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CF Neighbours and their BLOODY PARCELS

113 replies

Blackhairblackheart · 19/12/2023 19:23

Now i try to be a decent neighbour and take in parcels for people but my neighbours constantly take the piss.

If theyve taken one in for me, as long as its not past 8pm, you nip over and grab it as soon as you can right? Not them. They do not come and get them for days, if at all, until it gets to the point we get cheesed off with moving them around and take them round there ourselves. Theyre home, they just cant be arsed to get them.

I'll add aswell this has been going on for years and i swore off accepting anymore for them and have refused a few times.

But frazzled delivery driver knocked and asked if id take in some for them earlier and i looked at her pickled because theyre home (cars are there and have heard them in there all day) and she said yeah shes sure theyre home but have missed it 5 or 6 times already and would i mind.

I didnt have the heart to tell the postie no, but AIBU to let the dog eat their bloody parcels?

ill be lumbered with moving their parcels around for the next week because i refuse to be their personal postie and take it over there as well as parcel storage because they cant be arsed to open the door, my hallway was full last time and same scenario, both home and just didnt answer the door.

OP posts:
Honeyglazed · 19/12/2023 19:24

Stick a note on your door that says only parcels for this address

job done

KindleGirlie · 19/12/2023 19:25

Is it the same neighbours? Next time I deliver the parcels I would tell them that I expect them to come pick them up or I won’t be taking them in

Batbatbatty · 19/12/2023 19:27

Return to sender after a set number of days

Crochetablanket · 19/12/2023 19:29

If you have a garage put them in there and then as pp says return to sender

Helenahandkart · 19/12/2023 19:32

My neighbour had some parcels delivered which I took in for him. They were identical and delivered on consecutive days. He came round and collected the first one. It was about 10 foot long and a foot wide, quite heavy, maybe planks of wood or something.
The next day a similar parcel arrived and took up my entire hallway and going through my kitchen doorway. I told him there was a second parcel and he said he’d come and collect it. He didn’t come for over a week. I reminded him a couple of times and he said he hadn’t had chance. I was in disbelief. Who leaves a 10 foot long parcel blocking someone’s hallway and door for a week?!
I no longer accept his parcels.

OnionOnionH · 19/12/2023 19:33

leave the parcels outside yours, knock on their door and point to their parcels and say you’ve got a delivery, in nice friendly way. Go back home, leave parcels and shut door.
I did this once for neighbour who’d had an exercise bike delivered, she stood by her door expecting me to lug it over to hers. Don’t think so sunbeam.

tinselvestsparklepants · 19/12/2023 19:34

Tell your neighbours you are leaving their parcels outside your house. They can collect them whenever they like...

LittleGreenDragons · 19/12/2023 19:34

Move them to your shed and leave them there. Then don't answer the door to the neighbours so they can see how annoying it is. Then get talked about in the Spring.

"You know 'er, lives at no.47? Parcel black hole, things go in, never seen again..."

Noshowlomo · 19/12/2023 19:36

Leave them just near your front door, especially if you know they’re in. Do you have their number to text? “Your parcels are by my front door outside, no room to put inside now due to Christmas parcels. Come quick so they don’t get pinched”

teaandtoastwithmarmite · 19/12/2023 19:37

I used to have a neighbour who would show up at my house before I'd even unlocked the door with my parcel looking pissed off!

Tweedledumdedum · 19/12/2023 19:39

I used to happily take parcels for all my neighbours, until two doors down had a hot tub delivered - to me. I was very tempted to keep it and deny all knowledge.

MagentaRocks · 19/12/2023 19:48

I take in for all but one of my neighbours after I witnessed them being in and not answering the door and they had the cheek to put a note on their door saying to deliver to us. We were both shift workers at the time and I was furious. Now if asked I say no, and why, so we do haven’t been asked for ages.

Alphabet1spaghetti2 · 19/12/2023 19:51

Just stick a note on your window saying no parcels etc taken in for number xxx.

works a treat.

mrsm43s · 19/12/2023 19:54

How will the neighbour know that you have the parcel unless you text them or take it round? In our area it's astonishingly unlikely that a courier will leave a note to say where a parcel is, and Royal mail usual say "left with a neighbour" (but don't specify which one). I've always dropped off any parcels I've taken in on my next time leaving the house - if for any reason that's likely to be a problem (weight/size or knowing I won't leave the house for a day or so) then I text them soon after taking it in to let them know and they collect it. I'd be really pissed off with a CF neighbour who held my parcel hostage without telling me they'd taken it in for me, or dropping it round!

