As a 41 yo woman, would you date a 62 yo man ?

[Thekormachameleon]

He's good looking, financially comfortable, works full time, funny, fit and healthy

But it just seems such a huge age gap

100% no.

At 41, my dad would have been 61. I'm 50 now and would definitely not want to be with someone my dad's age, gosh. NO NO NO.

@Fivepigeons I don’t think it’s losing them early that’s the main concern for my friends, they accepted that reality long ago. It’s how different the next decades will be for them compared with their peers.

My DH is 51, I’m 49 and we have so many plans for our 50’s and 60’s, whereas my friend with the 71-year-old DH feels more constrained, because he’s slowing down (he’s still fit for his age but two decades make a big difference).

Ultimately who knows, any of us could suddenly lose our health. But I personally wouldn’t get serious with an older man now. 🤷

I'm 62 this week and this thread is bloody depressing!! All my mates are 39 to 44 and I hope they don't see me as you seem to see guys of that age

Well they're your friends - massive difference. I don't expect my friends to want to have sex with me and move in with me and look after me in my dotage.

I'm 49 and I can say with confidence that I don't expect people in their 20s to want to date me.

In my 20s I'd have considered 49 well within range

I do wonder why someone would not have any friends of their own age.

Ew! Daddy issues🤔

My celeb crushes all seem to be about 15-20 years my senior 🤣 but look younger (I think anyway)

I would if he was the one and I didn't want kids/more kids, my dad is not going to reach his 52nd birthday so there's no guarantee that getting with someone your own age will mean more time together. But I wouldn't have a child with someone much other than me

What a ridiculous comment. I had a fantastic relationship with a 52 year old man when I was 25 and we are still very good friends 25 years later. He's a great guy. 'Daddy issues' sounds like something an immature 14 year old would say.

Unusual to say the least. Celebrities aside, I don't know of anyone in their 20s who would be interested in men this age.

It's usually what the MRAs say on other threads, a case of wishful thinking than reality. Thankfully we haven't had the usual influx here.

If I really liked him, I would. But I have a 13 year age gap with my husband, he the older, and thoughts that we might not get much of a retirement together are depressing - a 21 year gap would magnify that.

I believe, within reason, the right person is the right person but I also believe there is nothing wrong with 'settling' with Mr Good Enough if Mr Absolutely Right doesn't make an appearance. If someone with a 21 year gap was Mr Absolutely Right then I would accept it, but for the reason stated above I wouldn't settle for Mr Good Enough with that large an age gap.

That's really creepy

Yeah it's definitely them, they come on threads to be deliberately inflammatory or to package their vile opinions as truthful by pretending to be women. Very transparent and pathetic.

🙄 No it isn't. Why would it be?

Nope, it's that you meet someone outside work/not in a power relation, in real life,not on a dating site, and can see they are mature but don't know their exact age, or don't care because you have met them in a situation where you already have something in common. It's incredibly usual, and even more so for people in queer communities.

If you want to, yes.

This has been really interesting thank you for your opinions

I'm not looking for anything serious, I'm definitely not wanting to settle down and remarry so I'm not massively concerned about how he'll be 20 years from now

But, we do get on, have a lot in common and shared interests and he is fit and good looking so I've agreed to the date - if nothing else, a companion for meals and days out 😊

How come all your friends are roughly twenty years younger? If you get to have friends 20 years younger then it seems fair to conclude that you're not drawn to older people yourself (platonic or romantic) so you can hardly judge the general consensus on this thread? My closest friends are all within five years of my age either side.

I'm in fact going to see a friend on Friday whose husband is 20 years younger and I had no idea for a long time that the gap was that much. They're both a bit wrinkly and seem happy and like the same holidays and TV shows.

@Thekormachameleon fair enough but don't let it become a habit! Cos then it's hard to end it.

I remember on a 5th or so date with an older man he poured me a glass of wine in an expensive restaurant, and broke this news to me ''I'm never getting married again''. I replied ''well not to me you're certainly not!''. He didn't think that his being 14 years older would turn me off him as a long term prospect!

He was put out by my answer. So do not let it drift in to a habit. Give it a year (you're so young) and then go and walk the camino or something, to give it a natural break.

No. No. No. No.

If you’re there for a good time not a long time then go for it!

Wow, there is so much ageism in these answers.

Good on you! Have fun.

No way, I'm 37, my dad is about to be 60, way too big an age gap for me personally.