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CF Neighbours and their BLOODY PARCELS

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Blackhairblackheart · 19/12/2023 19:23

Now i try to be a decent neighbour and take in parcels for people but my neighbours constantly take the piss.

If theyve taken one in for me, as long as its not past 8pm, you nip over and grab it as soon as you can right? Not them. They do not come and get them for days, if at all, until it gets to the point we get cheesed off with moving them around and take them round there ourselves. Theyre home, they just cant be arsed to get them.

I'll add aswell this has been going on for years and i swore off accepting anymore for them and have refused a few times.

But frazzled delivery driver knocked and asked if id take in some for them earlier and i looked at her pickled because theyre home (cars are there and have heard them in there all day) and she said yeah shes sure theyre home but have missed it 5 or 6 times already and would i mind.

I didnt have the heart to tell the postie no, but AIBU to let the dog eat their bloody parcels?

ill be lumbered with moving their parcels around for the next week because i refuse to be their personal postie and take it over there as well as parcel storage because they cant be arsed to open the door, my hallway was full last time and same scenario, both home and just didnt answer the door.

OP posts:
Bearpawk · 20/12/2023 15:53

Why on earth are people taking in huge parcels such as mattresses and wood flooring ?!? Just say no. Use your words.

Anything else if Chuck it on the doorstep and tell them to come get it before it gets nicked. If they ask you to keep it on side day 'not possible; too many other parcels' and fgs do not apologise.

AgnesX · 20/12/2023 15:56

We have absolutely shit neighbours... slamming doors, drum/guitar practice etc etc. DH answers the door and flatly refuses to take their parcels. Since they appear to single handedly prop up ASOS.......

purplecorkheart · 20/12/2023 16:10

You quite possibly have my neighbour. Most of us accept each other parcel and either collect or drop that evening/next day/we have keys to each others house and courier will ring and ask if we can open front door so it can be left in hall if it is massive. The majority of couriers who deliver to our town have worked their routes for years so we all know them and help out if we can.However there is one man is a few houses away from who orders things for his business. He puts neighbours addresses on the parcel, or else the local shop or cafe. The cafe had a parcel of his for 6 weeks. After six weeks they called him out on social media. He went badmouthing them around the town as he did not need item for a while so why would he collect it until he needed it and that they opened the parcel addressed for them (they should have known it was his!). Oh and he had never bought so much as a cup of tea in the coffee shop.

forrestgreen · 20/12/2023 16:22

They'll be Christmas presents and it's easier to hide them at your house rather than theirs.

Up to you whether you answer the door when they knock.

lemmein · 20/12/2023 17:07

I have always WFH so used to get pestered throughout the day with delivery drivers for neighbours so I bought an outside parcel box and ignore the door - they leave mine there but nobody else's, problem solved!

Nonplusultra · 20/12/2023 17:11

I’ve often had deliveries given to neighbours with no notification - how are they supposed to know that you have the parcel?

I send a text or nip round with any parcels left with me. And my neighbours do the same.

It annoys me when my deliveries are left with neighbours because I always leave instructions to put them under the bush where it’s out of sight and dry. And far safer than leaving my parcel with another person and no indication of who has it.

Alphabet1spaghetti2 · 20/12/2023 17:27

@Nonplusultra even if a note isn’t left, all delivery services have an app. You can sign up to them for free. This way you get notified of when your parcel is despatched, en route and delivered with a picture or GPs location. If you order something survey you would be expecting something? And if notified via an app and you don’t have a card then it’s really up to you to locate its whereabouts, starting with asking the courier or neighbours (after first ensuring they haven’t hidden it under a bush, in a coal bunker, bin or amongst your gardening table crap).

Or just get it delivered to a collection point in the first place or get yourself a parcel post box (assuming you have somewhere it could go - we don’t).

TheGhostOfTheOpera · 20/12/2023 17:32

@Alphabet1spaghetti2 thats only working if you know which delivery company they are using.
Not all websites tell you that.

But also, since when is it the customer responsibility t9 track their parcels and they’re where about?
The job of a delivery company is to deliver a parcel. Not to create a hunting game fir tte customer to find said is real because they can just say ‘they’ve delivered’ regardless of where the location is.

TheGhostOfTheOpera · 20/12/2023 17:36

Blackhairblackheart · 20/12/2023 15:46

The poster who said to stop being passive and take it over, this is my point, i refuse to take it over. Thats what they WANT me to do.

They know its here, both parcels are tracked delivery and postie put a card through their door

I’d put it in a corner if tte garage were it isn’t a pain to you (Aka NOT in the entrance!) and wait.
They’ll come if they really want it.

And yes I agree to never take any parcel fur them ever again. I mean they order online, have stuff delivered abd can’t be arsed to answer the door to anyone? Fine. But they can’t expect to receive parcels 🤷‍♀️🤷‍♀️
I mean I get that if you wfh, are in meetings constantly, you might not be able to get to the door. But there is no excuse for not answering to your NDN afterwards. Or have a parcel box.

muddyford · 20/12/2023 17:39

Just tell the courier they don't collect their parcels in a timely fashion and you are no longer taking them in. I've had to do that in the past.

