The most shocking thing you've read on Mumsnet..

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Just that really.. (Kind of lighthearted/maybe not!)

What's the most shocking thing you've read then?

Hoe can you be do uninformed? Many men have walked away from murder charges using this defence. It is currently a legally allowed defence. Because of people like you who pretend it's OK.

A horse who was operated on and had part of his tongue amputated because he stuck it out during dressage competitions. This means that the horse/rider could not achieve many marks as it would had it not had its tongue poking out. It made me sick.

I always sigh deeply at the number of posts from women who mention that they were drunk when they did / said or experienced something which had upsetting repercussions for them. Getting drunk may sound fun, but it can put you in a vulnerable position. It can also disinhibit you so you say or do something unkind or inappropriate. I drink. I like drinking. But drinking so much that I don't know what I'm doing? No.

They’re known as “shit tickets” round these parts.

"Now after 15+ years married and dishing up meals evenly between us, 6'3" DH has maintained a healthy weight and at 5'6" I am carrying an extra stone "

Come on. You must have known he needed more food than you. Men generally do need more food than women and it's not sexist to say that. Even if the woman is tall and active, men have more muscle mass.

Lots of WTF moments on here.

I am regularly shocked by people who do not read the entire thread, make massive assumptions on what they have half read and are very abusive to the OP and usually on threads where the OP is being abused at home.

Umm, what do you think is physiologically protective about “consent”?

Consent is an abstract concept that takes place in thought/voice, but the physical body (hands/throat/carotid/jugular) does not know that consent has been given, consent does not lessen the risk of harm.

I remember another woman with young children who posted that her husband had left her. She was absolutely devastated, MNetters supported her day and night for about a week when she was in extreme shock, profoundly distressed, stopped eating, kept fainting etc. Around day 10 she posted to say she had found a new boyfriend and had moved him in with her and her pre-school children. People on the thread were shocked, queried her behaviour and questioned whether she was a troll. From what I can recall she was a genuine poster and was appalled at MNetters 'judgements' as she had thought they were nice people when they were supporting her. She dismissed them as nasty people who just didn't want her to have a happy new life. Some people really are bonkers.

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The threads where posters tell the OP to house random homeless men in their sheds, feed and clothe them are always shocking.

This.
…. and still claim the guy is a wonderful husband and a marvellous dad.

I look at the relationship threads and my mind boggles. The awful nature of the psychology of domestic abuse.

I think people who post that sort of thing generally had very sheltered middle-class upbringings. Same with people who respond to threads about aggressive/threatening neighbours with "Why don't you invite the mum round for a cup of tea and ask her how she's doing?"

When so many men have used the 'rough sex defence' that a campaign had to be organised to put a stop to it, it should be our concern.

The thread where the husband was apparently on a golfing holiday with friends in France ( l think) but wife could tell from his phone that he wasn't where he said he was, l think she had checked with the hotel, and people on MN were telling her how to catch him out, never found out the ending.

Was this the one where he was flying back into Bristol airport? I think it might have been fake was so invested in that.

As others have said, Pamela was definitely real. NI is a small place and I’ve read her death notice. Thinking of her son and husband 😢

Is there anything more dreary than people who want to share their "kinks", unasked? Possibly, I guess.

Crack on, @wispadelight. Couldn't give a shit, I'd just prefer that anyone involved knows the medical assessment of risk. Not just your woolly 'it's all good as long as you don't involve the dog' crap.

Oh god, between this and the stoma stuff I am really regretting getting on this thread! I do wonder if now, with more recognition of coercive control, the outcome might be different. I mean, marital rape was legal until the 90s wasn't it?

I love the arse wiping, sit down /stand up debate. I genuinely find it fascinating. I didn’t know there were people who stood up to wipe their backside until a few years ago. It was like discovering a new secret society or something. 🤣

One of the most shocking things about MN is how poor some people's grasp of sex education is! There are threads from people who have sex without contraception and can't understand how they got pregnant - quite often, they mention that they're in their thirties. It's the sort of thing I would have expected from teenagers in Alabama who've only had abstinence-only education.

So many sad posters. But one stuck out. A woman whose stomach blew up she had all the symptoms of ovarian cancer. But the GP fobbed her off. Eventually she was referred it was too late, it was cancer terminal.

Fair enough men need more food in terms of calories but when it comes to treat food they aren't getting more than the women at the table from me. They can fill up on potatoes and things like that but they're not getting double portions of dessert and special foods unless and until the women have had their fill!

I think the stoma thing has surpassed anything I have read on here or am likely to. That poor woman - what a sick bastard!

That said - the cleaning threads are insane.. I think it was here I read someone gave her routine including washing carpets/duvets/curtains/blinds and walls ridiculously often.

One that also sticks was Birdy Friend...didn't he predict the pandemic?

1993 - same year as this case in which five men were criminalised for consensual sexual acts…

I hadn’t thought of Wilson in terms of coercive control. The case was referred to the police by the doctor (I think it got infected?), the wife was against the case proceeding and didn’t give evidence. But you’re right that this doesn’t necessarily mean she wasn’t being abused. It was taught to me in law school in the light of her having enthusiastically consented.

It’s an interesting area - public interest and morality and sexual acts, oh my. And it has the most batshit case law.

@Gwenhwyfar you evidently haven't seen the penis portion outrage threads on here over the years... For a long time I thought the fact that DH did no exercise and I did would mean we could eat the same portions, but I was wrong so I now serve penis portions too.