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CF Neighbours and their BLOODY PARCELS

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Blackhairblackheart · 19/12/2023 19:23

Now i try to be a decent neighbour and take in parcels for people but my neighbours constantly take the piss.

If theyve taken one in for me, as long as its not past 8pm, you nip over and grab it as soon as you can right? Not them. They do not come and get them for days, if at all, until it gets to the point we get cheesed off with moving them around and take them round there ourselves. Theyre home, they just cant be arsed to get them.

I'll add aswell this has been going on for years and i swore off accepting anymore for them and have refused a few times.

But frazzled delivery driver knocked and asked if id take in some for them earlier and i looked at her pickled because theyre home (cars are there and have heard them in there all day) and she said yeah shes sure theyre home but have missed it 5 or 6 times already and would i mind.

I didnt have the heart to tell the postie no, but AIBU to let the dog eat their bloody parcels?

ill be lumbered with moving their parcels around for the next week because i refuse to be their personal postie and take it over there as well as parcel storage because they cant be arsed to open the door, my hallway was full last time and same scenario, both home and just didnt answer the door.

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YetMoreNewBeginnings · 19/12/2023 20:13

Stop taking parcels for them

Our house is tbt one that all the delivery people go to if someone is out as there’s usually always someone home, but they all know now that we don’t take parcels for one specific house.

They rarely came to collect them and then on one occasion had a hissy fit when a parcel was left on a Friday, we tried to drop it off Monday, Wednesday and the following Friday, but it turned out they were on holiday. They’d specifically asked it be delivered to ours, but hadn’t said anything to us. We then went on holiday for 2 weeks before they got back and I got a string of angry messages from them about how they needed it.
They then had another hissy fit when I refused delivery of subsequent parcels as they ‘needed’ me to take them in as they didn’t have time to go to the depots - shouldn’t have been a piss taking dick then.

Their biggest mistake was telling another neighbour that I was a weak softie and would relent in a few weeks. Haven’t taken a parcel in 2 years now 😆

Alphabet1spaghetti2 · 19/12/2023 20:13

@mrsm43s yes thats exactly what I do!
I figure it’s easier than trying to find the generic white door with brown mat inside picture featuring a brown slipper!
I’m doing them a favour in taking the parcel in, nope, not going to drop any parcels anywhere, I’m not a delivery service, I don’t want to be watching the road 24/7 and can’t see further than one door either side (terraced straight row) anyway. Not that I would recognise anyone to be able to say “number 286 has come home” Plus I go out as little as possible and usually only for work. If they don’t want to come and collect a parcel that’s fine, it can be returned at my leisure after it’s likely spent a year kicking around the wet garage, and they can always arrange to collect from a depot /collection point the next town over in future.

AnxiousPangolin · 19/12/2023 20:15

My neighbour used to drive me mad with her parcels. If it wasn’t texts asking me to go and get them off her porch, it was her getting them delivered to our house, even when she was on holiday. After the first few times, I told her she was running the risk of getting her stuff stolen by asking for it to be delivered to us or expecting that we would be there to pick up her parcels and she’s stopped.

You need to refuse to accept the parcels, even if the delivery driver pressures you.

Isobel201 · 19/12/2023 20:26

tomatoontoast · 19/12/2023 19:57

Whats stopping you from dumping them on their doorstep?

Grow a backbone and refuse any going forward.

I was going to suggest if there is a pile of boxes, build them all up in front of their own front door 😂

ItAintGonnaGoDownEasyIfItAintCheezy · 19/12/2023 20:32

Don't accept the parcels and tell the drivers to drop then at the collection point shop if they MUST deliver.

Ohyoudodoyou · 19/12/2023 20:34

WFH has made it easier now to not take in parcels, so someone always here but... I do occasionally get people knocking to deliver next doors parcels and I am always honest and tell them I won't take the delivery as I don't like my neighbours. Effective. I don't like my neighbours.

CornishPorsche · 19/12/2023 20:37

Go and batter the door until they answer. Dump the parcels, ask them to get an outside box for parcels as you won't / can't accept them any more.

My CF neighbour asked for all parcels to come to me last Xmas without asking me. I WFH. After 9(!!!!) parcels in one day I was beyond furious and told every courier not to bring them to me ever again. And told her I wouldn't be taking parcels in for anyone any more. I actually take them in for a few others but they are rarely out and we all help each other normally so I'm happy to help!

ollypollymolly · 19/12/2023 20:42

Open the parcels and keep them. Deny knowledge of parcels.

pretty sure the problem will stop !

Heyhoherewegoagain · 19/12/2023 20:53

tomatoontoast · 19/12/2023 19:57

Whats stopping you from dumping them on their doorstep?

Grow a backbone and refuse any going forward.

This would be how I’D do it, preferably if it’s pissing rain

welcometothnuthouse · 19/12/2023 20:59

I had a piss take neighbour who was usually at home making a racket. She had her parcels delivered to me a couple of times but wouldn't collect. Even when I took them round she wouldn't answer the door. So left on her door step, eventually I told her the courier would be told to leave them on my door step in future and if the items were nicked or damaged by rain it was tough.
Never had any more deliveries to me after the first one was soaked and badly damaged in a rain storm. She stood on the door step screaming and shouting about it.
I just ignored the silly cow.

fuckmyuteruslining · 19/12/2023 21:19

Dump them at door, lean on doorbell, walk away

Liverpool52 · 19/12/2023 21:26

The frazzled postie is their fault not yours. Stop being a martyr. My neighbours never collected their parcels and then I realised they were actually in when the bell was ringing, they just felt their time was more important than mine or the posities. I don't care how frazzled the delivery person is, the answer is no. And yes that means they now refuse ours but I have no problem going to the sorting office or rearranging, I try to avoid there ever being a need for a parcel to be left at theirs anyway so it's a rare occurrence.