FatherJackHackettsUnderpantsHamper · 20/12/2023 17:45

It's time to get passive-aggressive!

CF Neighbours and their BLOODY PARCELS
Alphabet1spaghetti2 · 20/12/2023 17:50

TheGhostOfTheOpera · 20/12/2023 17:32

@Alphabet1spaghetti2 thats only working if you know which delivery company they are using.
Not all websites tell you that.

But also, since when is it the customer responsibility t9 track their parcels and they’re where about?
The job of a delivery company is to deliver a parcel. Not to create a hunting game fir tte customer to find said is real because they can just say ‘they’ve delivered’ regardless of where the location is.

It works from the courier end though for all parcels delivered to your address. Regardless of the name on the parcel. You don’t need the details to be given to you by the retailer you’ve orders from. Although you can always ask, and I can’t think of any that won’t give you that info if they don’t have it under delivery and returns info.
it is about the only brilliant thing I can think of apps wise. (Yes other apps are good, but this in particular is brilliant).

Tonight1 · 20/12/2023 17:58

@Bearpawk oh...I wouldn't take in mattresses or flooring. I'd go round and tell them they had to pick it up

PlipPlopChoo · 20/12/2023 18:45

Start opening the door an inch or two only.

If the courier asks you to take a neighbours parcel say 'sorry no, in urgent work meeting. Try again they are home'. Then close the door before you get a reply.

Repeat as necessary.

festivetinseling · 20/12/2023 19:04

why not just drop it round next time you're heading out instead?

Because they won't answer their door, which is what has caused the parcel to be left with a neighbour in the first place.

DriftingDora · 20/12/2023 19:08

Honeyglazed · 19/12/2023 19:24

Stick a note on your door that says only parcels for this address

job done

This is a good idea if you have neighbours who abuse it. Most neighbours here are absolutely fine with collecting parcels, but one house in the road just ignored any notes the delivery driver/postie put through the door telling them who had taken the parcel in - they would wait for us to take it round and knock. They did this twice and that was it - never again, stopped taking anything for that house and other neighbours have done the same.

If I wanted to run a storage facility, then I'd charge for the privilege, not do it for free.

Rosecoffeecup · 20/12/2023 19:14

Who are all these people that don't want their parcels?! I find this utterly bizarre, why would you buy something and then not even want it?!

ohtowinthelottery · 20/12/2023 19:15

I arrived home once and NDN knocked on my door not long afterwards. She said she had taken in 'a parcel' for me (English not her 1st language). She handed me the parcel and said she'd go and get the rest! I followed her next door to find that no less than 14 boxes of medical equipment and supplies had been left in her very small hall blocking her downstairs toilet door. We carried them all back to my house with me apologising profusely. Once I safely deposited them in my house my 1st job was to phone the medical supplies company and give them the mother of all bo**ockings! They had not informed me of the delivery date and dumping 14 boxes on a next door neighbour was bang out of order. Thankfully we've always been blessed with lovely neighbours who will take parcels in and deliver them if I haven't collected them within 10 mins of arriving home.

AnxiousPangolin · 21/12/2023 06:23

An old neighbour of mine did end up with four tyres delivered to them. My husband had ordered them and arranged a date when he was home. Unfortunately, the company decided to deliver them two days early with no notice. Fortunately, neighbours didn’t mind!

heartsinvisiblefury · 21/12/2023 06:34

Just don't take in any more parcels for them. Problem solved.

agentcooperinthewhitelodge · 21/12/2023 06:37

heartsinvisiblefury · 21/12/2023 06:34

Just don't take in any more parcels for them. Problem solved.

This. I am a bit baffled why people don't just say no. I used to take parcels in until neighbours took the piss and would come over really really late to collect them (when we were in bed etc) and sometimes they ended up staying in our hall for days on end. So now I just say no. The world has not ended as a result!

Poppy61 · 21/12/2023 07:19

And this is exactly why I no longer answer the front door, unless I am expecting someone, or my own delivery. A neighbour's very long curtain pole was the last straw for me, especially when the delivery driver became shitty with me for refusing to take it in.

ClemmyTine · 21/12/2023 07:24

Why don't you drop a note to them saying that from now on all their parcels will be left in your front garden/yard/area until they collect them. Just pile them all up.

kimchio · 21/12/2023 07:29

Let them sweat till boxing day

Hiddenvoice · 21/12/2023 07:40

I would take them over to the neighbours, if they don’t answer then I’d leave them at their front door and post a note through their door.
If they do answer then I’d say I can’t take anymore parcels for them and just leave it as that.
If someone knocks and asks you to take in parcels then politely say no. If they neighbours don’t answer their door then it’s their problem if the parcels get sent back, I wouldn’t go helping them if they can’t come and collect quickly.

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