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Don't have present for friend

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Shithole101 · 23/12/2023 18:28

I have a friend who wants to come round tomorrow. To exchange presents I have not bought her anything because I have had other stuff on my mind. I'm not going out Xmas eve. I have loads of stuff I need to do in the house as well. I really can't be bothered . But I know I'm being horrible.

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Shithole101 · 23/12/2023 20:13

dooneyousmugelf · 23/12/2023 20:00

Well did you agree to it? Is this an actual arrangement you've made? It's fine to decline, you know!

We normally see each other close to Xmas . But she only confirmed today . Its my fault really because when ever we message she Always says what you been up to and I just say not much. She knows I don't go out or anything. So generally she would think I'm around.

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KenAdams · 23/12/2023 20:16

What are your nearest (non supermarket) shops?

Newuser75 · 23/12/2023 20:17

I think you have four choices.
1, nip out and pick something up.
2, wrap something that you have sitting around the house.
3, cancel the visit
4, let her come and explain you don't have a present.

Not really sure that there are any other options here.

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Shithole101 · 23/12/2023 20:20

Sparklyhat · 23/12/2023 20:12

I think it's because the title is literally "don't have present for friend"

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Maybe. I just thought people would read the whole op rather than just the title.

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Tonight1 · 23/12/2023 20:20

Just postpone it. She only said to you today.

Jeannie88 · 23/12/2023 20:23

Shithole101 · 23/12/2023 18:54

I don't have a printer I don't know what voucher I would get anyway. The other suggestion that's a definite no ot works not work

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You don't have to print out a lot of vouchers as they are digital, has saved me a few times! X

Combusting · 23/12/2023 20:26

What do you want people on this thread to say?

  1. Suggestions for retaining the visit and getting a present are obviously unwelcome
  2. Advice to cancel - have also been provided. Unsure if those replies suited
  3. Is there a third variety of response possible that you wish to get?
padmorn · 23/12/2023 20:27

Why don't you suggest meeting at your local coffee shop and on the way stop and grab a voucher or something.

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Shithole101 · 23/12/2023 20:28

Combusting · 23/12/2023 20:26

What do you want people on this thread to say?

  1. Suggestions for retaining the visit and getting a present are obviously unwelcome
  2. Advice to cancel - have also been provided. Unsure if those replies suited
  3. Is there a third variety of response possible that you wish to get?

It doesn't really matter now.

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Siha345 · 23/12/2023 20:29

It is a bit cheeky to arrange something last minute for Christmas Eve, most people will be either busy or tired.

Maybe you could do just a quick cup of tea if you did want to see your friend quickly. If you have Christmas cards in the house I would get a digital Amazon voucher and then write the code in the card with the amount. Looks like you’ve made a bit of effort but will take 5 mins tops. But if you’re not up to it then have a more chilled time together next week

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Shithole101 · 23/12/2023 20:35

Apologies for making the thread it was pointless.

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goodgriefsean · 23/12/2023 20:36

OP you're being very obtuse.
People have suggested reasonable options for a last minute gift and you have a reason why every one is unsuitable.
People have agreed that you can reasonably cancel the arrangements or just decline if you've not already agreed but you don't seem willing to take that on board either even though you clearly don't actually want to see her.
Then you say people are missing the point.
I must admit if the point isn't 'what should I get her' or 'how do I cancel politely' then I am indeed missing the point of what it is you want from internet strangers here.

uncomfortablydumb53 · 23/12/2023 20:36

I've read your previous threads and you have a lot on your plate, especially being on your own
Message your friend and say exactly what you said here. You're snowed under and have plans for tomorrow so you'll meet up after Christmas.
Most people wouldn't be able to meet at such short notice on Christmas Eve

Sugarfree23 · 23/12/2023 20:36

Put her off, sorry I'm too busy got xyz to do.
Actually sometimes it's easier to meet out for coffee than have coffee in the house. People seem to take hours over coffee at home but will take an hour in Starbucks

OrchardApples · 23/12/2023 20:37

Combusting · 23/12/2023 20:26

What do you want people on this thread to say?

  1. Suggestions for retaining the visit and getting a present are obviously unwelcome
  2. Advice to cancel - have also been provided. Unsure if those replies suited
  3. Is there a third variety of response possible that you wish to get?

This!!! You’re not really engaging with anything OP

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Shithole101 · 23/12/2023 20:40

uncomfortablydumb53 · 23/12/2023 20:36

I've read your previous threads and you have a lot on your plate, especially being on your own
Message your friend and say exactly what you said here. You're snowed under and have plans for tomorrow so you'll meet up after Christmas.
Most people wouldn't be able to meet at such short notice on Christmas Eve

Logically I know. But I feel guilty

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Beautiful3 · 23/12/2023 20:52

Of course you can nip to the corner shop to buy a box of chocs! Or tell her to come another time, when you've bought something.

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Shithole101 · 23/12/2023 20:56

OrchardApples · 23/12/2023 20:37

This!!! You’re not really engaging with anything OP

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I have/have had hell of alot going on. Sometimes things that seem like a small issue to others are bigger to me. Things have got better for me but I still struggle alot it only takes something small to tip me.

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AllAroundMyCat · 23/12/2023 21:01

Corner shop for o look rose o or a box of chocolates.
Or cancel and meet up after Christmas.

Moonshine5 · 23/12/2023 21:04

OP why did you post this? You are ignoring all genuine suggestions. You don't want to see her and you don't want to buy / regift her anything.
Just be straight with her

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Shithole101 · 23/12/2023 21:10

Moonshine5 · 23/12/2023 21:04

OP why did you post this? You are ignoring all genuine suggestions. You don't want to see her and you don't want to buy / regift her anything.
Just be straight with her

@Moonshine5 have a read of my last 2 or 3 posts.

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Moonshine5 · 23/12/2023 21:13

Yes I did, that's why I said be straight with her. If she's your friend she will know what's going on.

JellyBeanFactory · 23/12/2023 21:15

If you're feeling overwhelmed OP, just take a step back. Message your friend and rearrange, but confirm it so you can get prepared. Maybe offer to treat her to coffee/cake/lunch/brunch (whatever you do together) and make a firm date.

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Shithole101 · 23/12/2023 21:15

Moonshine5 · 23/12/2023 21:13

Yes I did, that's why I said be straight with her. If she's your friend she will know what's going on.

No she does not know. I don't tell people in real life anything.

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SingaporeSlinky · 23/12/2023 21:15

As others have said, message her and say “I’m really sorry, I should have said earlier but I can’t do tomorrow, I really have too much to do. I’d love to meet after Christmas though, hope you have a lovely Christmas”

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