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CF Neighbours and their BLOODY PARCELS

113 replies

Blackhairblackheart · 19/12/2023 19:23

Now i try to be a decent neighbour and take in parcels for people but my neighbours constantly take the piss.

If theyve taken one in for me, as long as its not past 8pm, you nip over and grab it as soon as you can right? Not them. They do not come and get them for days, if at all, until it gets to the point we get cheesed off with moving them around and take them round there ourselves. Theyre home, they just cant be arsed to get them.

I'll add aswell this has been going on for years and i swore off accepting anymore for them and have refused a few times.

But frazzled delivery driver knocked and asked if id take in some for them earlier and i looked at her pickled because theyre home (cars are there and have heard them in there all day) and she said yeah shes sure theyre home but have missed it 5 or 6 times already and would i mind.

I didnt have the heart to tell the postie no, but AIBU to let the dog eat their bloody parcels?

ill be lumbered with moving their parcels around for the next week because i refuse to be their personal postie and take it over there as well as parcel storage because they cant be arsed to open the door, my hallway was full last time and same scenario, both home and just didnt answer the door.

OP posts:
Womencanlift · 21/12/2023 08:02

Wait until they no doubt appear on Christmas Eve looking for them and say you have returned to sender as they hadn’t been collected for x days.

If they want to use you as their depot then tough shit

And don’t take any in again

FatherJackHackettsUnderpantsHamper · 21/12/2023 08:13

Tonight1 · 20/12/2023 17:58

@Bearpawk oh...I wouldn't take in mattresses or flooring. I'd go round and tell them they had to pick it up

I misread that as 'taking it to the mattresses' and thought you were planning some kind of Mafia-style neighbourhood stake-out Grin

HamstersAreMyLife · 21/12/2023 08:33

My old neighbours regularly went away and would have deliveries dropped to me in their absence without asking. It didn't really bother me until they had an entire room of furniture delivered and were on holiday...who orders stuff when they're going away for a fortnight?! I took it in but felt bad for the teen son they sent round to pick it up, they were generally batshit though so it hasn't deterred me taking in parcels for others

bananamangoes · 21/12/2023 13:37

Stick em on their doorstop. Knock and run

FirstFallopians · 21/12/2023 13:50

What kind of psychopath orders something just to let it languish in a random neighbour’s hallway for days on end?

And I can’t even comprehend being in the house, hearing the courier try to deliver the item I’ve ordered (presumably out of want or need) and then just not answer the door?

Original poster
Blackhairblackheart · 21/12/2023 15:47

@firstfallopians and were on day 3 with them still here!

I dont get it either. If i miss something, im over there the second i realise to go get them! Let alone why go through the effort to order things and not bother to get them!

Not opening the door is one type of lazyness, not picking them up is another.

OP posts:
IMustDoMoreExercise · 21/12/2023 16:26

Blackhairblackheart · 21/12/2023 15:47

@firstfallopians and were on day 3 with them still here!

I dont get it either. If i miss something, im over there the second i realise to go get them! Let alone why go through the effort to order things and not bother to get them!

Not opening the door is one type of lazyness, not picking them up is another.

The thing is if you give in and take it round then they will never learn. You have to hold firm and not take it round to them.

myusernamewastakenbyme · 21/12/2023 16:56

I currently have a parcel in my lounge that my son got collared into taking in by the delivery guy...i wouldnt mind but i know they wont answer the door and it becomes my responsibility to get it to the right person.

DerekFaker · 21/12/2023 17:23

myusernamewastakenbyme · 21/12/2023 16:56

I currently have a parcel in my lounge that my son got collared into taking in by the delivery guy...i wouldnt mind but i know they wont answer the door and it becomes my responsibility to get it to the right person.

It doesn't though.

Bookworm1111 · 21/12/2023 18:01

This is where a Ring doorbell comes in handy. I always check who is at the door via the app and if they say it's a parcel for our NDN I just say I'm not in. We've had far too many parcels languishing in our hallway for days for me to bother now – I'd text them to remind them and would get a vague 'we'll be round soon'. The final straw was when I found out they were putting our door number on their orders and sending parcels to us while they were WFH too! Apparently they "couldn't be disturbed in meetings" but didn't care that I was! Haven't taken one in since.

Liverpool52 · 21/12/2023 18:08

FirstFallopians · 21/12/2023 13:50

What kind of psychopath orders something just to let it languish in a random neighbour’s hallway for days on end?

And I can’t even comprehend being in the house, hearing the courier try to deliver the item I’ve ordered (presumably out of want or need) and then just not answer the door?

