The most shocking thing you've read on Mumsnet..

[PricklyPear1234]

Just that really.. (Kind of lighthearted/maybe not!)

It would not suprise me if all the men who use "it was part of sex" as an excuse to strangle their girlfriend to death had murder on their minds the whole time

That's the whole point of what we're saying.

Really? I guess I missed that among all the posters saying anyone who likes a little choking is a sick fuck married to a wannabe murderer

What would be the word if someone now posted they liked to be choked whilst eating American cheese, thus becoming the worst thing you've read on MN?

I think some people might be waking up to the fact their partner doesn't care if they kill them, yes.
Any man that agrees instead of being shocked is not a keeper.

The proposed law is quite similar to dv law. It is no longer considered ok for abused women to say they want to drop charges, if it is a crime cps can prosecute anyway.
In much the same way, like marital rape before it and dv laws now, this new law will make it clear noone can consent to this and choking is not ever able to be consented to.
Thank goodness.

I remember this thread too, it was heartbreaking. The child was a baby if I recall correctly and she documented when the baby left their care. Wonderful and heartbreaking all in one thread.

Edited to say this was in response to @ShortMotherfuckerWithTheIvoryHair

Noooo!

This one. Just getting the hang of quotes!

Sex behind a curtain on Maternity ward with 3 other ladies in the room all being induced.

I actually do use my dishwasher to clean pet stuff too but I use it pretty much exclusively just for that (and on the rare occasions I use it for kitchen items, I run an empty cycle with dishwasher cleaner first).

I often think of the thread about pebbles being taken from the beach. The discussion got so heated. Only on MN 😆

seriously some beautiful uplifting stories others terribly sad ones have stayed with me one and o think of a number of posters and their families/the people they were discussing. One thread in particular about how things we remembered from our childhood that we couldn’t make sense of until we were well into adulthood was absolutely harrowing

It wasn't - a couple of us posted earlier today that the death notice was easily found via Google. She was disbelieved because the way she reacted to and spoke about her terminal illness wasn't the way people imagined they would react and speak in the same circumstance. Some really awful stuff was posted about her and her husband on Tattle and Reddit, even though it was established very early on that these were real people - she didn't hide her identity and was quickly found on FB and Twitter. It was awful.

Perhaps it's because she posted a photo with her family about a 5 minute walk from my house that it got under my skin.

"That a poster said they share a small portion of fish and chips between a family of four as 'that's plenty' along with a massive salad. I think of them every time I go to the chippy and tuck into my dinner 😱😂"

I can relate to the poster. A few years ago I was in Margate for the weekend and got fish and chips at the local chippy. It was the smallest portion and the chips could easily have fed a family of four...

There was a thread where a woman had two or three sons, all conceived via IVF, and was now unexpectedly pregnant again - this time with a girl. She said the only reason she was even considering keeping the baby was that she'd always wanted a daughter, and that she would have aborted without question if the baby had been another son. That was disturbing enough as it was, but to top it off, one poster said it was "a bit sad" that she'd had IVF in the first place instead of just having her "miracle girl". Outright saying it was a shame that the OP's sons existed. And the OP didn't even object to this!

There was a poster who not only had suicidal thoughts but thoughts about also killing her own children. Chilling to read. I hope things turned out ok in the end.

*Waves hello to the man on the thread

risk assessment for stopping oxygen getting to the brain

right …. 🙄

@Anothenamechange thank you.

Not all food poisoning bacteria make the food smell.
People get confused between food spoilage- caused by bacteria or fungi that make the food go “off” but are often not dangerous- and contamination by food poisoning organisms. Your food can be contaminated by food poisoning organisms but not visibly spoiled and not smelly.

As far as I can see, what’s been said about the law on strangulation during sex is quite wrong. It’s not outlawed at all. And there has never been a ‘choking’ or ‘rough sex’ defence to murder or any other charge. It’s an issue of fact, not law.

The legal change appears to be codification of R v Brown, i.e. no one can consent to physical harm without very good reason, and sexual thrill is not a good reason. But that is about harm, not practice.

I don’t much care TBH - because it’s not something I have done or would ever do - but I do think legal folklore should be stamped on.

We cook food to eliminate the risk of contamination by food poisoning organisms, and contamination doesn't magically happen when food gets to its best by date. Food can be totally in date and contaminated.

Isn't there something called 'vagal inhibition'?

Yep:

https://www.cps.gov.uk/legal-guidance/non-fatal-strangulation-or-non-fatal-suffocation

Strangulation / choking / suffocation / whatever during sex isn’t illegal. Doing so while intending to cause harm OR being reckless about causing harm is illegal.

It’s a pretty weird looking law, to me, not a criminal expert. But yeah, bottom line is that the consent of the victim (alleged or otherwise) isn’t a defence against ABH or above, unless there are “special circumstances” which I guess will come out in case law.

sorry to prolong the derail…

I remember a thread where a woman posted that very shortly after giving birth that she was so overcome with love for her DH that she gave him a blowjob from her hospital bed. It didn't go well. I'm pretty sure it was a troll.

For a week! And you could make soup with the newspaper! ;)