AdobeWanKenobi · 19/12/2023 21:47

I believe technically, in law, if you accept a parcel for a neighbour you then become responsible for it. It’s civil rather than criminal, but leaving those parcels on doorsteps and in the rain as per some of the suggestions here could come back to bite you.

Best solution is ensure this one gets to its owner and then go with a sign.

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Blackhairblackheart · 20/12/2023 11:06

This isnt the 1st time theyve just not answered the door, not picking them up has been a constant issue and why i usually do refuse their parcels.

I thought, in the spirit of xmas i should take them in this time.

Considering they are STILL here, it will be a case of indefinite never again.

The dog may accidently get through the gate and shred them...

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LookItsMeAgain · 20/12/2023 11:36

On the off chance that they might be out, I'd take a NOTE over to these neighbours, knock on their door and if they are out, leave the note saying
"Hi neighbour, it's me from Number X. We have a parcel/package that is for you that the delivery company asked if we could look after. We're not going to be in this afternoon so we're going to leave it outside our front door for you to collect. I hope it doesn't rain today. We can't keep it any longer so if it's not collected by you today, we'll be returning to sender tomorrow. Happy Christmas to you all."
Or something like that!

Peskysquirrel · 20/12/2023 11:42

leaving those parcels on doorsteps and in the rain as per some of the suggestions here could come back to bite you.

How would it come back to bite you? They can't even be bothered to get off their arses and answer the door to the postie, never mind take the OP to court! If they did threaten some kind of legal action they don't have a leg to stand on.

TheGhostOfTheOpera · 20/12/2023 11:54

mrsm43s · 19/12/2023 19:54

How will the neighbour know that you have the parcel unless you text them or take it round? In our area it's astonishingly unlikely that a courier will leave a note to say where a parcel is, and Royal mail usual say "left with a neighbour" (but don't specify which one). I've always dropped off any parcels I've taken in on my next time leaving the house - if for any reason that's likely to be a problem (weight/size or knowing I won't leave the house for a day or so) then I text them soon after taking it in to let them know and they collect it. I'd be really pissed off with a CF neighbour who held my parcel hostage without telling me they'd taken it in for me, or dropping it round!

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Lol

So you expect

  • your NDN to collect your parcel when you’re not in
  • to then come and check you are at home to ket you know - I imagine coming to see you WITH the parcel too
  • BUT you dint have a safe place to drop deliveries at your house
  • You don’t have a safe box/post box fir parcels either
  • AND you think it’s ok fr you to be angry at NDN if they dint pop round even though the lack of not from RM (or whoever else) has nothing to do with them (and they aren’t probable aware if it either)….
Interesting position.
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Blackhairblackheart · 20/12/2023 12:15

I wfh so know when theyre home or not, can see cars and hear them in the kitchen etc.

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CornishPorsche · 20/12/2023 12:15

@Blackhairblackheart stop being so passive - go bang the door until they answer it. Hand them their parcels. Never accept another. Job done.

OnionOnionH · 20/12/2023 12:20

mrsm43s · 19/12/2023 19:54

How will the neighbour know that you have the parcel unless you text them or take it round? In our area it's astonishingly unlikely that a courier will leave a note to say where a parcel is, and Royal mail usual say "left with a neighbour" (but don't specify which one). I've always dropped off any parcels I've taken in on my next time leaving the house - if for any reason that's likely to be a problem (weight/size or knowing I won't leave the house for a day or so) then I text them soon after taking it in to let them know and they collect it. I'd be really pissed off with a CF neighbour who held my parcel hostage without telling me they'd taken it in for me, or dropping it round!

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If it’s your parcel, then the onus is on you to do the work to get it, by knocking on doors and looking up the tracking yourself. Your neighbours have done you a favour, not been sub contacted by a delivery company to deliver your parcels safely to you.

Xmasisoffsantahascovid · 20/12/2023 12:20

Last December our ndn took in a parcel that came for my dd's birthday.. They went away for a week after taking in the present.. Poor dd. No explanation when they came back..

Sartre · 20/12/2023 12:35

I took one in for my old NDN once and he didn’t like me for some reason so I figured doing him a favour might lift some tension. He didn’t come to collect it so I went over when he I knew he was definitely in. He wouldn’t answer the door, tried again the next day and he wouldn’t answer. Had to give it back to the postie.

Just turn the postie/courier down in future.

Friedfriedplantain · 20/12/2023 12:38

Yeah it's a pain. I would so want to say no but I always find it really hard when delivery person is struggling to get someone to take it, their job is tough.

Snowflakecookie1989 · 20/12/2023 13:20

My neighbour has taken to just putting my flat number on any orders, the cheeky moo 🙄😨

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Blackhairblackheart · 20/12/2023 15:46

The poster who said to stop being passive and take it over, this is my point, i refuse to take it over. Thats what they WANT me to do.

They know its here, both parcels are tracked delivery and postie put a card through their door

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