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Don't know how to deal with this. Ds scamming people online

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1newname · 18/12/2023 20:58

Back story is we've stopped giving him money due to many ultimatums regarding weed. Last week he was showing off about how he's managed to find a way to make money. I knew it would be something dodgy and he had sold something online which he doesn't have to sell. I told him how disgusted I was, how he's behaving like a scumbag etc. Initially he didn't care but then said he knew it was wrong and wouldn't do it again. And now he has.

I'm so disappointed. I'm embarrassed with how he's turning out. He doesn't seem to have any morals. Every wrong thing a teen can do, he's done. Graffiti, shop lifting, excessive weed smoking and now this. I give up.

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Daisybuttercup12345 · 20/12/2023 00:14

Falalalalaa · 18/12/2023 21:25

Removal of wifi except for homework
Remove his phone if you pay for it, if he won’t hand it over call the provider and put a block on it.
If this was his first rodeo at being a twat and he was remorseful I would say don’t call the police, but it isn’t and he’s not. What he has done is disgusting and I feel so sorry for the people he’s scammed - this close to Christmas it could be that they thought they were purchasing gifts, people are struggling enough at the moment and he’s taken their money to buy weed? Yeah I’d be calling the police.

You have a vile teenager and he’ll turn into a vile adult before long if someone doesn’t come down on him like a tonne of bricks.

This.

Namenumber3 · 20/12/2023 08:00

People saying the Op is being ineffective are missing the point. She can’t make him do anything. He’s 17 and a young strong man. The damage in effect has been done.

He needs a new circle of friends and possibly to move out. Some sort of residential job would be good with a bit of responsibility, preferably abroad. What does he want to do with his life, his aspirations. He’s choosing the easy way. Smoking weed is easy fun, scamming is easy money. Why has he not become the sort of person that values effort.

newmum0604 · 20/12/2023 09:25

You need to pay the people he has scammed back and tell him if he does it again you will report him yourself. And mean it

Brefugee · 20/12/2023 09:26

Namenumber3 · 20/12/2023 08:00

People saying the Op is being ineffective are missing the point. She can’t make him do anything. He’s 17 and a young strong man. The damage in effect has been done.

He needs a new circle of friends and possibly to move out. Some sort of residential job would be good with a bit of responsibility, preferably abroad. What does he want to do with his life, his aspirations. He’s choosing the easy way. Smoking weed is easy fun, scamming is easy money. Why has he not become the sort of person that values effort.

She is ineffective and therefore needs to involve the police

QueenBitch666 · 20/12/2023 15:10

Police. Your son is a criminal

MimiSunshine · 20/12/2023 17:00

as hard as it is, I think you do need to report him to the police now while he’s a legal child. He’ll hopefully get the scare of his life but not feel the full force of an adult conviction.

which if he carries on, he will end up with serious convictions as he clearly doesn’t seem the harm in what he’s doing now or thinks the risks are low, you’re already backing that up by not reporting him, he’ll just buy new stuff himself if you confiscate it.

Namenumber3 · 21/12/2023 06:44

Brefugee · 20/12/2023 09:26

She is ineffective and therefore needs to involve the police

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She could. My experience of young people is that being held by “the Feds” does nothing beyond enhance their reputation. It certainly didn’t stop them repeating criminal behaviour even when kept at the station overnight.

Lateliein · 21/12/2023 07:09

Report to police.

Lack of consequences= lack of change

Brefugee · 21/12/2023 11:10

Namenumber3 · 21/12/2023 06:44

She could. My experience of young people is that being held by “the Feds” does nothing beyond enhance their reputation. It certainly didn’t stop them repeating criminal behaviour even when kept at the station overnight.

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It makes her complicit. OP, by not involving the police us saying a) it's OK to do it and b) yes, I'm OK with it being done. In my home, by my son.

That makes her look like an accomplice. Which she is. And t'es, I am judging

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