The most shocking thing you've read on Mumsnet..

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Just that really.. (Kind of lighthearted/maybe not!)

Just now!!
I've just seen a thread that Canada is offering euthanasia to homeless people!!!!
Now I'm shocked 😮

This is one of the most ridiculous "arguments" i've read today.

Choking is like playing Russian roulette and some of you just don't fucking get it.

20 000 reports of strangulations in the UK in 2022.

https://www.theguardian.com/society/2022/may/29/all-strangulation-of-women-is-serious-and-its-time-for-the-law-to-step-up

Ummm ... did you not read the message from @HebeMumsnet ?

There are others that have shocked me in a more serious way: I’m truly horrified and worried every time people minimise or dismiss the risk of children being sexually abused.

There was a thread a few years ago now, about a male relative- GF or uncle I think- who insisted on sitting on a sofa with her kids, with a blanket over their laps and his hands under the blanket. I think the OP had concerns about this man for other reasons, and he was very rude, and insisted on the blanket.

Some of us, including many like me who were abused or raped as children, urged her to put a stop to it however nasty he got, because it’s not worth the risk of something terrible happening to her kids for the sake of not “upsetting” this man. And there is no reason on earth for him to be so insistent on covering their laps with a blanket and not showing his hands. Yet there were loads of replies telling her not to be suspicious of him - the usual “not all men are predators ffs” and “aww he’s just a loving granddad”.

There was another one where the OP’s mum and stepdad kept wanting “alone time” with her toddler, and dressed her up for photos in clothes they had bought, which the OP described as looking like wedding dresses. The man seemed obsessed with the child, saying she loved him, she looked like him etc. Again there were loads of “aww they’re just being sweet and they love her”, while many of us were pointing out red flags and telling OP it wasn’t worth the risk of this man abusing the child.

It made me realise how naive people are about this, and that a lot of people out there think it doesn’t happen in nice families, is rare, and the warning signs are very obvious. And that because they think this way, what happened to me (rape by a family member when I was very little) will happen to other children, again and again.

Not that it's anyone's business but I agree with your sentiment about that subject, however the more people post the more you get other posters defending and glibly
Announcing Thier sexual preference on a thread that isn't about this subject!

This is something I have noticed as well. Safe guarding in many areas seem to have been "forgotten" for a better word.

When it concerns children it's the most awful I agree.

I don't quite understand how we got here. It's like society suddenly became stupid 15 years ago.

This is my last reply as mumsnet has told you to drop it but...

If Sarah likes getting choked it is in NO WAY a risk to you dying.

If you get in a car you can be killed by another persons actions.

Its MORE relevant to the concept of YOUR risk, your random rants (and inability to correctly understand information in reports) aren't relevant.

I went to university to get a degree where a key component was reading and understanding medical information and scientific reports. It seems you have no had that same training but my god you cannot believe that you don't understand the concept can you.

Those with the least understanding shout the loudest they say.

There was a very sad documentary about this on Al Jazeera recently. A woman with MH issues had an assisted death. She also had leukemia but had to hide that as the MH issues was a criteria but the leukaemia wasn't so they wouldn't have allowed her to do it had they have know. It's beyond belief.

Really @istoodonlegoagain ! That's awful 😞

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I saw a discussion on here about the horrendously tragic case of the Belgian woman who had been offered multiple 'sex change' operations which went very wrong, which left her in such a state that, as a direct result, she sought - and was granted - voluntary euthanasia at the age of 44.

I read a few months ago that a poster washed her tea bag canister / storage jar thing EVERY DAY when clearing up after dinner. Mind blown.

Mumsnet has shocked me constantly with the replies / posters who feel the need to police the chats and insist on speaking for all women / defending all women. The aggression to posters who have a different opinion is hilarious sometimes.

Stories and threads I have found shocking:

Everything about ducks being rapists and their actual penis'

Mexican holiday home

The couple having sex in the hedge

The ghost stories

In a more serious note- i am glad to have been educated in other peoples lives, and have been genuinely horrified about the lack of support and help for people with special needs and physical disabilities.

I think this might be my Foster Son. He is doing really well. We are very proud of him. He's happy at his college and happy with his life in general. He has his issues to deal with but has had intensive therapy and he's come to terms with his limitations as much as he can do because he knows he can't change the past but can shape his own future.

The number of people who can't post without including the word "fuck" and variants thereof like "clusterfuck" (whatever that is) and "WTAF" etc

Yes I have been or am all of these! A single parent (when ex was ill) , disabled (following major cancer surgery) was on benefit( when sick pay ran out) and am over 50! I guess to those people I must be the lowest of the low

I haven’t read the whole thread so apologies if it’s been posted but it was the “penis dip glass of water at the side of the bed”
I still think of that to this day, was literally 10 years ago if not more!!

The post where a woman said she traipsed upstairs with a bucket of used washing up water to throw down the toilet once a day instead of flushing 'to save water'.

A recent one where I learned that black people always moisturise their whole body daily after showering. That has still blown my mind.

I'm in the US. What amazes me is the number of UK posters who state they do not drive. These are fully grown adults who do not have the capacity to take themselves from one place to another in an automobile.

@Snowdogsmitten couldn't agree more!

It is different than the US though because public transport is widely used by everyone whereas in the US I think its used (excluding the subway) mainly by the poor?

Also many people drive manual cars rather than automatic and kids in the US are taught driving education in school? That doesn't happen here yet (AFAIK) and I think the driving test is more difficult here? I may be wrong as I've gathered that assumption by the US driving licence holders have to pass the test here before they can drive anything other than a short term hire car (which makes no sense whatsoever!) while our licences are acceptable in the US?

It's really expensive to learn to drive and run a car in the UK, plus hard to pass the test. We used to have a great reliable public transport network which is sadly now not the same.
We didn't have a car growing up and genuinely it was a minor inconvenience at best.

@HarryOHayandBettyOBarley I’m so white I’m virtually pale blue and I moisturise all over daily!! I didn’t think that was unusual at all.

@OhcantthInkofaname don't forget the UK is much smaller too so there are shorter distances between places. I've not been the US but I understand if you can't drive, you're stuck - in the UK, it's normal to take public transport, cycle or walk.