As a 41 yo woman, would you date a 62 yo man ?

[Thekormachameleon]

He's good looking, financially comfortable, works full time, funny, fit and healthy

But it just seems such a huge age gap

Yes this is my concern too - I also believe it reinforces their entitlement and encourages them to ignore women their own age.
I’m late 30s and don’t even date above age 45. It would be an exceptional circumstance in which I deviated massively from that age limit.

So very judgemental!! If you are attracted to each other, and you have a good rapport, and you really want to be with each other, why not? Don't listen to all the negative nellies.

My parents met on a blind date when my mum was very young, and they had an 18 year age gap. They had the happiest marriage of over 40 years, and they actually adored each other. We kids grew up in the expectation that daddy would be gone long before mum, and we would have to deal with that.

As it turned out, my dad died suddenly 9 days after mum was diagnosed with cancer, and she died 5 months after him.

So, you never know. Take a chance on love!

Any more than 10 years is a no for
me.
my late dh was 7 years older than me, he died from cancer aged 50. Even the 7 year age gap was apparent, not physically, as he was far more active and fitter than I was (until he wasn’t, the cancer was a massive shock) but mentally. He although lovely was very much stuck in his ways and old fashioned at times.

Well my dad was nothing like that! He was a very present father taking us out on rambles and turning cartwheels in the garden, riding a bike until he was nearly 80. In every way, he was ahead of his time.

I’m 52 and that’s pushing it for me. But I’ve never been into big age gap relationships. I did have a crush on a mid 40s guy when I was mid 20s. But I would’ve never pursued anything with him.

Most single (or not) men in their 60s are after and feel entitled to a woman 20 (or 40) years younger than them. This leaves single women in their 60s mostly being pursued (if that) by men in their 80s.... as the men in their 70s mostly feel entitled to women 20 (or 40) years younger than them.

The fact he is interested in you - coincidentally much younger - rather than a woman of much the same age as him says something.

Crap!! My mum was so much younger than my dad. The minister who married them asked dad why such a good-looking man (and he was!) hadn't already been married and my dad (who was the antithesis of romantic!!) said, he had never met the right woman before!

Hopefully at least 25 years!

But life's a bit of a lottery isn't it? None of us knows (unless we've already had a terminal diagnosis) when our number will come up. It could happen to anyone at any time, but sadly it becomes far more likely the older we are.

That's nice. I was just referring in general to the behaviour of men on dating sites, as reported by older women.

I'm 45 and dh is 66, been together 25 years. I agree with a PP who said 60 odd tipping into old age quickly, dh turned into your stereotypical grandpa overnight after retirement!😄

Personally I wouldn’t go beyond casual dating with that age gap.

I’m 49 and two of my friends (in their 50’s) have much older husbands-one 20, the other 16 years older. The 60’s have been tricky for them, as the age gaps have become increasingly obvious. Both men are now 70/71 and I know ppl don’t want to admit it, but the difference in life stages between a 51 and 71-year-old is huge. I wouldn’t get into anything serious with him.

No

No !

For what is worth, my mum is 8 years younger than my dad and you'd think he was younger than her. I think it's very much on the fitness and health of the person

Well it entirely depends on the context! I wouldn't solely discount someone due to that age gap no.
If I really liked them and they improved my life I'd just go for it.
My dad dropped dead out of the blue at 64... my DHs dad is still going strong at 85 despite being a drunk...
You can't predict the future so if he makes you happy and you really like him just go for it. Tragedy can strike anyone. You might die before him.. who knows.
I'm in an age gap relationship... not quite as big of a gap.. and I do occasionally worry about maybe spending my last year's alone but I absolutely wouldn't take any of it back
We've been married 11 wonderful years. I'll miss him when he's gone if he hoes long before me... but it's a small price to pay for this love imo

I know a woman, who had a similar age gap to this with her now deceased dh. She loved him dearly and wouldn’t change things for anything. She was also younger than you when they got together and he was never in spectacular health so she knew what she was signing up for.

I note that you are the one not in great health. I am not either. If he is a good man and likes you, warts and all, I would say go for it if your really like him. The future will be what it will be.

Hell no. If it lasted you could be looking at a future as his carer, regardless of you being the one with current medical issues.

I'm 41 and my answer is hell no!

Only it was for a bit of short term fun and l was confident that he was sexually and physically enabled.

But you have to think of the longer term.

Nope

I'm 42 and no I wouldn't. My dh is ten years older than me and whilst I don't notice the age gap at all I sometimes wish he was younger so that he will
be around longer. Twenty years is far too big a gap I think

Tbf men can start balding in their 20s so that doesn't put me off, what's far far worse are hair implants or botoxed and filled men (Simon Cowell anyone?).

No, give me a fit looking baldy over one of those any day.

I will be honest- I'm 61 and my H 59- my observation of my H and his friends do an awful lot of reminiscing and cultural reminiscing - which is easier for me as I have the same references- a woman of say 39 simply doesn't have those same points of reference. I think after the first few years it might get very tedious .

No way! I’m only 6years younger than my DH but sometimes I notice even that!

Hell no.