgin experience days do them.

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Shithole101 · 23/12/2023 21:22

LinnieM · 23/12/2023 21:18

I’m really confused by this thread! I think it’s time to unwatch otherwise I’ll keep on coming back adding pointless suggestions. Hope you work it out

Sorry that I have confused you. That was not my intention. I'm sure it will work out .

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Shithole101 · 23/12/2023 21:26

KateyCuckoo · 23/12/2023 21:21

All OP's threads are like this.

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Sorry about that . Your right they often are . But that will be because I have been through hell for years. And I'm still Healing/fighting trying to keep on top of life and small things can tip me over .

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TheFormidableMrsC · 23/12/2023 21:48

£20 Amazon voucher? Is that affordable? Or a tenner even. How much can you afford in terms of a voucher as there are lots of last minute ones you can get.

ShinyAppleDreamingOfTheSea · 23/12/2023 21:54

No she does not know. I don't tell people in real life anything.

@Shithole101

Perhaps when you do next see your friend, whether it's tomorrow or a later date, you could try and be a bit more open with her ? You seem like you could do with someone in your corner.

Lucy377 · 23/12/2023 22:03

Bake some shortbread biscuits.
Butter, sugar, flour.
Wrap em up in nice paper.

If you had cocoa powder and icing sugar google 'chocolate crinkle cookies'.
Very easy. Look and taste amazing.

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Shithole101 · 23/12/2023 22:14

ShinyAppleDreamingOfTheSea · 23/12/2023 21:54

No she does not know. I don't tell people in real life anything.

@Shithole101

Perhaps when you do next see your friend, whether it's tomorrow or a later date, you could try and be a bit more open with her ? You seem like you could do with someone in your corner.

No way. On very rear occasion I have shared something. She has not understood and talks over me. I put my barriers up don't say anything again .

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determinedtomakethiswork · 23/12/2023 22:33

I would just send her a message saying that you'd love to see her after Christmas, but tomorrow is just so hectic that you won't have time to chat.

KnowThyself · 23/12/2023 22:39

I love hosting but springing a visit on someone on Christmas Eve what kind of friend is that, I would say no and have no problem saying that as well. Stop feeling guilty.

OutwiththeOutCrowd · 23/12/2023 22:43

She sounds more like a steamroller than a friend! There's no shame in saying it's just too much for you to manage right now.

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Shithole101 · 23/12/2023 22:47

OutwiththeOutCrowd · 23/12/2023 22:43

She sounds more like a steamroller than a friend! There's no shame in saying it's just too much for you to manage right now.

Steam roller? I'm going to say no . I have no choice really

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RedVanMan · 23/12/2023 22:49

Just be honest, a true friend won't have an issue

Tonight1 · 23/12/2023 23:00

Shithole101 · 23/12/2023 22:47

Steam roller? I'm going to say no . I have no choice really

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Good idea, it's stressing you out too much. You can meet up for pressies at a later date.

ShinyAppleDreamingOfTheSea · 24/12/2023 11:16

No way. On very rear occasion I have shared something. She has not understood and talks over me. I put my barriers up don't say anything again .

@Shithole101

Sounds like seeing her won't make you feel good so probably best to cancel until after Christmas .

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Shithole101 · 24/12/2023 12:01

ShinyAppleDreamingOfTheSea · 24/12/2023 11:16

No way. On very rear occasion I have shared something. She has not understood and talks over me. I put my barriers up don't say anything again .

@Shithole101

Sounds like seeing her won't make you feel good so probably best to cancel until after Christmas .

Yeah I have. I have to much to manage today. Stressed already and no one is even here yet

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