My neighbours do this all the time. The postie will ring the doorbell (and they have a Ring camera so they know who it is) and they'll ignore it. Five minutes later they'll emerge and go out for the day. So it's not like they were still in bed and didn't get to the door on time. Utterly bizarre.

Ginandjuice57884 · 21/12/2023 18:09

My deliveries are often delivered to a mystery address on my street. They don't tell me where so I can't retrieve them. Sometimes they've been "delivered" a week until I realise.

matleavelove · 21/12/2023 18:14

Ahhh such a tough one. I am currently on mat leave and I swear deliveries arrive at the worst time! A couple of times I've been mid-breastfeed (and baby's fallen asleep) or mid-bath time and I just simply wouldn't get to the door quick enough. My neighbour has kindly taken them in a few times and then either my partner or I have gone round later to collect it as I can't carry parcels and a baby at the same time, and obviously can't leave them unattended. In the odd occasion where my partner has been stuck in traffic and it's past 8pm though I've had to leave it there until the next day as I haven't wanted to disturb their evening. Hopefully there is a reason they haven't been round quick enough but it's clearly a real issue for you so I would just refuse from now on. It's not your problem, and I certainly wouldn't have minded if my neighbour refused them as it's my parcel/issue.

Mischance · 21/12/2023 18:18

You can say No to the postie. I would just do that if I were you. I know it is hard this time of year when they are a bit frantic, but they will either leave it outside neighbour's door or chuck it back in the van.

PossumintheHouse · 21/12/2023 18:20

Tweedledumdedum · 19/12/2023 19:39

I used to happily take parcels for all my neighbours, until two doors down had a hot tub delivered - to me. I was very tempted to keep it and deny all knowledge.

What the actual f?! How did they expect to lug that back to their house? Premium CFuckery right there.

OP: sorry if this has already been suggested, but I’d ask for their phone number next time you see them and say you’ll text them so they can pick up their fucking parcels as soon as they’re delivered. And then give them a Paddington stare. Or just don’t bother, of course.

Abbyant · 29/12/2023 11:43

i give my neighbour 48hours if it’s not collected by then it get thrown outside their front door, I’ve only had to do that once and funnily enough we’ve not been asked to take anything for them since. The only exception is the neighbour to the left of us who works away and has come and asked us if it’s okay we take his parcels and he brings wine and chocolates on occasion as a thank you.

Outforlunchallday · 29/12/2023 13:00

I would dump it outside their front door and shout through the letterbox that it’s there. Take a pic for proof and never take anything in for them ever again.

FormerlyPathologicallyHappy · 29/12/2023 13:11

This is why I don’t open the front door unless I have a parcel coming. I say no to the postman too if it’s for a neighbour.

I work FT so I do click and collect for my parcels now.

Manthide · 29/12/2023 14:42

We are the usual place where the delivery men leave neighbours' parcels and generally it's fine. Twice a neighbour (different ones) has taken in one of ours - the first time delivery person had not left a note, when we enquired where our parcel was we were told - and then found neighbours had gone away on a 3 week holiday with our desktop computer in their hallway! The other time I went over numerous times to collect our parcel and they never answered the door. I finally collared them outside and was able to pick it up - it stank of cigarette smoke and cat urine!

Vonesk · 29/12/2023 17:29

Just DONT DO IT ANYMORE.
Simple.
People do take the P*
If you're being such a helpful friend/ neighbour then a bottle of Bubbly is in order for XMAS.

itsmyp4rty · 29/12/2023 17:32

Take it over and just leave it outside their door in the rain. They might answer the door in future if they're worried about things getting wet.

dontgobaconmyheart · 29/12/2023 17:41

I only take them for the neighbours we actually have some form of relationship with and are friendly with, otherwise if they don't say what number, I ask and will decline, it's just too much faff. We have a rescue dog that goes spare when the door goes so I try to limit it as much as possible.

Honestly people are just lazy. I don't have my parcels delivered to neighbours and make a point of selecting where it should be taken if I am not home (AKA a local collection point) or redelivery when I know I will be there. It's so easy to do.

RubyWinehouse · 29/12/2023 17:49

My cheeky neighbourd have a permanent sign on their door saying "please leave parcels with Ruby next door" I don't mind though as they do favours for us too.

IncreasinglyGrumpy · 31/12/2023 13:38

Not only are they being inconsiderate to you but would be a nightmare for sender if it's damaged or something and they've just not bothered opening it - I think start refusing them and suggest they get a collection box!!

Gnomegarden32 · 31/12/2023 13:44

I don’t mind at all when our neighbours do this but then again we are on friendly terms with eachother. We’ll often have eachother’s parcels for a few days and nobody minds. It’s nice.