AVeryPregnantXmas · 19/12/2023 19:56

Don't you have their phone number?

tomatoontoast · 19/12/2023 19:57

Whats stopping you from dumping them on their doorstep?

Grow a backbone and refuse any going forward.

tomatoontoast · 19/12/2023 19:58

Bin parcels after a number of days if you are going to continue taking them in. They'll soon learn to open the door.

SnowsFalling · 19/12/2023 19:59

The postie just smiled and told me they were a nightmare for answering the door when I said we'd take the parcel for no 29 but not 31 (he asked if we'd take both).

Alphabet1spaghetti2 · 19/12/2023 19:59

@mrsm43s i sign the machine with my house number. Also I always insist and watch to make sure, that a card with our house number is put through the door, or the delivery guy gets the parcel back. A name won’t work as no one has it, and we don’t have anyone’s telephone number to text them. We aren’t on the streets Facebook either - we got banned because we didn’t post or click like enough for the admins liking!

BettyOBarley · 19/12/2023 20:02

I WFH and a delivery guy told me the other day that we had been put down as our neighbours safe place or whatever you call it if they aren't in - I've never even met them! 😂 Cheeky bleeders.
I didn't take the parcel that's for sure.

IMustDoMoreExercise · 19/12/2023 20:04

mrsm43s · 19/12/2023 19:54

How will the neighbour know that you have the parcel unless you text them or take it round? In our area it's astonishingly unlikely that a courier will leave a note to say where a parcel is, and Royal mail usual say "left with a neighbour" (but don't specify which one). I've always dropped off any parcels I've taken in on my next time leaving the house - if for any reason that's likely to be a problem (weight/size or knowing I won't leave the house for a day or so) then I text them soon after taking it in to let them know and they collect it. I'd be really pissed off with a CF neighbour who held my parcel hostage without telling me they'd taken it in for me, or dropping it round!

Edited

Where do you live.

I take in parcels all the time and all my neighbours know where they are and come round for them.

I have never had to take a parcel round.

mrsm43s · 19/12/2023 20:05

Alphabet1spaghetti2 · 19/12/2023 19:59

@mrsm43s i sign the machine with my house number. Also I always insist and watch to make sure, that a card with our house number is put through the door, or the delivery guy gets the parcel back. A name won’t work as no one has it, and we don’t have anyone’s telephone number to text them. We aren’t on the streets Facebook either - we got banned because we didn’t post or click like enough for the admins liking!

You mean instead of a signature you write "no.25"? If so, that's genius, I'd never thought to do that, and have never had it done to me. You can guarantee that the card left will just have "left with neighbour" ticked, so the recipient won't know you've got it for several days until they chase the delivery, dig into the tracking information and (IF tracking and signature have been uploaded) see your number instead of a signature. But this does mean that you're likely to be holding onto the parcel for a few days - why not just drop it round next time you're heading out instead?

mrsm43s · 19/12/2023 20:10

IMustDoMoreExercise · 19/12/2023 20:04

Where do you live.

I take in parcels all the time and all my neighbours know where they are and come round for them.

I have never had to take a parcel round.

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I'm in Surrey. Everyone on my street takes the parcels round, or drops a text to say they have it if that's not possible for some reason. We have an active street WhatsAp for parcels that maybe have been delivered but we don't know who they are for (e.g. my house number but not my name and not someone I know), or for any other useful information relevant to our street, and to give away things or lend and borrow things. But we also work co-operatively to maintain an unadopted road, sow wild flowers, litter pick, move cars to allow for delivery and have an active neighbourhood watch group. We're just quite neighbourly round here.

Lorelaigilmore88 · 19/12/2023 20:11

tomatoontoast · 19/12/2023 19:57

Whats stopping you from dumping them on their doorstep?

Grow a backbone and refuse any going forward.

When i was on mat leave i went through a phase of being lumbered with loads of neighbours parcels..
I once took in a double mattress for a neighbour who I didn't know....
She lived 6 doors down. And I had a 3 week old.
Day 4 of me having it in my hallway I went down with baby in her sling, minus mattress, and said I was in, could she come up and get it. This was her bad tempered response 'why didn't you just bring it with you?!'
Now I say no.

Lorelaigilmore88 · 19/12/2023 20:12

Sorry I don't know why my post included a quote!

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